You have to hate Jealousy

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Today I want to talk to you about the importance of being content with what you have and how you can use it effectively. Most times in our society today, we strive reach a certain level of success to make us ‘look’ successful, for example, the clothes we wear that we cannot afford, the cars we buy to impress people, the group we surround ourselves in to feel a part of something. Some of us today are so eager to make money for our own benefit and for the praises of man. On the other hand, there are some who don’t have it all but know how to manage the little they have because they know what it feels to not have anything. It can be easy to hate on someone for having it all, but why waste your time doing that?

Sometimes I wonder why those who have the least do the most with what they have, and those who have the most demand more. It’s quite ironic! Aside this, I want to shift your focus on the word ‘jealousy’ and its definition. From several experiences some of us have encountered, we know what human jealousy is; Jealousy is commonly understood as “resentment against a person for having or enjoying what we think should be our own”. When we build this type of mindset, it encourages bitterness and anger towards someone. When jealousy tries to kick in, I remind myself of the fact that I’ll never know what my neighbor had to go through to get what they have.

I remember a dear friend of mine kept telling me that; “until you understand my pain, you would never understand my praise”. It is a powerful statement because a lot of us today underestimate ones pain, thinking they are having the time of their lives, but secretly they are tired of pretending and just want someone to be there for them. Have you ever felt like that? Some are afraid to reveal their pain to others for fear they would discuss the issues with other people. This should not be so, because God takes it very personal in the way we treat each other.

You have a friend that could be jealous of the way God keeps blessing them, and you are wondering why nothing is happening to you. Instead of being angry at God and jealous of your friend, go into your secret place and SEEK HIM DILIGENTLY. Anything you ask for shall be granted in His Name AND according to His Will. I do not know anyone that has received everything they wanted without struggle and when it was convenient for them. Only God knows how to bless each of us in His own time, but being jealous of someone else’s blessings can delay your own because your mind should not be focused on the blessing of your neighbor, instead we should be expectant knowing that God has already done it.

Let us look at the story of Hannah and Penninah in 1 Samuel chapter 1 (study the whole chapter in your own time). Hannah was barren and could not give birth, however Penninah was able to conceive. Penninah took advantage of Hannah’s situation, but guess what Hannah done? She went into her secret place and prayed to God to answer her prayer. From a human perspective, Hannah could have retaliated and questioned Penninah’s bitterness against her, but instead she was mature enough to ignore the criticism to seek God. I know it was not easy for Hannah at all, but one thing that occurred to me as I was studying 1 Samuel is that Hannah’s husband Elkenah loved Hannah regardless of her condition. I know some men would have run away from it, but instead he stood by her side, and to me that shows humility.

I know it would not be easy for some of us, but those who are Spiritually Mature would have handled the situation Hannah’s way, and for this reason she was able to give birth to Samuel because of her humility and consistent prayer. Sometimes, when you sense jealousy trying to attack you or get the best of you, the best way to handle it is through prayer and confession. You cannot deal with it in your flesh because fighting on your own will only lead to defeat. Even when people try to make you look small, do not give in; instead find your secret place and pour your heart out to Him. This is a brief message for us all to remind ourselves that no matter our situation, we have every right to be content with what we have and use it to glorify God.

This year is nearly over! I would not want any of you entering in 2016 with a bitter heart towards anyone. Whether your friend got a better job that you, celebrate with her because one day when God blesses you, you would want people to celebrate. Remember how you treat people is a high concern in the eyes of God. He does not want us to live miserable lives, but to enjoy every minute we have on this earth, and learn to keep seeking God for your own blessings. He will grant anything you ask for if you just humble yourself. Remember we all have 24 hours in a day so use your time wisely!

Love who you are ladies! You are so uniquely special!






A person who does not forgive hates their own self!


