Unanswered Prayer is God’s Gift


Have you ever asked the question, why doesn’t prayer work? Why at times does it appear that God ignores us when we pray to Him. Many have prayed for God to intervene and solve a problem that they are struggling with, but sometimes God‘s apparent answer is silence. If God answers your prayers He is increasing your Faith, if He doesn’t He is training your patience.

When you hit a certain level of prayers over the same situation and not seeing a change, it will eventually make you step back and ask yourself if it’s going to happen. There are other people who apply for a particular job in their field but don’t receive an update on their application. Sometimes, these unanswered questions are a blessing in disguise. Imagine asking for something that you thought would benefit you, but behind closed doors, it was not the right thing for you.

“Even sweet things can kill” (African Proverb). 

When you take sweets off a child that has eaten 5 packets, they cry, but the child does not know that the mother is protecting their teeth and health. Sometimes, we want all the nice things, but behind it, we don’t know the depth of consequence it will provide. Look back over your life today, and ask yourself what sort of expectations you planned to achieve, and write the ones you received and the ones you didn’t. Compare them and see which expectations were met the most. 2016 has been such a blessing; there are things I did not even put effort in that I received, and this is not to say I am perfect, because I am not. It’s just that my Faith at the time was being tested and had to show God that I really trusted Him to see me through, and He really did show up.

What are you asking for today? A new job? A business opportunity? A new level of Peace? A long-term relationship? To maintain family unity? To be a missionary? These are great blessings, but what do you do when you do not see it come to fruition? Do you give up? Do you throw in the towel? Yes, I know how it feels, do not misunderstand me, but have you come to realise that God could be testing your motives behind it all What about your patience? How do you handle rejection when you have failed continuously? In other words, why not make rejection teach you a lesson to aim higher and divert your original plans to something more effective? The rejection you receive today should not be repeated tomorrow if you really want to see a change in your life. You would make an intentional decision to renew your mind, reflect and ponder on what you want to do.

So this is the structure that I usually take and would like to share it with you:

  • PLAN – What decisions have you made today in planning a better tomorrow?
  • PACE – How quick are you determined to meet your plans to make it come to reality?
  • POSITION – Your mindset and character should be positioned in a positive mode where you are able to see yourself at where you desire to be.

When you plan your goals whether personal or professional, you are more likely to run with the vision and set yourself in a high league where you can attain them. But, if the goals do not come to pass, you plan something else, and see if that works, (maybe trial and error). I would rather work hard and fail to know that I tried to attempt something than to think about the vision and not do anything about it, because at least I can say I’ve learnt from my mistakes. It is not enough to say you are you’re striving to achieve anything because you remember the times you’ve failed. That is not breaking out of your comfort zone, and at times this could be one of the reasons why our goals are not being met. We are far too comfortable with what we have, that we build our bed there and stay because we are afraid to branch out of our comfort.

Apply this in your workplace today; some employees do not feel motivated enough to go to work, some go to make money and pay bills, others go to develop their career and others for promotion. Regardless of your motive, how do you handle the workload in your position? If you want that promotion in your job, how do you handle people also? Are you not aware that people are watching you knowingly and unknowingly? It would feel unfair for someone who started off as an Entry Level Marketing Analyst and promoted to a Senior Marketing Analyst in 6 months, whilst someone who has been in the company for 3 years+ is still in the same position of an Entry Level Marketing Analyst. What do you think the person who was promoted to a senior role did with their time? I would assume self-encouragement and motivation, persistence and hard work that initiated the promotion.

We want the promotion, the title, the name, but are not willing to put in the effort. The way I see it, what you put in is what you will get out. It is a waste of time envying someone else’s progress. All the energy you used to do this could have been used to invest in yourself and become better, but instead, you chose to allow your feelings to control you and make you bitter.  So when you see your goals not being met, know that it is God working on your patience, your heart, and your attitude towards rejection. How you handle someone else’s success will determine how your own success will look like. If you are not happy for people when they are going up, don’t expect others to be happy for you.

