Where real love is, there is growth

Real love

1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.

Love is the greatest gift of all. We all need to be loved, adored and cherished by those we classify as close to us, including family, friends and loved ones. Love is the foundation of a good solid relationship because it chooses to look beyond ones’ faults. It says regardless of how much you have caused me pain, I choose to accept you as you are. Your love can set someone free today. Maybe someone has done you wrong, and you know how much they have hurt you. It takes a humble individual to swallow their pride and accept ones’ apology. The world we live in is failing in the area of love, so as true believers, let us be the light that shines bright and loves without no limits.

When I am writing my journal, I always express how my day went and what happened. Then when I remember what someone did to me, maybe a name pops up in my head, it draws me back, making it harder to function and prevents me from enjoying my ‘now moment’. If someone has offended me, I would write it down, as this helps me release the emotions and toxic thoughts controlling my mind, but eventually, this tends to create a pattern of bitterness, resentment, and anger. When people do you wrong, do you choose to dwell on it, or let it go? It is not always easy to love those that have spitefully used you, and sometimes it still keeps coming back. I personally believe that when these situations do arise, one should be wise about guarding their heart, for out of it flows the issues of life (Proverbs 4:23).

Matthew [22:39] does say that we should “love our neighbour as we love ourselves” because if we love who we are, it should not be difficult to love others. People should see the love of God in us. Why? Because GOD IS LOVE and He requires us to love people because He created us in His own image. It is not enough to say you love God but dislike your neighbour. Now please do not misunderstand me here, yes, love is a great healing tool that binds and restores broken family issues and relational and friendship divisions, however, one must be wise about the thoughts they are carrying because the mind is our battlefield. We must endeavour to ensure that our thoughts are aligned not only to His Word but to the His true purpose, and what is His purpose? LOVE! Love is the reason why we are living today and love should be the reason that you show others, especially those who you think do not deserve it. After all, we do not even deserve His unmerited, undeserved Grace, so what makes us so special to ‘choose’ who we want to love?

I strongly believe you can love people, but not carry the WEIGHT of people. There is a difference. You will have to be intentional about those who surround you, in particular, your inner circle. If you have a group of friends that you know influence you well, it is very easy to love them. But those who you find hard to reach out to, you never know, God could be using them to test you according to the Fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). One of the fruits that the Father is currently teaching me about is ‘self-control’. We all need it, no-one is exempt from it.  We are sensitive beings and must understand the importance of compassion, a love that is never-failing. We all need support from time to time; but the real focus here is that when someone treats you wrong, it shouldn’t make us change our character towards the situation and start taking it out on other people. We must understand and know that with self-control, we have power over our circumstance. It takes a mature individual to notice ones’ inconsistent behaviour but still chooses to love them regardless. Still chooses to speak good things about them. Still chooses to help them when they fail. This results in growth, because where real love is, there is growth.

Have you ever responded unbecomingly to a situation (with anger or impatience), and thought, ‘Who is this person? I thought I was nice!’ Sometimes, we think we already have the fruit of the Spirit fully developed in us, simply because we are Christians. But when we are caught off guard, or our fruit is ‘squeezed’, we find out just how undeveloped the fruit in us actually is. These incidents are TESTS that are actually good for us because they help us know the areas where we are weak and still need to grow.

The more you practice displaying the fruit of self-control in your thoughts, words, and actions, the riper the fruit will become. I encourage you to depend on God’s Grace (undeserved favour and blessing) to work through you to produce the fruit needed. If we try to love with our natural instinct, we set ourselves up for failure, because human love is based on terms and conditions, but God’s love is unconditional. We must endeavour to love like God does. This takes hard work and effort and will not happen overnight. We will see authentic growth when we love genuinely, not for bribes, charm or bad intentions. God has given us the ability to care and tender for people, because if someone was to hurt your feelings, how would you like it? It is so easy to criticise and look down on those that have offended you, but remember to check yourself to ensure that you are guilt-free from anyone you may have offended too. Don’t be looking at me when you have a big beam in your eye Matthew 7:3. Choose love over hypocrisy.