As human beings, we tend to look at others and their faults, not realizing that we too are aren’t perfect. It can seem as if everyone puts the blame on you but they never see that they too have hurt others. It is where we must choose to let go and forgive or keep the grudge in our hearts and create bitterness. Our lives as women of God should be pleasure, pure and meek. There should never be a time in our lives where we hold grudges on people for a length of time because it does not change the way people act towards you. You have to choose to forgive those who have hurt you because you are not perfect yourself.

Jesus did not have to die for us but He chose to do so. We are worthless, and He is worthy, and because of His blood we are covered in Him. When I reflect back on those who have hurt me, my flesh at times wants to retaliate, however when I think about the beatings and wounds they placed on Jesus, for Him to go through the pain for you and I should take away our pride and forgive. There is a reason why God gave us two ears and one mouth; so that we can listen more and talk less. When a friend has offended you, listen to the person. Not everyone around you desires to hurt you intentionally. Some on the other hand have been through secret painful moments that all they can do is pass the hurt onto you. We have all been there when something or someone has hurt us, and instead of solving the problem with a friend, we take it out on them.

People like this do not have love in their hearts because someone who loves would not emotionally strain a friend but would want their support. Why is it today that we find it so hard to forgive? Don’t you know that forgiveness opens so many doors to your blessings? Even though you may be prospering physically, spiritually you are weak because you chose not to forgive. Forgiveness is a hard topic for some of us to digest; at times it becomes underestimated and abused, because we say we forgive with our mouths, but our hearts are far away from it. When you hear your friend talking about the person that hurt you, all of a sudden your mind becomes stiff and hard to operate because you have chosen to open up the wound of what your friend did to you in the past. Darling, you are not living in the pas, you are living in the NOW! Don’t allow your past to dictate your present situation, else you’ll think you’re moving forward, but really you are going two steps backwards.


Lets take a look at what the Bible says about the power of forgiveness:

  1. Mark 11:25 – “And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses”.
  2. Matthew 6:15 – “But if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses”.
  3. Matthew 18:22-22 – “Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy times seven”.
  4. James 5:16 – “Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working”.
  5. Luke 17:3-4 – “Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him, and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him”.

Remember a person who does not forgive hates their own self! When you love yourself, you will find it easy to forgive. When you want God to open a door for you, you will have no choice but to let go. Delayed blessings may hurt for a while, but you must have at the back of your mind that if you choose not to forgive, don’t expect an extraordinary blessing. Even when you can’t forgive yourself, you will find it hard to progress in life. I personally found it hard to forgive myself when I was a teenager. I didn’t realise that regardless of what I did, God still loved me, but at that time I wasn’t spiritually strong. Until I continued to take my personal journey with God, that is when I realised that when I was unfaithful, He is STILL FAITHFUL!


Forgiving other people is a strength. It is only a fool that keeps bitterness in their hearts. What makes you enjoy life without forgiveness? Impossible! It won’t work because you’ll keep dwelling on the problem rather than finding a solution. When you think about a struggle for so long, it will drain you mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. Your social life will deteriorate and you will start to close your heart and become bitter. Stop memorizing what people have done to you, and remind yourself daily that you are forgiven by Christ! It does not matter what you have done or what someone has done to you. What makes you a bigger person is choosing to forgive. We all want God to open doors for us right? How can this by done? By listening and obeying the Word of God. Remember Luke 17:3-4 talks about how you must rebuke your neighbor if he/she sins against you and if he/she changes, you must forgive. No matter the amount of times someone has hurt you, choose to let go because no matter what happens, you will be worse off than the offender.

If God had not included forgiveness in His plan for humanity, none of us would enjoy life renewed with Him in heaven. Without forgiveness there would be no hope at all.

Because of God’s nature, He forgives on a daily basis. If there were no forgiveness at all, we will live a miserable life. You will start hating yourself the more, start breaking things in the house, until you COME BACK TO YOUR SELF and realise everything you have broken has to be replaced. Your anger does not have to involve breaking the house down, whether psychically or verbally to your siblings and parents, but can be solved through genuine prayer through seeking God. If God can forgive us of our sins, why can’t we too forgive others? Remember that forgiveness is not for the weak. Being able to forgive those who have wronged you is a mark of spiritual strength and confidence. When you forgive, you grow, your heart begins to heal, your back straightens up, your eyes clear so that you can see clear, so that you can see the road ahead. Anger is a spiritual sickness; but when you forgive you live. 