In other words, if you are not willing to put in the effort now to work towards your goals, don’t assume that God will just drop everything your way and allow Him to pick up the pieces. He wants to see your input and effort to use that as proof that you are trusting Him. God’s Word tell us that working hard, but with faith in mind, can lead to great things he has planned for us. So imagine all the blessings He has lined up for us if we work hard. But please be reminded that in as much effort that you put into something, the result won’t always be what you expected. I am speaking from experience because I know of a time where I studied, researched, and spent hours on one application just to receive an email after 4 weeks saying ‘Unfortunately, we cannot take you on’. You wouldn’t believe the effort I put in, relative to an application I made a while back and received good feedback within 5 weeks.

Regardless of how the process takes, work at it with all your heart knowing and believing that something good will come your way. If you really think about it, when our prayers are met, we are very ecstatic, but how about being more determined when our prayers aren’t met. How do you handle that? When I was in a season of not working, I honestly did not see anything exciting in that, but instead of me wallowing in self-pity, I chose to make the most with my time and write a book: ‘It’s Time to Heal’ on Amazon and create a YouTube channel: ‘Esther N J’.

In our times of silence and uncertainty, that is the opportunity for us to use our free time wisely. This is not to sulk or become hard-hearted. It is a time where we must understand that what we already have, we can manage it and turn it around for our good. I used the money I saved to buy a car to invest in my book and my Canon camera whilst I was not working. I chose to do something useful with my time because as the saying goes ‘nobody knows tomorrow’.

I’ll give you four reasons as to why our prayers aren’t always answered:

  1. Gods time is not our time.
  2. Unrepentant sin is hardening our relationship with the Lord (Psalm 19:12).
  3. We are not asking in Faith (James 1:6-8).
  4. Our prayers may not be according to the Lords Will.


God has a plan for us because we are so special in His eyes. What we are asking the Lord to do may not be in accordance with His plan or purpose. If that is the case, He is not going to do what we ask; scriptures related to this can be found in 1 John 5:14-15, Matthew 6:10 and John 15:7. When your goals aren’t being met, see it as a blessing because God won’t give you anything you cannot handle. What you could be asking for could be heavier than what you expect. Don’t take what you ask for lightly. Understand why you want what you desire, not just for publicity and status.

He will always give your needs, not your want. God’s timetable is not the same as ours. He knows better than we do and when is the best time for our prayers to be answered. (Hebrews 6 :13-15). God is eternal and does not measure time as we do. 2 Peter 3:8: “Beloved, do not forget this one thing, that with the Lord one day is as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day.”

Ultimately, if we have faith and sincerely trust God, we will not be concerned as to whether the answer is “YES”, “NO” or “WAIT.” We must trust, wait to see if God in His timing will see fit to answer as we have requested, or perhaps He has something better in mind for us, I guarantee it! 🙂 There is beauty in unanswered prayers.

“Trust in and rely confidently on the Lord with all your heart and do not rely on your own insight or understanding (6) in all your ways know and acknowledge and recognise Him, and He will make your paths straight and smooth [removing obstacles that block your way]”. 

Proverbs 3:5-6 AMP).


Trust Me

John 14:1-2: “Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me (2) In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you”?. For the past few days, I have heard this scripture over and over, and I feel that I am being tested in my trust towards God. The problems that we face are not a sign that God does not love us, but that His Grace is sufficient for all our situations, and His love will enable us to endure.

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There is a song I always listen to by Richard Smallwood and its called “Trust Me”. Every time I listen to the song, it just reassures me when I trust God, I am wholly secure in Him. Some run to friends, some run to lovers, but even though they are in our lives for a reason, it does not mean that they will always have the answers to our problems. Some people however, are in our lives to push us closer to God, rather than relying on our own strength. How many of us can honestly say that they rely on their own strength to get tasks done? I know I do…

But the truth of the matter is that I just get frustrated, tired, emotionally unstable, and to some extent lazy! One day I would smile so much that my jaws would hurt; the next day I just can’t be bothered and take it out on those that truly love me and want the best of me, but because of my arrogance, I am pushing them away, which makes my situation feel worse. When we are in deep crisis, we don’t expect to be alone. We are expected to be comforted by our family, friends and loved ones. But the pain can sometimes be unbearable that you would not even want to open up; rather you choose to keep it inside of you and let your spirit be crushed.

