Why does life seem so unfair?



Ladies, we need to be aware of the fact that Gods timing is PERFECT! Blessings can only be delayed, but they CANNOT be denied! Remember Habakkuk 2 verse 3: “For the vision is yet for an appointed time, and it hastens to the end fulfillment; it will not deceive or disappoint. Though it tarry, wait earnestly for it, because it will surely come. It will not be behindhand on its appointed day”.

It must be a constant remind for you and I to believe that God has a plan and will fulfill in when He says so. We should not be waking up every blessed morning trying to plan our day and what we are going to be doing, without firstly having a conversation with God. It should be a priority to speak with God in the morning before anything else, because you are more likely to hear His voice relative to your own. One thing that I realised was not pleasing to God was putting Him second place. I used to always check my phone to see who had called or text me and would use all of my time on my phone, and wondered why God did not hear my prayers. Maybe it was because I was too focused on what ‘I’ wanted to do, that I blocked Him out. Ask yourself, what are you placing before God that you need to give it to Him?

I was speaking to a dear friend of mine and he was telling me that he needed encouragement. So with the help of God, I encouraged him by referring to certain scriptures that would uplift him. Sometimes in life, some people just need you to be there for them, sometime to cry to, someone to lean on. He had the interview, and the next day, he informed me that he did not get the job. I related to him very well, because it was a situation where I also poured out my heart to him and was able to explain my experience of the job search to him. It’s good to also speak to someone who has also been in a similar or the same situation as you, because usually, I find it quite difficult speaking with someone who doesn’t understand my pain. So I referred him to Habakkuk 2 v 3 (stated above) and reminded him that everything we desire will come at Gods appointed time! So if you know someone at the moment who feels like giving up, saying in their mind that life is unfair, or you sense someone you love wanting to commit suicide, please use this scripture to remind them not only of Gods love, but the timing that God has for everything to blossom will come in due season!

I believe that worrying is wasting energy on the things you can’t control. Leave everything in God’s hands. This less; pray more! If we always can remember to have this sort of mindset where, instead of worrying, we pray, we shall surely see better things in our lives. We will be more happy, more grateful, more thankful, and most importantly; to praise Him! We need to be reminded that sometimes, when life is falling apart and everything seems to be going wrong, WAIT FOR IT! God has a plan bigger and greater than you think! We can invite more peace in our lives by being PATIENT! Not by comparing or contrasting other people against who we are, or what they have and what we do not have. But really taking the initiative to allow God to have His way in our lives, to help us to believe that when some things fall apart, it is a sign that it will get better. God will make some situations in your life uncomfortable. You may have to come out of your comfort zone and do some things you would not expect, just for Gods Glory. You may not understand it now, but remind yourself of this; ‘WHEN YOU ARE IN AN EXAM, THE INVIGILATOR IS ALWAYS QUITE DURING THE TEST’. We can apply this context to God. When you are under pressure, just remember that God will be quiet, until the exam is over.

The thing with us Christians of nowadays is that God has never stopped being good; we have just stopped being grateful. This now brings me to my focus on ‘life being unfair’. Life has always been fair. It has always been fair when God gave you and I life, when He saw us through our day-to-day lives, when He provided us shelter, food and clothing, when He allowed us to brush our teeth and how our baths, and the list goes on. What makes life seem so unfair in our eyes is the way the world perceives life. So what if we are not earning £1,800 every month, does that mean that life is not fair? I always have this feeling in my mind that someone who earns less than £500 a month can be classified as wise, relative to those who earn more. Why? Because when you earn more money, you may be tempted to spend most of it on yourself. Not only that, you are more likely to demand more. But for those who do not earn even up to £500, you will be wise to know what to spend and not want to spend. You will humble yourself and thank God for the little you have because you knew how it felt to have nothing before.

Everyone’s eyes are perceived differently. So for someone, £1,800 may not be enough because you demand more or you feel that it is not satisfactory for you, but £300 will make someone else become content because it remind themselves of when they knew how it felt to be broke. This is why we should position our mindsets on things above and not beneath. Humble yourself or life will do it for you because slow progress IS PROGRESS! It may feel like nothing is happening, but God is working for the good of those who love Him! (Romans 8 v 28). If you are constantly struggling with life, ask God to help your unbelief and to increase your FAITH!

Do not let life define you by your downfalls, secret struggles, tears and sorrows, but be expectant that Gods plan for your life is for good and not of evil! (Jeremiah 29 verse 11). Your latter days will be greater than your former days! At least that is something to smile about 🙂

A quick prayer: Dear God, I keep becoming more and more bitter. My anger and frustrations keep building up inside of me. I know life is not always fair and everyone has trials and tribulations along the way, but I can’t find my way out of this jumbled mess…I need you to fill me with peace and soften my heart to make me whole again.