You have to love what prospers you ladies. Why are we so faithful to disloyalty? To people who we know don’t like us? I know how hard it can be to keep everyone happy, but do yourself a favor and say “ENOUGH!”. There will be times in your life where you’ll be tested through different sorts of people and circumstances, and will have to make a decision on how to continue living your life. I have been through various stages in my early 20’s where I felt used and taken advantage of. I realised that in life those who are being treated unfairly will rise above it all! When they rise, that is where all hell breaks loose simply because people enjoy you being lower than them. When they see you’re getting confidence, they’ll eventually become bitter and resentful.
Well I hate to break it to you sister, but you need to RISE BACK UP AGAIN! If you are having a hard time right now, trying to figure out why people are changing, speak to the Lord Jesus! He knew how it felt when the people he loved changed especially when He needed them the most (in reference to His disciples when they slept instead of praying with Jesus – Luke 22:39-46). He knew how it felt to be taken advantage of. He also knew how much he had a loving Father who knew all this was going to happen. Despite all the drama, He still chose to love them. Now I do not know about you, but the world we are living in today, it can be so difficult loving those who drain us. Sometimes we find it hard to cut them off for fear of being lonely. But let me challenge you a little bit; would you rather let go and be free, or stay stuck in an environment (your comfort zone) where you cannot grow because people are hindering your success?
The only antidote that can prosper you is The Word of God!! “This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success”. (Joshua 1:8). If you do not make time for the Bible, I strongly encourage you to do so! The Word has everything you and I are going through and currently facing. It is important to have intimacy with the Father so that we are able to hear when the Holy Spirit is speaking. We should always refuse to allow our flesh to overtake because words can be uttered and not taken back. Maybe you can trace a time in your life where a loved one hurt you; stepped on your toe a bit too much! Up till now, you are still finding it hard to forgive, but something keeps telling you to let go of this person. You still love the person but they are not helping you achieve your fullest potential. It takes humility and STRENGTH to let people go, and you must bear in mind is this person enabling you to prosper?? Be honest with yourself…
T.D. Jakes says “When people can walk out of your life, let them walk because your destiny is NOT tied to theirs”. We must stop allowing ourselves becoming agitated or stressed about other people and start focusing on ourselves, because where God is taken you is not where He is taking your friends. We all have different paths to take, so ensure you do not miss your opportunity. Comparison is the thief of joy, so refuse to look to others and look up! In fact, have some ME TIME TODAY! Take this opportunity to reflect on your life and see how far you have come and where you intend to go. The more time you spend investing in yourself and your future, the less time you’ll worry about what people define you as.
I have come to a point in my life where cutting people off has become so easy. Why? Because I knew how it felt a few years ago to hold on to heavy baggage that was weighing me down. I also had to examine the people who were in my life and the impact they would have made if they were genuine. There are some people today that won’t allow you to be the person you are; people not allowing you to be free; controlling friends; ungrateful friends, those who spoke bad behind my back. These are all the dead-weights that are draining our day-to-day lives and it needs to be CUT OFF!! As we are approaching 2016 very soon, let us set a strong foundation for the year, and use it to pray and intercede! Ask God what He wants you to accomplish and inform Him of your personal hearts desires so that He will fulfill it. Be Faithful in communicating with God. Examine the whole year of 2015 and reflect on it; what have you learnt this year and how can you use what you’ve learnt to benefit 2016?
You must endeavour to surround yourself with people who will take you up another level; those who are willing to challenge and deliver you out of your comfort zone. I met a couple of lovely women this year who are authentic and can relate to me when I open up to them. It is very important to know how to surround yourself with good people. I was speaking to a dear friend of mine recently and was reminding her of how precious she is in the Lord’s eyes. Sometimes as women, we don’t always feel worthy because of a past memory or something we have done. If we are not careful, we can be faithful to our past that we miss the opportunity of being blessed. Although our past is kin to our future, it does not give us the right to wallow in it. Our past should only be an indication that our future is going to be beautiful! Amen!!
Now what I am going to talk about next may not be some people’s favourite topic, but I am going to say it anyway. In Malachi 3:10 it reads “Bring the full tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. And thereby put me to the test, says the Lord of hosts, if I will not open the windows of heaven for you and pour down for you a blessing until there is no more need”. Now giving is an ACT OF WORSHIP UNTO THE LORD. Giving is saying that you choose the GIVER OVER THE GIFT, and put your own personal desires aside, and is confident that the Lord will provide all your needs in His time. Those who give more are likely to receive more, HOWEVER TO WHOM MUCH IS GIVEN, MUCH IS REQUIRED! (Luke 12:48). Now please do not misunderstand me here, you can only give on the level you are already on. If you earn £1,000 a month, you know that giving God £100 is essential as it is 10% off your earnings. For those who may be earning about £500 a month, you ought to give £50 as it is 10% off your earnings. But if you could trust God to give above £50; lets say £65, that is a leap of Faith, and you will see how God will open up the windows of Heaven and pour you out a blessing that you won’t even have enough room to receive. On the other hand some find it very difficult to give for fear of having less. Well ladies, have you heard of this saying before “When you keep things dear to your heart you will lose it”.
Bare in mind that God is able to make all Grace abound to you, so that having all-sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work (2 Corinthians 9:8). Being generous not only to God but to others will enable every good work to follow you. It is important to understand that giving is an act of appreciation to the person that gave you the blessing in the first place. Let us endeavour to be thankful for those who pour out their hearts to us, especially our Spiritual sisters and brothers in Christ.
I leave this brief but powerful message to you sisters. Do not be deceived by this world for what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and loses his soul? (Mark 8:36). It does not matter how much you have, but how are you using it to glorify God? These are the things that should make you prosper, not to get your girlfriends jealous, but to encourage them to be Christ-like so in due season they too will receive the promises that God had for them. What prospers you should be peace, joy, happiness, laughter, unity, humility but moreover LOVE! Let love continue to uplift and prosper you and it will generate a strong aroma. Use this time God has given you to fulfill your purpose, help your fellow sisters, let them know they are not alone in their circumstances. Let us live in love and continue to reach to those things that prosper us. If you do not know your God-given purpose, just pray and humbly ask what He wants you to do. Remember you are a chosen generation called forth to show His excellence! 🙂