Today, I urge you beautiful women to surrender your all to Jesus, because He really desires to hear from you. I have heard so many times that “If God already knows my needs, then why do I need to tell Him what I am going through?”. Yes He knows all your needs, but it is a time where your Faith will be tested in Him, so it is vital to be REAL WITH GOD, and tell Him what is really bugging you. God loves your honesty. Even if you want to cry, cry! Crying is good for the soul! If you want to get angry, by all means, BUT do not let the sun go down whilst your angry. So be angry for a while, but not until tomorrow morning lol!

I think the majority of us today feel as if God loves other people more than us. For example, you and your friend have both graduated at the same time. She achieved a 2:2 and you got a 2:1. Your friend got a job in less than a year, and yet you are still in the process of looking for one. From my own experience, I do not believe it is the ‘grade’ that will get you the job, it is how you carry yourself! Some tips would be:

– Your attitude
– Your mindset (Is it positive or negative?)
– Your expectations (Are your motives pure and genuine?)
– Your humility
– Your willingness to learn from others around you

All these points combined is the tools and techniques that should be used in all situations, but the GREATEST of all would be to TRUST GOD AND LET HIM DO HIS THING!! 😉. The challenge for most of us today is who we run to when trouble comes. It is very easy to run to a friend who is so close to us. Although we cannot see God psychically, we still have a strong feeling in our hearts that He is always around us, especially when we call on Him. At times, you would not need to call, your tears are ENOUGH for God to understand what you are going through.

Take worship for example; some people worship through bowing down or laying prostrate on the floor, some may speak in tongues, some cry, some are still. Regardless of your style of worship, it is still pleasing to Him. But what I am trying to help you do now is to break you out of your routine of just going to God when you need assistance. Yes He is there 24/7, but if we keep constantly running to God when problems are surrounding us, how about when God blesses us with our hearts’ desires? Will we truly remember Him then? Maybe some of the things you are going through are pulling you away from God; it’s not God that has withdrawn Himself from you, its your mind. Your mind has accused you of saying that God is not for you because you did not get that job, you did not get married when you wanted to, you did not get that promotion, you did not get to travel on behalf of your school work. These are all situations that if we are not careful can be dangerous to our health and relationships towards others.

Do not allow your current situations to block your closeness with God. God is always with you day and night. He knows the end from the beginning! He wants you to come freely just as you are. No matter what you have done, you can always be confident that His love will keep you. His love is the medicine that you need for your conscience to be clear. Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the Lord with ALL your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; (6) In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths”. One of my favourite scriptures in the Bible! This scripture I learnt from my University. It really challenged me to put my trust in God and not to lean on my own knowledge.

Yes there will be times where we will think we are right, but we should not deceive ourselves. In all things, we must learn to trust God regardless of how we feel. We should not allow our emotions to dictate what decisions to make, because emotions are subject to change. Do not allow your emotions to make you bitter, but allow them to draw you closer to the Lord. He really does listen. I know it is easier to say, but it is true! I personally cannot emphasize it enough. If I was to honestly tell you the things I have cried out to God for, and the way He answered my prayers in ways and forms that I would not expect, you would be surprised!

When you are talking to God about an issue or a burden or a crisis, God won’t always answer the way you expect Him to answer, but will do it in a way that would humble you enough to trust God in the end. Let us look at the story of Lazarus in the Bible. (Reference: John 10). So here, we see that Lazarus was a sick man. Two women Mary and Martha were with him whilst he was not feeling well. Mary and Martha informed Jesus about Lazarus’ sickness. Jesus said “His sickness will not end in death. No, it is for God’s glory so that God’s Son may be glorified through it” (v4).

