It made me feel so uncomfortable knowing that I did not sense anyone around who would genuinely support me and my journey to Destiny. As the saying goes no man is an island. The importance of having the right people in your life speaks so loud that you cannot afford to lose them. They are vital resources that enable ones’ dreams to flourish. Ladies, when we keep our eyes off our concerns and help someone else’s dreams, do you know how much PEACE it will grant you? I am not saying neglect your dreams and fully surrender to your loved ones, but rather than you ranting about how you will get your needs met, let God handle that because He knows the end from the beginning.
God knows what He is doing ladies; He is not exempt or aloof to your pain or desires. The best thing we can offer ourselves is Peace of mind. God’s peace really does surpass all understanding. I am so honored to know that when my mind plays games on me, all I just ask for is His Peace. In reference to my message today, I will be speaking from the importance of helping others in fulfilling their dreams. Most people wait for their dreams to manifest, until they can wholeheartedly help someone else. There are times where I have experienced supporting my friends in their time of need.
Time is very precious and it is vital to know who you are giving your time to. There is someone out there that needs your support to help them reach their Destiny. Rather than you fighting yourself in trying to deal with your problems, why not cast them over to God and help your neighbor instead? Imagine waking up every morning upset, frustrated, anxious, worried. Don’t you know that it will have a massive impact on those around you? You think your thoughts don’t affect others? Believe me they do! And it is highly important that you are responsible for how you communicate to yourself.
There may be some people in your life right now who look up to you as a role model, a big sister or even a close friend, and if you are constantly feeding your mind with negative thoughts, it may also rub on them. It is easier said than done to always be positive, but it can be developed ladies by being consistent in your thinking. You can look at your life from a positive angle and speak good things. You don’t always have to allow your mind or circumstances to control you. When you allow this to happen, you rob yourself of the Blessings that God has prepared for you. You may also not even realise that the person who relied on you for help will eventually leave because your character is affecting their ability to be themselves. I would not want to be in a situation where a friend of mine tells me that my attitude is not contributing positively in their life. You are the door (opportunity) to someone else’s struggles, so don’t take that for granted. People are watching your every move; what would you want them to think about you?
When you are able to support other people, it enables you to become organised. From experience, when I was in a sticky situation where my mind was all over the place, I could not get anything done and kept on doing the same routine all over again. But now that I have been through all the drama, I now take it one step at a time, to focus on one thing and then onto the next in order to see my way clear. Once this is done, I can then use my time to support others. Ladies, no matter what you want to become, you will need a strong support system. It is not only money that can support your dreams, but your brothers and sisters around you. Let us learn not to take people for granted as we are all limited resources. There is so much that we can offer to our neighbor that you would need to set yourself a breaking point so that you won’t give out too much. Remember you also have your own needs to sort out so there has to be an element of balance.
I emphasize balance in my previous video on YouTube “Friendships are Expensive”. You must learn to set yourselves limits when helping your friends. It is not everyone you can help, however you can work according to your own ability. You may have a close friend who may have the same or similar vision as you. No matter how occupied it gets, check up on that person. Let that person know you are thinking about them and supporting them through prayer. The best support you can truly give someone is prayer, and I say that because I have experienced a time where me and a friend had a dilemma, and was giving her real encouragement. When your neighbor is down, you do not stay down with them; instead you encourage them to RISE UP and face the challenge head on. I would not expect a real friend to comfort me when I know there is a solution to it. It would be very painful to see an opportunity go due to self-pity. Sometimes, your battles require you to get up and fight until your victory is won.
There are some who are looking up to you for advice; it may be Spiritual advice on how to study the Bible better, it could be how to study the right course so that you can get a solid job at the end of it, it could be someone starting up a ministry and needs a mentor for support. Ladies, if we truly know the gifts we have, we dare not hide them making ourselves feel useless. We are all useful in this world! Do not bury your talent like what the man in Matthew chapter 25 did. The man that had 5 talents doubled his to 10. The man that had 2 talents doubled his to 4. But the one who had 1 talent buried his one in the ground. He did not use his own talent wisely. This is what the world is facing today because there are so many false perceptions regarding what gifts and talents people have in order to make a difference to the world. Just because someone has a degree does not make them over-qualified than someone that does not have a degree. Why compare yourself to others? Will comparison really enable you to be a good support system to others? No matter how small you think you have, if you know how to work it, you will see good change! Learn how to be content with your gifts and talents and use them as opportunities to guide your loved ones. They look up to you Queen.
To summarize, learn how to be a blessing to others. Do not allow everyday to be a day surrounded by just you. Yes you have your own issues and concerns, but don’t focus too much on yourself lest you become irritated and make those in your life run away from you. Remember that YOU ARE THE DOOR (OPPORTUNITY) TO SOMEONE ELSE’S MISSION. When you are able to help others, they too are able to help you in your time of need. How do I know that? By the scripture in Luke 6:38 Give and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you”. What you do unto others will also come back to you. When you sow bountifully, you will reap bountifully. Let this be your focus ladies, to serve others in genuine love because a lot of us today want to be served but they do not want to serve. Let us be different! Let us be the door to someone else’s mission because together WE ARE MORE!