When I think about the Cross, my heart tightens because of the sacrifice Christ made for You and I. Even when the chief officers were accusing and spitting on Him, Christ did not retaliate but instead He said “Father forgive them for they don’t know what they are doing (Luke 23:24). Could you pray for your enemies like that? Even if one was to spit on you, could you humble yourself enough to not retaliate but just pray? It was not easy for Jesus and certainly it won’t always be easy for us, but because of the love that God has for Christ and ourselves, He will give us the strength and GRACE to forgive!

For those who may not be Christians or are new to the Faith, it won’t always be easy to forgive or receive forgiveness. 1 John 1:9 says; “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness”.  It really is that simple! This is not just a confession though.  We all have confessed words in our lives that we didn’t feel regret for. This type of confession described here is a confession of heart-felt shame from what we have done and that is what brings humility and meekness. This is a confession of remorse for what has taken place. This remorse goes hand-in-hand with repentance because when you cry out to God for His forgiveness of your sins, you must not forget about your repentant heart; a repentant heart is a healthy heart. Without it, you will fall right back into the same sin.


Sisters, choose today to forgive all who have hurt you. Remember no one knows tomorrow, but because God lives we CAN face tomorrow. Every word that is uttered from your lips is being recorded by God in Heaven, so choose what you say wisely to your fellow brothers and sisters. Do not allow your anger to control you but be an example of Christ on earth. You want to be rewarded for the good things you have done on earth. God is not someone who will hold your guilt against you; it is you that is holding it against you. Without forgiveness, nothing in your life will satisfy you. You can eat as much as you like, drink as much as you like, party as much as you like, but without forgiveness, you are living a life without oxygen!

To conclude ladies, enjoy the life that God granted you and choose to let go and forgive. Forgiveness is a strength not a weakness! Never bring up a past fault of what someone did, especially when they are very apologetic. Put yourself in other people’s shoes and see how you treat them, for how you treat people will determine how God will bless you.

Remember, forgiveness warms the heart and cools the sting!

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The hard YES!


In this increasing world, life is getting more difficult. Friends turning into enemy’s, spiritual life all over the place, all sorts of health and suicidal sufferings in different parts of the world, hearts growing cold; nothing is being done! Why is this so? Could it be that we are not taking the time to fully surrender our problems to God? Why do we find it so easy telling friends who are just as broken as we are, to give sound advice? Because these days, you have to be very careful of who you open up to. Not everyone who is placed in your life will offer you Godly advice.

I struggled so much with surrendering my problems to God. I would always think in my heart that if I didn’t work towards my aspirations, nothing would have been done, and we all know that time does not wait for anybody! But this month, I have decided to say YES to God and NO to my decisions. I am very happy to know that God has everything sorted out, even when it does not look like it in the natural. You see, God is a Spirit, and those who worship must worship Him in Spirit and in Truth. When we give God a YES, we are saying that His will must be accomplished in our lives, and that we don’t have any right to question His timing.

What are you struggling with now that you find difficult to give up? Could it be a close friend who you might be losing a bit of respect for? Maybe she has done some horrible things that have cut you deeply. But when you think about it, you have the power to make your life better, regardless of what a friend does to you. You can choose to trade your sorrows with His Peace and ask Him to soften your heart to change the way you perceive the person. Our perceptions are dangerous if not used with the right discerning Spirit.

Who knows this song; “I’m trading my sorrows, I’m trading my shame, I’m laying them down for the Joy of the Lord. I’m trading my sickness, I’m trading my pain, I’m laying them down for the Joy of the Lord. We say YES LORD YES LORD YES YES LORD, YES LORD YES LORD YES YES LORD, YES LORD YES LORD YES YES LORD AMEN!”

