It’s Okay Not To Be Okay

Why do we put so much pressure on ourselves each time we wake up and see a new day?

What causes us to become so discontent with what we have that causes bitterness in our hearts towards others?

How do we use what we go through to inspire and create a platform to voice out and help others in need?

What kind of solution are you going to create to help those who are about to give up?

I will keep saying this; IT IS OKAY NOT TO BE OKAY. I don’t always have it together and I don’t worry about it because the more you worry, the more it will affect your health. Please note this. It is fine to have your plans wrecked, it is okay not to have everything under your control. There are always logical reasons behind this. I remember a time my friend had an interview and was late for around 5/6 minutes. My friend did not get the job. My friend then applied for the same job but closer to home and finally received the job. My friends concern was how am I going to survive without having a job, not realising that ‘distance’ was not taken into account and this is what at times we take for granted.

We want something so badly that we rush the process and apply for anything; however we have not calculated the consequences (the length of journey) in this case to even consider if we will make it ‘on time’. Please know that when a rejection letter comes, it is not them rejecting you; it is them rejecting your ‘potential lateness’. Do not write yourself off and feel you don’t add value. Only someone who is not breathing doesn’t add value. You are alive and well reading this post so believe when I say you will be okay.

It is okay not to have everything together; Rome was not built in a day, neither can we expect our lives to be the way we want it to be in one day. It is a process that we must not forfeit and keep going until the victory is won. Some days will be harder but it will get better. You will smile again; you will laugh again; you will love again, but throughout the journey, learn something from it. Take it and use to your advantage.

You have a purpose; you are worthy and you matter. Don’t write yourself off just because someone else did. There are people who you know and don’t know that watch you whether it is through social media, videos or your website. Don’t hide yourself for fear of being judged. Let transparency speak for itself. People invest in those that are real and honest about what they go through. Don’t ‘pretend’. We have enough pretence in our generation that we NOW need truth and selflessness. Remember: it is okay not to be okay.

Love Esther.

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If you don’t thank Him now, when will you thank Him?

Are you waiting for everything to go well in your life before you realise the importance of thanking God during your trial seasons? For me, I have been in sticky situations whereby I ‘waited’ for my problems to gently die down before I could really serve my Father. But the less I praised Him, the more problems arose. Have you ever been in a situation where you feel that your prayers and thanksgiving have been so powerful that no other problem or obstacle will come your way? I have…

It can be very easy to praise God depending on our circumstances, but why should we wait until things get better before we acknowledge Him? We are living in a society where pressure is constantly increasing; the way we look, what we eat, what music we should listen to, the clothes we wear, the job we should have, the finances we should be earning etc. I was talking to a friend a few days ago and was speaking on behalf of materialistic things. Realistically, we need shoes, clothes, money, food, etc. But why should we be so overly concerned with all these things? In order for you to remember to run back to your first love and serve Him, why not reflect back over your life and meditate on the good things God has done for you?

There were times in our lives when we done things that were not at all pleasing to God, yet He still forgave us. Maybe we laughed at someone who thought they could not make it in life; maybe we thought too deep into our own concerns that we did not have time to think about others; maybe we did not give God the full acknowledgement and recognition that He truly deserves…all these things we do, and yet God loves us!! So I say, if we do not thank Him now, when will you thank Him? Will you thank Him when things are getting better, or would it be beneficial if we all thank Him during the painful process? Life is a process, life is a painful process, but in the end, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

Always have in mind that thanking God is a high form of respect, and that is what He truly deserves! God does not need us to ask for our permission to serve Him, that is what we are created to do! We must always have this in our minds. When we wake up, when we prepare for bed, when we study the Word, we must always thank Him in advance because when having that attitude, it allows more blessings to pour out for us that we will not have enough room to receive them. (Malachi 3:10). Let us always be on our guards to serve God in thanksgiving. I know life can be hard, really, it can be. But we must remember to always be thankful. Yes you may not have enough time to spend with God every morning, but just to say to Him “This is the day that you have made for me, I shall rejoice and be glad in it” is a form of thanksgiving. We are not only thanking God for what He has done in our past, and our present, but also our futures too! We are also thanking Him for the people God has placed in our lives, and the ones He has taken out of our lives.

Everything happens for the purpose of Gods Glory. When a door opens, thank Him; when a door closes, thank Him! Regardless of the outcome, He is working EVERYTHING OUT FOR YOUR GOOD! It may seem painful now, but we shall get there! Encourage someone today to continually thank God for all He has done! Let us not take the gift of life for granted! Because we know our God is Faithful, it can be forgetful to thank Him for life, but in all things, let us appreciate the fact that we can breathe and is healthy. Keep thanking Him in the hard moments, there is a reason behind your pain. Give thanks with a grateful heart!

thankfulness

 

Are you content?

Contentment

 

What is holding you back? What is making you complain so much that you do not realise what you have? I know it can be hard! I have been there as well! But can you look back on your life and really dwell on the good things that has happened? The blessings, the love, the family in your life, the career, protection? All these things we have and even more! It’s just time we start to realise it!

The question I usually ask myself is ‘What makes me content?’ Is it having a lot of clothing, or having the best job that pays generate amounts every month? Would you be able to define contentment for me? From what I believe it is, it is being grateful for the things you have now, and not complaining about what you do not have. From a biblical perspective, Paul was talking about how he was content for all he had, although he did have some needs and desires. He stated this in Philippians 4 verse 11: “Not that I am implying that I was in any personal want, for I have learned how to be content (satisfied to the point where I am not disturbed or disquieted) in whatever state I am”.

