A man taught me to value myself now more than I ever have. A man taught me to never settle of less than what I deserve.
A man taught me to feel beautiful in my own skin first before I can with his words of compliments.
A man taught me to never tolerate disrespect of any level.
A man helped me to become a strong lady that I am today, but the Lord stepped in and taught me love that I now understand is only eternal from Him and never truly from man.
(Frances Virtue: Co-Founder of WWCG)
Ladies, we must remember that our worth is in Christ, not in any man. God understands that we need companionship, but He must be our first point of contact in everything. Remember that He who finds a good wife, finds a good thing and obtains FAVOR from the Lord. (Proverbs 18:22). I know how hard it can be at times to believe in yourself. Maybe you are lacking low-self esteem, or you don’t feel as beautiful as other ladies, or maybe it seems as if you are fighting with yourself. You are not alone.
Your personal identity, in other words, how you see yourself is often shaped by your early experiences in life. Maybe your parents said things to you as a child that made you doubt your worth. Maybe you were rejected or abused. If so, Joyce Meyer can relate to what some of us may have been through. She experienced every kind of rejection and abuse as she was growing up. She was sexually, verbally, emotionally and physically abused by her father from the time she could remember until she finally left home at the age of 18. She then carried those emotional wounds into her first marriage to a man who also treated her badly and eventually left her. What do you do when you come out of one situation, and realise you are trapped in a worse situation? How do you handle it? It is easy to run to the next guy who calls you lovely names, but is that what will give you full satisfaction?
Ladies, we are all fearfully and wonderfully made. No amount of make-up, clothing, or money can define your worth. It is what is inside you that defines who you are.
CHARACTER is what you are; REPUTATION is what people think you are. Can you see the difference? Your worth is defined by your character in Christ. In other words, it is WHO you are in Christ. Relative to your reputation that is defined by man. Character must always exceed reputation. Lets look at the comparative differences below:
- Character is built by your attitude; Reputation is built by your performance.
- Character is determined by what you stand for; Reputation is determined by what you fall for.
- Character is what God knows about you; Reputation is what men say about you.
- Character is what you are really like in the dark; .Reputation is what men see you doing in the light.
- Men look at the outward; God looks at the inward (your heart).