  • YES to your WAY!
  • YES to your WORD!
  • YES to your WILL!
  • YES to You LORD!

Imagine if this was our daily prayer. Yes to everything that involves God. Yes to giving up our problems for His Peace. I recently listened to TD Jakes sermon “My Feet, His Fire”, and what caught my attention was that Christians offer God ‘Strange Fire’. So in other words, they ask God to answer their selfish prayers not realizing that God has already seen the motives of their hearts, so He rejects certain prayers because they are only satisfying to the flesh. What are you asking God to do for you? Are you expecting Him to anoint your fraudulent movements? You cannot expect to offer human flesh to a Holy God. If you think that your works will change Gods mind to bless you, especially if it is not according to His will, it will backfire. God does not appreciate strange fire. It is up to us to offer Him our feet (our weaknesses, our downfalls, our plans, our future) in His hands so that we can receive His warm fire.

No matter what you try to do, you cannot pray your way out of selfish motives. You should know the intentions of your prayers, and it is up to you to make sure that they are aligned to His Word. In Isaiah 36:3-6 we see that Rabshakeh was very disobedient to God, telling the people in the land of Egypt not to listen to Hezekiah about trusting the Lord and giving everything to Him. But God said to the people of Egypt that if you trust in what Rabshakeh says, it will pierce the hand of anyone who leans on him instead of the Most High. In other words, the King of Pharaoh was a negative influence to the people in Egypt. It is now up to us to say YES to God, and no to Pharaoh (our selfish motives). Rabshakeh’s motives were disrespectful to the Most High, questioning His ability to save the people in the land of Egypt. He thought he had two heads, he thought he was higher than God, not knowing that the Word of God is sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. (Hebrews 4:12).

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Whatever your motives, God will easily expose you. You cannot conceal what smells. No matter how much you try to cover it. Naaman was a Leper. He may not have liked it, but He couldn’t cover it up (2 Kings 5). Now back to you, what are you trying to cover up? Are you trying to look important just for people to congratulate you, but deep down your broken and feeling empty inside? Why do you try to put on a show for people? Lack of studying the Word results to lack of wisdom and knowledge. The Principle of the Word should be used as a weapon against the enemy, as well as the opening of Blessings. Just knowing the scriptures won’t change anything, because with the Word comes FAITH, and we all should know that without Faith, it is IMPOSSIBLE to please God! I stress this again, don’t expect God to honor your fraudulent movements. He is not to be mocked, for whatever one soweth, THAT and that is what he shall reap! (Galatians 6:7).

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Instead of trying to look important, humble yourself so that in due time He may exalt you! To have a solid foundation in life, it starts off with acknowledging WHO God is and giving the due respect. The Bible encourages us to build our lives on the Solid Rock of Jesus Christ so that we are securely rooted in Him. If you try to build your own life on what people say you should do, or how they treat you, or how your circumstances are making you feel, you are building on sinking sand. But if you TRADE that old cracked foundation for a SOLID FOUNDATION, nothing can shake you. The bottom line is; Christ is your Foundation! You cannot do anything without God, for it is up to you to make a decision to offer your plans and exchange it for His. NOT just going to God for Him to answer your prayers, but ensuring that you fully surrender your all to Him, working diligently for His Kingdom.

Some of us today are struggling in many areas that I may not be able to cover! It hurts me so much when I see Christians failing to give God their all including myself. Their plans are great, but they have not been exposed to a culture where they are willing to give up their plans for His own. Because we all know that THE PLANS GOD HAS FOR US ARE FOR GOOD AND NOT OF EVIL, TO GIVE US A FUTURE AND AN EXPECTED END (JEREMIAH 29:11). We make our lives difficult by not renewing our minds with the Word. We fear to take time off what we enjoy doing because we have become so complacent. There are times where we have to be still in His Presence. Just to know that He is God of all, and to acknowledge that He holds all the time in His hands!

