You are the door to someone else’s mission!

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It made me feel so uncomfortable knowing that I did not sense anyone around who would genuinely support me and my journey to Destiny. As the saying goes no man is an island. The importance of having the right people in your life speaks so loud that you cannot afford to lose them. They are vital resources that enable ones’ dreams to flourish. Ladies, when we keep our eyes off our concerns and help someone else’s dreams, do you know how much PEACE it will grant you? I am not saying neglect your dreams and fully surrender to your loved ones, but rather than you ranting about how you will get your needs met, let God handle that because He knows the end from the beginning.

God knows what He is doing ladies; He is not exempt or aloof to your pain or desires. The best thing we can offer ourselves is Peace of mind. God’s peace really does surpass all understanding. I am so honored to know that when my mind plays games on me, all I just ask for is His Peace. In reference to my message today, I will be speaking from the importance of helping others in fulfilling their dreams. Most people wait for their dreams to manifest, until they can wholeheartedly help someone else. There are times where I have experienced supporting my friends in their time of need.

Time is very precious and it is vital to know who you are giving your time to. There is someone out there that needs your support to help them reach their Destiny. Rather than you fighting yourself in trying to deal with your problems, why not cast them over to God and help your neighbor instead? Imagine waking up every morning upset, frustrated, anxious, worried. Don’t you know that it will have a massive impact on those around you? You think your thoughts don’t affect others? Believe me they do! And it is highly important that you are responsible for how you communicate to yourself.

There may be some people in your life right now who look up to you as a role model, a big sister or even a close friend, and if you are constantly feeding your mind with negative thoughts, it may also rub on them. It is easier said than done to always be positive, but it can be developed ladies by being consistent in your thinking. You can look at your life from a positive angle and speak good things. You don’t always have to allow your mind or circumstances to control you. When you allow this to happen, you rob yourself of the Blessings that God has prepared for you. You may also not even realise that the person who relied on you for help will eventually leave because your character is affecting their ability to be themselves. I would not want to be in a situation where a friend of mine tells me that my attitude is not contributing positively in their life. You are the door (opportunity) to someone else’s struggles, so don’t take that for granted. People are watching your every move; what would you want them to think about you?

When you are able to support other people, it enables you to become organised. From experience, when I was in a sticky situation where my mind was all over the place, I could not get anything done and kept on doing the same routine all over again. But now that I have been through all the drama, I now take it one step at a time, to focus on one thing and then onto the next in order to see my way clear. Once this is done, I can then use my time to support others. Ladies, no matter what you want to become, you will need a strong support system. It is not only money that can support your dreams, but your brothers and sisters around you. Let us learn not to take people for granted as we are all limited resources. There is so much that we can offer to our neighbor that you would need to set yourself a breaking point so that you won’t give out too much. Remember you also have your own needs to sort out so there has to be an element of balance.

I emphasize balance in my previous video on YouTube “Friendships are Expensive”. You must learn to set yourselves limits when helping your friends. It is not everyone you can help, however you can work according to your own ability. You may have a close friend who may have the same or similar vision as you. No matter how occupied it gets, check up on that person. Let that person know you are thinking about them and supporting them through prayer. The best support you can truly give someone is prayer, and I say that because I have experienced a time where me and a friend had a dilemma, and was giving her real encouragement. When your neighbor is down, you do not stay down with them; instead you encourage them to RISE UP and face the challenge head on. I would not expect a real friend to comfort me when I know there is a solution to it. It would be very painful to see an opportunity go due to self-pity. Sometimes, your battles require you to get up and fight until your victory is won.

There are some who are looking up to you for advice; it may be Spiritual advice on how to study the Bible better, it could be how to study the right course so that you can get a solid job at the end of it, it could be someone starting up a ministry and needs a mentor for support. Ladies, if we truly know the gifts we have, we dare not hide them making ourselves feel useless. We are all useful in this world! Do not bury your talent like what the man in Matthew chapter 25 did. The man that had 5 talents doubled his to 10. The man that had 2 talents doubled his to 4. But the one who had 1 talent buried his one in the ground. He did not use his own talent wisely. This is what the world is facing today because there are so many false perceptions regarding what gifts and talents people have in order to make a difference to the world. Just because someone has a degree does not make them over-qualified than someone that does not have a degree. Why compare yourself to others? Will comparison really enable you to be a good support system to others? No matter how small you think you have, if you know how to work it, you will see good change! Learn how to be content with your gifts and talents and use them as opportunities to guide your loved ones. They look up to you Queen.

To summarize, learn how to be a blessing to others. Do not allow everyday to be a day surrounded by just you. Yes you have your own issues and concerns, but don’t focus too much on yourself lest you become irritated and make those in your life run away from you. Remember that YOU ARE THE DOOR (OPPORTUNITY) TO SOMEONE ELSE’S MISSION. When you are able to help others, they too are able to help you in your time of need. How do I know that? By the scripture in Luke 6:38 Give and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you”. What you do unto others will also come back to you. When you sow bountifully, you will reap bountifully. Let this be your focus ladies, to serve others in genuine love because a lot of us today want to be served but they do not want to serve. Let us be different! Let us be the door to someone else’s mission because together WE ARE MORE!