Although Jesus knew that Lazarus was sick, He decided to stay two more days where He was. A few days later on His arrival, Jesus found that Lazarus had already been in the tomb for four days. Now when Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went out to meet him, but Mary stayed at home. Martha had questioned Jesus saying that if He would had been there, Lazarus would not have died, but Jesus had to reassure Martha that Lazarus will rise again. Jesus was trying to convince her that anyone who believes in Him shall rise again. Now when Jesus saw Mary weeping and the Jews who had come along with her started to weep too, He was deeply moved in Spirit and troubled. There will be times in our lives where Jesus Himself will be upset with us because of our lack of Faith in Him.

The more we choose to distrust God and elevate our feelings, the less we can see the Power of God work in our lives. The Jews were always trying to challenge Jesus and mock Him saying that if He could open the eyes of a blind man, why can’t he not deliver a dead man. It does not surprise me by how many people would try to put you down because they only see your weakness, and not your strength. It occurs to me most of the time that people in life will always want to expose your faults just to make themselves ‘look righteous’, but as long as you do not give in to those people, you will be totally secure! With Jesus now, He did not have time to argue with these Jews for He knew His worth from the beginning! When you know that you are blessed and anointed, you do NOT have time to answer your critics! This is truly for someone, because I have a strong feeling in my heart that some of us women are wasting our time trying to win and convince people to believe that they are great!


You are not great from a man’s viewpoint; you are great from God’s viewpoint!! Let this stay in your mind. Jesus shouted from the tomb “Lazarus, come out” and eventually he came out and lived. It is amazing how Jesus, regardless of all the haters and critics, still done His job effectively. Why is that? Because He trusted His Father in Heaven to help Him. He did not even need to run to His disciples for guidance or advice because He knew there was only one person He could rely on. The more you rely on God, the more stronger you become, and the more wiser you become in dealing with your critics. Sometimes, in order to get to the top, you will need to work in silence, if not darkness, and allow God to bring you into the light. You cannot force your way through until God says so!

Our lives should be an indication to other people out there who are finding it hard to trust God in every situation they face. Some people want quick solutions which makes it look like they have got the victory, only to realise that they are back to square one. Whilst others are out there searching for God wholeheartedly. And although the situation is taking long, they still have enough FAITH to believe that all things are working together for their good for those who love the Lord. (Romans 8:28). Ladies, in the good and bad times, God is good! We should not allow the enemy, the world or society tell us otherwise. The only person you will end up trusting is God Himself! When everyone around you has failed and disappointed you, you will realise that all along, God was with you, holding your hand, wiping your tears, keeping you company, and most importantly, giving you opportunity after opportunity to live every blessed day!

When you can trust God, God will also be able to trust you. When you invest in Him, He too will also do the same. God can only invest in people He can trust. If you are crying about a job because you want more money, your finances will be tested. He will test you on how you use it in terms of what you buy. You cannot buy what you want and beg for what you need. It does not work that way. A savings account would be essential if you really want to get a reliable job with financial stability. He sees your heart so no matter what you do, He knows your inner motives. Be wise with your money ladies. Yes it is good to look good, but investing in things that will not add value to your life is a waste! I tell you now: God will wreck your plans when He sees that your plans are about to wreck you! You would think that it is harsh, but it is out of love. The plans you think are good for you, may be the same plans that could delay you of the REAL BLESSING God has in store for you!

Trust 1

Remember to not worry about tomorrow, for every day has its own problems of its own. We cannot control what goes on in our lives, but there will always be one solution, and that is to TRUST GOD! So I ask you, who are you really trusting?? Be wise in who you trust! Let God be your one and only. He wants to hear from you. Be real with Him and He will be real with you. He is not the one who is moving away from you. Your problems are not meant to make you move away from Him; your problems are meant to draw you CLOSER to Him so that He can speak to you directly. Do not make assumptions based on how God works. So because you sinned last night, you think God is punishing you based on that sin? No no, God is not like that. He is just and fair and faithful! As long as you apologise and confess, He won’t even remember what you did because He loves you UNCONDITIONALLY! Remember that God’s promises will only be revealed when your trust is in Him!

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Remember the more you trust God, the more He AMAZES YOU! My love goes out to you all!

God bless you richly 🙂