You keep saying to yourself ‘when is the timing right’. God is saying ‘Time? I am in control of time. My timing is perfect and is in My Hands’.

There is no perfect timing other than God’s timing! I have not experienced a time in my life where I have demanded God to do something for me on a specific day and time that He has honored. It is NOT that He isn’t Faithful, but GOD WILL NEVER WORK ON MAN’S TIMING! It’s up to us to adhere to His voice and work on His timing. Yes you will be unhappy, but when the finished result is complete, you will then be able to thank God for His timing and say if it wasn’t for the Lord that was on my side, I would have been consumed. Those who don’t struggle for anything I am very weary of! What advice or support can one offer me if one  hasn’t struggled like me? You can’t take advice from The Rich Man in the Bible, but you CAN take advice from Job. What is the difference the between the two? One was rich, but was so reluctant to give up its possessions, whilst the other one was also rich, but suffered and lost all his possessions. But the end result was that The Rich Man ended up losing his possessions and his soul, whilst Job recovered everything he lost! The struggle Job encountered was REAL!! Now I do not believe any one of us have been through what Job went through, but we can learn from his struggle.

Yes it was hard for him to understand why God would allow all these things to happen to him, but it was a test! God tested Job to see what his motives were. Everything you surrender must have a genuine motive! If your motive is not right, I suggest you fix it up now before it will be exposed. There are so many things to learn in our Christian journey. Life is not easy ladies! There are struggles (John 16:33). There is pain, anguish, anxiety, stress, loneliness, betrayal, envy, isolation, self-centredness! But all this can be STOPPED!!! If you want Peace say YES to God. I know it gets difficult when you are expecting something to happen but it doesn’t. It feels as if everything you do just keeps on backfiring. I thought I gave my problems to God, I mean SINCERELY gave it all, not realizing that I ended up worrying, crying, even comparing myself to others around me. When you experience this kind of behavior, that means you haven’t fully surrendered. You thought, ‘let me handle this, whilst I give the rest to God’.

It’s up to you whether you want to give it all to God, or handle it all by yourself. WHATEVER YOU START, YOU WILL HAVE TO FINISH, BUT WHATEVER GOD STARTS, HE WILL FINISH IT! You can’t do half and give the remaining half to God; you have to be willing to TRUST GOD IN THE DECISIONS HE WILL MAKE FOR YOU, WHETHER IT IS WORKING ACCORDING TO YOUR TIMING! Yes we know that good deferred makes the heart sick, but guess what makes God’s heart sick? DOUBT, FEAR, WORRY, ANXIETY, A COMPLAINING SPIRIT, A WEAK PRAYER WARRIOR. All these things hurt the Lord and we have to do something about it. Starting with YES LORD I SURRENDER MY ALL TO YOU, is something to be happy about! Your destiny is too important to keep struggling with maintaining your life up to scratch. No matter how successful you want to be, or the plans you have made, it is IMPOSSIBLE without God. You cannot do anything by yourself  because people of nowadays wants to be recognized as ‘yes it was me that done it’. God will bring destiny helpers your way to support and encourage you in the process.

It will take some time to say YES TO GOD, but the quicker the BETTER! Do not wait until your life meets your expectations before you make a decision to offer up your plans to Him. His plans will forever be greater than ours. Say YES to surrendering; Faith it till you make it! You will get there. Your YES is a door to freedom. Receive that freedom and enjoy the life that God intended You to have! I know surrendering doesn’t happen automatically; you will have to deliberately refocus your thoughts at the very time when you don’t feel like doing it. The way you speak to yourself is a determining factor of how you see your life. Your YES should be a shout of Victory! SURRENDER; STOP TRYING AND START RESTING! 


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The Road to Blessing is Messy!


It is not easy to obtain our hearts desires without fully consulting God. When it comes to my own personal desires, I ask myself if it is aligned with Gods Word and His Will. No matter what it is, it is up to Him if He wants me to have what I demand. Recently, God has been showing me that all this time I have been looking at my life from one angle, not realizing that life is perceived from different angles. I recently stressed on the delay of my career process and how it drained me, but now I have come to realise that where I am is where God wants me to be, for if He wanted me to go elsewhere He would have so.