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What is feeding you?

What is taking most of your time? This is one of the most important question that must be asked in one’s life. How are you living your life? Are you constantly on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or any other social media network? What you spend most of your time doing, is what will feed you. For example, lets say you want to invest £10,000 in a new business, but you don’t have the right resources, you lack character, self-confidence, you may not even have a business plan. So how do you expect to receive a greater return? Yes you may have the £10,000 but do you think it will be sufficient enough to run a successful business? Do you think it will be financially stable in the long run? Will it remain in the competition? To support this example, yes you aim to set up a business, but the majority of the time you are on social media sites that doesn’t have anything to knowing how to get potential clients to support your business proposal, or to create a mission statement. You can’t expect your business to thrive if you are not mentally ready, but socially addicted.

We must always remember that whatever you give yourself to, it will give it back to you. In Luke 6:38 (ISV) it states “Give, and it will be given to you. A large quantity, pressed together, shaken down, and running over will be put into your lap, because you’ll be evaluated by the same standard with which you evaluate others.” The more you put into people, the more people will put into you. When you put God first, He will also put You into His agenda. If you can reposition yourself and examine where you are at the moment, what your strengths and weaknesses are, that is a good starting point.

Remember that whatever you sow, that is what you shall reap, If you sow good, you will reap good; if you sow bad, you will reap bad, if you give 10% of your income to God, He will give Himself back onto you in ways that are far beyond your imagination. You would be surprised at the things God wants to offer to you but because you are too self-focused, it is blocking the way. Sometimes we are too focused on ourselves that we don’t realise that other people around us are in need. When we take our eyes off ourselves, and use it as an opportunity to help somebody else, there will be positive changes to your life.


Okay, so you may have set yourself some resolutions for the new year. We are now in the second month of 2015! What have you accomplished so far? For me, I have been saying I want to attend the gym, but because I am not researching  on what gym to attend, it’s not a keen desire anymore. That still isn’t an excuse to not eat healthy. We may have made plans that aims to be fulfilled at a specific time in our lives, but if we don’t work on them now, don’t expect it to get better in the near future. If you keep eating McDonald’s and other type of fatty/oily foods, don’t expect to have a flat stomach or healthy looking skin! You need to go through the PROCESS to PROGRESS! I really disliked hearing the word “process” because every time I hear it, it makes it seem as if my life was going so slow; all the plans I had in mind are not showing in my life. The areas I want to be elevation, I need to re-position myself and say “in order for me to get to where I want to be, I need to put in the hard work”. So today ladies, what are you doing to get to where you need to be?


What I would suggest is to buy a diary. Write in it every morning or evening (your choice), and write down all the things you desire to happen in your life. Be specific about it. Pray over it. Surrender and give it to God. Put and commit them into His hands, because no matter what you desire to become in life, if it isn’t according to Gods will, it won’t come to pass. We must also take into consideration the fact that we are ambassadors for Christ, so what our plans and dreams are, should be in alignment with His word and to His will.


How is your Spiritual life going? Do you feel it needs re-fueling? Brush up on your Word. When studying the Word, ensure you don’t rush into it. I admit, three years ago, I didn’t have that much of a passion studying the Bible. I felt it was too long for me to understand. Now I enjoy reading it as it gives me insight every day. The things I need to do to get my day going is all in the Word. When you feed your spirit with the Word, it starts your day on a positive note. The same prayer too! When you pray, God will answer. Although God already knows your needs, and painful situations, He still wants you to open your mouth and talk to Him. It could be a test; a test in your Faith and how strong you are in Him? Are you relying on Him as much as you should be? That is for you to answer.


To conclude, everything in life must be in balance; spend quality time with God, catch up with family and friends, go out and socialize, get to know other people, be kind to someone you don’t know, offer a helping hand to a neighbor, travel around the world, DO SOMETHING YOU HAVE NEVER DONE BEFORE! It will take your mind off yourself, and eventually will enable you to become more considerate of other people. The more you help others than yourself, the more God Himself will help you too. Don’t doubt Gods ability when it comes to His support. He will surprise you.

Remember when praises go up, blessings come down. Whatever you feed yourself, it is going to feed you. When you invest in the right things, the right things will come back to you. Don’t feel agitated or worried about life, or what stage you are at. Just trust that God is leading your steps (Psalms 37:23). Your steps are ordered by Him. Don’t let life define you. Don’t let the world feed you, but you feed it by sharing the love of Christ, and being in a position where you are ready to give, and not just receive.


Think of it this way; when you were a baby, your parents brought you up. They clothed you, sheltered you, providing you food and drink, kept you safe and ensured you got the best treatment. Now that you are getting older and maturer, why not return the favour and feed them back in love? This could be through cleaning the house, buying the shopping, surprising your mum with cooking (for those who don’t cook lol), giving your dad money. All these things, believe it or not are very essential in life. It takes time, perseverance and consistency.


Success does not happen over night. It happens when you plan ahead of time, and invest into things that will feed positively in your life. So ensure you are investing in what will give you a greater return! Feed what feeds you!

Feed what feeds you