How is your love life today? Are you loving those who love you back, and disliking those who dislike you back? What makes you stand out from the crowd? Anyone can love someone who loves them, but it takes a mature-minded individual to swallow their ego and say “I am really sorry about what happened last week, I want to make it up to you”. Yes, it may look weak, but in Gods’ eyes, you are STRONG! Not a lot of us today can humble ourselves to do this. Jesus IS our prime example of how we should consistently remain focused on loving others. When you are able to let go of your emotions and pride, and allow Him to strip you off all the baggage you have been carrying, then you will freely be able to love with a sincere heart, and all that you have been seeking for will come your way. The more love, the more growth, the less love, the less you grow. It is your decision.

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Let’s Make Christ Fun!


Hello everyone and Merry Christmas to you. May we remember that today marks a special moment for our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Through His birth, it enables me and you to enjoy the life we are living today!

I will be speaking from the perspective of Evangelism as it is very dear to my heart. Now in today’s society, a lot of people want to see before they believe. I personally have been finding it quite tricky trying to convince unbelievers that Jesus is real. But for me, I tend to prove Jesus’ existence through the way I live, talk and conduct myself.

It is a blessing when you can walk into a room and people can already sense the love of God in you. Our young adults of today want to see more than “Jesus loves You”, but how you relate to one another. It is good to express the love of Jesus to our neighbor, but I strongly believe there is more we can do to make Christ fun!

A work colleague recently told me that a Christian lady approached her and a friend. The Christian lady asked both of them if they were Christians; their reply was no. All of a sudden she said “You are going to hell!”. In my heart when my colleague shared this with me, I was highly upset for the reason that these two ladies were not given the opportunity of being a Christian. Secondly, the way in which the Christian lady replied was quite harsh. I don’t believe Christ in His days would say “If you don’t believe in Me, you are going straight to hell”. No, He shows the love through healing the sick, delivering the blind, helping the lame etc. All these little kind gestures are what turns unbelievers to Jesus. We too must learn to show Christ through our love. How we treat people are evident examples of how we can make Christ fun. We should not make others feel bad because they don’t believe, however we must learn to pray for them behind closed doors so that God will intervene in their lives.

It made me even think deeper about the scenario because I was thinking what do unbelievers perceive Christians as. There is no perfect Christian out there, we are all trying our best to live Holy lives, but what makes me happy is knowing that Christ, regardless of our sinful nature still has our best interests at heart. There truly is NO CONDEMNATION IN CHRIST JESUS!

John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life”. To me, this is more than love, it is evangelizing to people who don’t know Christ as of yet. This is a very great way to start ministering to someone, not telling them about hell on the spot. It will scare some unbelievers and they will assume Christianity is some sort of ‘religion’ when really its more of a relationship between others.

Jesus did not come in the world to condemn, no He came that we may have a strong relationship with Him and with others also. Let us not feel insecure by the way we reach out to people. Before I would always feel bad for walking past someone if I did not share the love of Jesus with them, but now I ask God for wisdom to direct and guide me to those that are going to listen. Because let us be real, it is not everyone that wants to listen, however the good thing is that we can put them in our prayers.

We need to make Christ fun ladies! Let’s not put so much pressure on ourselves but be TRUE REPRESENTATIVES ON EARTH FOR HIM! After all He died for us. If you don’t know how to evangelize to someone about the love of Christ, please do not worry. There are several ways to speak, it’s not just only through word and action. Even good deeds are special in the eyes of unbelievers. Helping them in their studies, taking them out to dinner, meeting their family members are unique ways that they will see Christ in you, and eventually start to follow your footsteps.

As we approach the ending of this year, let us make a decision that in 2016 we will make Christ even more FUN! He is not boring and never will be! Pray and ask that God will strengthen your relationship with Him further in this new year. Remember your life is a reflection of Christ’s love. Let us make the most of it and enjoy every moment with Him and remember that Jesus is the reason for the Christmas Season.

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