As women of God, we all have our desires, but my question to you is, what are you asking God to do that you are not willing to make a move? It is taking some of us quite a while to identify what our purpose is, and why we are here. The Blessings that God has for you and I are kept safely, and until we can do our part in working behind the scenes, God won’t make a move. The road to your blessing will not be easy. I perceive most people assume that because we are Christians, we don’t have any problems and are living stress-free lives, but that is not so. A spiritually mature person has a different view of trials and tribulations than an immature person. A spiritually mature person handles tribulations by being joyful AND trusting God in the midst of it. Those that are able to trust God regardless of how the storm looks are classified as Mature Christians. You will know when you are mature when you can praise God for every rejection, every closed door, and every secret pain you went through.

Not a lot of us are able to truly understand why God closes certain doors. It is not because you did not pray enough, it is not because you don’t attend church every Sunday; but what could be the barrier is your FAITH! Not only that, but PATIENCE! REAL BLESSINGS TAKE TIME! When you are patient in God and you rest in His Presence, you will find the answer. Psalms 91:1 “He that dwells in the Secret Place of the Most High, shall abide under the Shadow of the Almighty”. Your secret place is the birthing process of your blessing. Your blessing does not start with your complaining or murmuring. It is about finding a quiet place where you and God can meditate and communicate with each other. Your relationship with God should not be based on what God can offer you.

We must also be aware that there are negative forces that are operating to move us away from God. Even though the enemy may be causing havoc in your life right now, I am here to let you know that God is able to work something great out of it! It is funny because very often, we learn things about ourselves during trials that we would never see any other way. My trials were an indication of where my life was heading, not realizing that I am not defined by my past, but it is the past that indicates to me where I am going. I am so glad now that when doors are shut, it is happening for my protection. When friends tell me they have received good news, I don’t need to get envious. Why? Because everybody’s time is different. When God exposes someone to their blessing, see it as a sign that yours is on its way. Don’t look down on yourself because people around you are being blessed. Be encouraged to remember and know that God’s blessing are not rushed! They are NOT FAST-FOOD BLESSINGS, but they are tenderly and slowly prepared. If God was to give you everything your heart desires, you will not be able to handle it!

We must endeavour to thank God in the midst of our trials instead of feeling sorry for ourselves. and look to the things we already have and use them to bless His Name. We must see our troubles as an opportunity to get closer to God, because the bigger the trouble, the bigger the blessing. Do not act differently when you are going through a storm than you would if life were full of rainbows. You will never get your rainbow without a storm! No matter who you are, we will all struggle at one point in our lives, so that God’s Glory can be known to others and see how Great He is. I tell you, God works best when you are in a sticky situation! He works well when everything is going according to plan, but when hell is breaking loose, you will really begin to understand the depth of His Love and Power. We must rejoice in our storms because it is the roadway to our blessings.

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I challenge you today ladies; what is making you lose your first love? Why are you finding it so hard to seek God in your hard times? Do you think your hard times is where you are going to stay? Certainly not. Our God is able to make ALL THINGS abound to us! We need to learn how to search our hearts earnestly and understand how we treat God. God is not someone you click your fingers to and obey your command. For some of us the way we treat God is ‘give me give me’, but God is still patient and does not use it against us. We must learn to hear the heartbeat of God, because everyday the enemy is trying to derail us from our Faith! When you can listen to His heartbeat, you will know where He is taking you. Not only that, you won’t even have to doubt Him because you know that His presence is always here.