Paul stressed the importance of contentment and about how he has fixed his mind on being content regardless of the circumstance he is in. It is very important to remember what we have, and use it to the best of our ability. It may be a job that you are working at. A lot of time, society can define you by where you work. For example, if your someone who works at McDonald’s or Primark, society may classify you in a way that you aint ‘in the now’. But do not allow this to define you. You must know who you are! You are not where you work, but it is how you define the situation that makes the difference.

You may work at these organisations, but are you using it to build your skill set? The role you are in now is shaping you towards your future. Where you are now, God knows why! It is not a mistake! He knows why you are still where you are. Don’t feel because you are not living the ‘high life’ that you cannot enjoy your position. I recall a time in previous years where being  ungrateful took over. I would complain about little things, cry my eyes out, look at others and what they have and compare it to my situation, and not realise how much God had blessed me. Even up till now, I can say I am a living witness to the Goodness of God! I may not have everything I desire now, but when God says it is time for Him to bless me, I will wait with high expectations!

Remind yourself always to wake up happy and joyful. Why? Because ‘this is the day that the Lord has made…we shall rejoice and be glad in it!’. The most important thing you and I have today is LIFE! Life is the greatest gift of all! We tend to take it for granted because we know we have a good God that wakes us up everyday! But can you imagine those who cannot wake up on their own? Maybe those who slept last night and didn’t make it the next day? How about those who have to be supervised to get up each morning? Yes you would say ‘but I am not them’; this is why we have to be content in every situation! Lets always be happy! Regardless of what comes our way! Some people can annoy you, and yes they will, but should you allow that to disrupt your happiness? No…make a decision to always thank God for all you have! There is always someone out there who would love to be in your position!

Do not take your position for granted! There is a reason why you are there! For now, hang in there, because it will only get better! Your best days are surely ahead of you! Continue to be grateful and content for the things you have! Some day, God will use what you have and take you to your destiny! In the meantime, keep encouraging others and ensure you inform them on the importance of contentment 🙂

 

TO BE CONTENT DOESN’T MEAN YOU DON’T DESIRE MORE, IT MEANS YOU ARE THANKFUL FOR WHAT YOU HAVE AND PATIENCE FOR WHAT’S TO COME! 

 

Don’t lose your focus!

Focus

I wonder why it can be difficult to keep focused on what we are supposed to set our minds to. Could it be that we ourselves make it difficult, or would you suggest that it’s the people you surround yourself with that make it hard? So many questions can go through ones mind. It is very easy for us to ‘over-think’ things and assume that our situations will never change…well let me tell you something…DO NOT LOSE YOUR FOCUS! Yes, it is easier said than done, but keep your mind-set on things that above! (Ref: Colossians 3 v 2). Remember we must constantly renew our minds. The renewal of the mind does not happen overnight; it happens with a decision. Not only with a decision, but how you position yourself to be. I could decide to allow negativity to overtake my mind, but I choose not to. Why? Because I do not want to lose my focus!

I was talking to my friend yesterday and she was telling me that ‘we do not have enough time’ If you do not understand what that means, it is basically saying that whatever your calling is, do it with all of your heart, as tomorrow is not promised. Our focus should always be on our Father who will enable us to stay on the right path. Wonder how this world would be if we just focused on the one who gives us His time everyday. The one who wakes us up each morning. The one who leads us out in safety and brings us back in safety. If we make a conscious decision to keep our focus on God, you will have peace in your heart. You won’t have time for quarrels or arguments. Why? Because you have decided to keep your focus on the right source which is the Word of God. Keep studying the Word, and you will enjoy your life.

We tend to lose focus from the following reasons:

  • Societal changes
  • Peer pressure

  • Temptation(s)

  • Negative attitude(s)

  • Lack of forgiveness

  • Comparison towards other people – (This is one that we are fond of doing knowingly and unknowingly)

 

If we keep doing these things, we cannot expect our minds to be free. Being free starts from within. Being focused starts from within. You must wake up every day and start your day with a smile. Being your day with Jesus by thanking Him for allowing you to see another day. Once you commit your day into the Lords hands, all you do shall prosper. Why worry about tomorrow when everyday has its own troubles of its own? You do not need to add any more stress to your day by having a negative attitude. Instead you should seek God and pray. In Matthew 6 verse 33 it says that we should “Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and everything else shall be added unto you”. What better feeling it is to put your focus on God rather than man.

Has it ever occurred to you that man will change, but God will never change! Ladies, we need to be reminded of this on a daily basis. Lets be aware of the fact that it is only God that can grant you His peace! Not as the world gives, but His extraordinary peace that nothing in this world can buy. God is not cheap! He deserves your focus and your time, so give Him what He deserves. Let us make a decision today and confess that we shall focus on God. Initially, you will eventually know when your focus is on God. When things that used to bother you don’t bother you anymore, you are on the right track. Yes the enemy will come and remind you of your past, remind you of what you done last night, but once you have asked God for forgiveness, what more is there to ask? Even before you open your mouth, God already knew what you were going to say.

Lets remind ourselves that we are not here to entertain anyone. We must keep our minds focused on what is important. But what is really important to you? God should be the first important person in your life. Once you have that in mind, everything else will fall in place.

Note: WHEN THE ENEMY ATTACKS YOU, IT IS BECAUSE HE SAW THE NEW THING GOD WAS GOING TO DO IN YOUR LIFE…THAT MUST MEAN SOMETHING GOOD IS ON THE WAY…SO KEEP YOUR FOCUS!