The day-to-day struggles we face to live a better life is becoming increasingly hectic and frustrating. We tend to judge our lives on how successfully financial we are, what occupation we do, and the crowd we have around us. The struggle for most women of today is ‘feeling good about themselves’. So many times I am seeing on Facebook the amount of people who post pictures of their body parts; they spend large sums of money to increase their breasts and hips for it to look smaller, only to find out that it made them look twice as bad.
In times like this, it helps me to appreciate my flaws and insecurities. No matter how you feel, someone in your eyes will be prettier than you. Someone will always be smarter than you. Someone’s house will be bigger. Someone will drive a better car than you. Someone will earn more than you. Someone will travel more than you. Just let it go and breathe. Take care of yourself woman. Love yourself and your current circumstance for you know it will pass. The prettiest, slimmest woman in the world may have sadness in her heart.
The most highly favored woman at your workplace may not be able to have children. That married friend of yours might not be happy in her marriage. The richest woman you know may have the car, the house, and the clothes, but might be very lonely. So my encouragement for you today is; LOVE YOURSELF REGARDLESS OF YOUR STRUGGLE. Love who you are right now and tell yourself “I am too blessed to be stressed”. We must be reminded always that your struggles do not define you. Let us just be real ladies, everyone is struggling; we can try paint it by wearing make-up over our problems, partying every single night, but it still does not mean we won’t face certain situations.
I do not know what you may be going through, but there were times where I myself wanted to throw in the towel. I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. Everything I done was not working; the friends I spoke to about regarding my situation wasn’t working out for me. Prayed, fasted, went to church, still to no avail. Instead rather than me complaining about what did not work in my life, I decided to thank God for all the things He has done for me. Sometimes life may not always give you what you want, but God has always provided what you need. There is a comparative difference between ‘want’ and ‘need’. What we want is something that is based on how we feel, when we think it is relevant for us (emotions), but what we need are the vital things, so for example, a home to live in, food to eat.
Most times, it seems that we know better than God so we try to plan our lives ahead of Him because He is ‘taking too long’. But I have come to realise that a blessing given too soon is not a blessing at all. God loves you enough that He is willing to WAIT until the time is right for you to have what you desire. Some things given too soon could kill you, It may not be in the form of physical possessions; maybe you have lost a family member that you were not aware of, or you heard bad news about what your friend did the other night. You come back from work and as soon as you get in, guess what you hear? Bad news! Who wants to receive that from a long days work?
Somethings we have to be very cautious about before we start complaining. We rush God to do something when we want it to be done, and when He gives it to us, we complain that it is too difficult to handle. NOTE: Ladies, when you ask God for something, EXPECT TO STRUGGLE! There is struggle in progress! I know some of us do not like going through processes but it is the only way we can achieve our goals and aspirations. I tell you, the struggle is real out here. The struggle of getting a decent job, the struggle of holding your family together, the struggle of spending less, the struggle of fitting in. I tell you it is not easy!!
The tears that we cry touch the heart of God, that He understands every tear that falls from your eyes. You are not exempt from being blessed. It may feel that everyone around you is getting blessed but you, however you must remember that GOD SAVES THE BEST FOR LAST. Yes there will be critics that will critically analyse you based on your current situation and assume that you have done something wrong. But you must keep it moving. Do not let the talkatives weigh you down. You are not here to entertain them.
To conclude, everyone has a struggle, whether it is individual, financial, academic, spiritual, social, physical, mental. The one thing we all have in common is that it will all work our for our good! (Romans 8:28). If we keep working together, helping each other, completing each other, and encouraging one another, we will be able to tackle a struggle one step at a time. So would you join hands with me?