Another challenge is; how often do you pray, and what do you pray about? Are you only asking God to take the pain away from you and then go back to your ‘its all about me’ life, or are you really asking God to help you endure the pain you’re in? It is a daily desire to know more of God. Not just for His Blessings, but for who He really is. The road to blessing will require you to study your Word daily! Not just on Sundays, but every blessed day. The Bible is authentic (VALID!) in our day-to-day lives. It is the only valid book to date that will enable you and I to prosper. Prayer on the other hand is our lifeline. If we can dedicate a few minutes to The Lord everyday to ask Him what He wants us to do, I guarantee that our lives will be much better than where we are. We must also remember prayer and studying the Word are forms of Worship. You don’t just worship Him when you get the Victory, you worship Him when things are not going as planned.

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I tell you, the reason why your prayers are not being answered is because they are all about you. It has nothing to do with the Kingdom, nor does it have anything to do with helping others. I know my deepest hearts desire is to reach out to women throughout this generation, to touch, relate, understand, sympathize and share their concerns. It would not be good for me to repeatedly do the same thing and not seeing different results. I refuse to stay stagnant and so should you. When you have identified your calling, step into it and WORK THAT THING OUT! Don’t wait until everything is sweet before you can see your way clear. Your blessing won’t come like money falling from Heaven. You will have to struggle hard, but it takes those who can STRUGGLE, ENDURE AND PERSEVERE THAT WILL OBTAIN THE REAL BLESSING! Don’t think that just because you see people on social media or your friends enjoying their lives that they didn’t have their own struggles to get to where they are now.

We all have struggles, it is a part of life! Don’t look down on yourself because of where you are, but see where you are as a sign of where you are going. The more you suffer, hmmmm the more God will bless YOU! Little struggles are for those who want to receive little blessings, but FOR THOSE who have big dreams and aspirations, PLEASE BE PREPARED TO STRUGGLE! You can’t live a King or Queens life without being a servant. You will have to at some point be embarrassed, spoken against, lied to, cheated on, be financially unstable and all the other traumas to guide you to your blessings. So my dear sisters, regardless of all the troubles be encouraged that God is on your side. Don’t look down on your current situation. Your blessings are not determined by what job you have or the money you earn. Success is something that is done in secret, in your darkest moments, in you time of pain, until when that is all done, God will open up Heaven and pour you out a blessing that you won’t have enough room to receive (Malachi 3:10).

To conclude, our real blessing is in Heaven, it has nothing to do with temporary perishable possessions on earth. All of them are bonuses. You and I should be aware that we are living in end times, so let tune our minds to Christ as we continue this journey of life! Let us be ready and prepared for the real blessing that is near to come. This should be our ultimate aim in life. I know it seems like we have so much time, but we really don’t. Look at how life is going, young people are being killed like it’s a fashion trend. It hurts so much, but I believe something can be done to stop all this. Your blessing is in your house. You have to search thoroughly for it.

Yours Truly.

Do not judge.

Do not judge


Learn to appreciate and celebrate others when they doing good, rather than judging them and spotting their issues. I believe there is more than one space in Heaven for every one of us, so pull your brethren up and help them get to that level. No one is perfect, no one is pure, and nobody is holy. We are all striving to be righteous, and be like Christ! Love thy neighbor as yourself and even love your enemies and those lower than you and God will uplift you. Remember you are not free until you have no reason to impress anyone, even with your salvation, so continue to strive on impressing God and not man. Having said that, it is very important that we do not downgrade anybody because of what we hear, see or perceive.

When we judge others, or we have a conception in our heart’s towards them, it is a reflection of the way you are. So for example, if you judge somebody based on what you have ‘heard’, it shows that you are as just the same as that person you are judging. Do you think it is right to judge another just to make yourself feel good? Some people judge because of fear…fear of not being loved, chosen, accepted, cared for etc. This is why relationships with family and friends are broken. We need to realise that our words have so much power in them! As Women of God, we must strive to ensure that we uplift and elevate one another, and not condemn. (In reference to Matthew 7 verse 1-5). Can you ask yourself this question: “Why am I being so judgmental”. The way you treat people behind the scenes will reflect towards your future in the open.

James 4 verse 11-12: “Do not speak evil against one another. The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother (or sister), speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. There is only one lawgiver and judge, He who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?”. And really it is true…who are WE to judge our neighbor? He that overestimates himself is classified as a fool, but he who humbles himself in the presence of God is wise. We cannot expect to be representatives of Christ if we keep pointing fingers.

I spoke to one of my work colleagues, and spoke about my youth day coming up. As I was speaking with my colleague, I had to listen carefully to what was said. I could sense that my colleague was quite down, and I had to remind her always to be positive Your thoughts can control your destiny! If you are not careful, you can fall into the trap of being judgmental, because of the way you ‘perceived’ someone to me. This is another reason why certain people do not open up. Most people assume that when they do open up, they will be judged or looked down at. I know it is not easy to open up, because I have been there, but it does not give you any right to cover up your faults and expose another’s just to feel secure or ‘comfortable. In every situation, the truth will come out and eventually, will set you free! Let us be considerate towards others, particularly those that do not know Christ yet, or have not been brought up in a Christian home.

As representatives of Christ, we must always remind ourselves that we are the light of the world, and that we need to shine our light onto everybody we meet. Even a smile is a sign of ACCEPTANCE. I love it! Smiling can really make someone’s day…try it to someone and see if they smile back! I guarantee they will! Nevertheless, if you know in your heart, you are sincere with yourself that you do not want to be judged, then do not judge others…(Matthew 7 verse 1). In other words, when you judge others, you are exposing your hidden sin and bringing it into the light. When you expose the truth and people are reminded of their inter-self  or their dark side, they try to ignore it.  Also, it exposes their true heart to others around them. This makes them feel very uneasy. So they will try to justify themselves by quoting pieces of scripture no matter how far out of context it is.

How Judging Relates To Unbelievers

From a societal point of view, it is very easy to judge based on appearance or even popularity. We must remember that before we judge people, let us look deeply within ourselves before opening our mouths.

When a Christian lovingly and graciously presents the gospel to unbelievers, a judgment is made regarding their standing with God. The Bible clearly declares that all men are sinners, have fallen short of the glory of God, and are in need of redemption from their sins (Romans 3 verse 23). This judgment is not made from the opinion of the Christian who is presenting the gospel but rather by what the Bible clearly declares. Please understand the difference between the two carefully. Let us always remember that we are helping people based on the Word of God.

The claim that Christians are not to judge is often made when dealing with issues such as abortion, adultery, homosexual behavior, and same-sex marriage. When a Christian says, for example, that homosexual behavior is a sin and that same-sex marriage is wrong, he or she is often met with objections like the following:

  • “Who are you to judge two people who love each other?”
  • “Who do you think you are, telling someone who they can and cannot love? You’re a sinner, too!”
  • “Someone’s private life is none of your business. Don’t judge them.”

Some people will even quote Matthew 7 verse 1, where Christ said during the Sermon on the Mount, “Judge not, that you will not be judge. Of course, when they quote this verse in regard to such situations, they take it out of context to support their own point of view(s). When we consider the concept of judging, especially as it relates to the Sermon on the Mount, Christ tells us to be discerning, not condemning.

There are significant logical problems with the claim that believers should not make judgments. The first becomes evident when we read the context of Matthew 7 verse 1. (Stated above). Most of us, particularly youth, fall into various things. But what help are we giving to them if we are judgmental? It could be that they did not have a good upbringing; we will never truly know what one is going through in their lives, but it should at least give us an opportunity to encourage them to keep going.

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We are called to judge righteously and it should be a part of biblical discernment in every believer’s thinking. But it is God’s Word that makes the judgment on morality and truth, not our own opinions or theories. This means that believers should examine their own lives regularly and also lovingly challenge Christian brothers and sisters who are in error. To do this, believers must be bold for Christ, but they also have to be humble, loving, and kind.On behalf of the Women’s Worth Conference Group, we encourage you to keep these things in mind as you strive daily to maintain unity in the truth of Christ (John 17 verse 20-26).


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