Your Destiny Is Too Important


Your life isn’t a mistake. God created you to have a prosperous destiny. “Before God formed you in the belly, He knew you” (Jeremiah 1:5). Some of us get stuck in several areas where we do not know or understand why we are in our situated predicaments. Some may be in their current jobs with no promotion, others may have received their blessings without struggle, but what I am here to inform you about is that your destiny is just too important for you to miss regardless of where you are. Whether you are struggling with keeping it all together, trying to stitch the pieces so they do not break or fall out, you are secured in the Lord Jesus.

You may think that where you are right now is where you are going to be forever, but my sister that is not so. Without the test, there will be no testimony. Without struggle, there will be no triumph. As I previously stated in some of my blog posts, I find it very difficult to confide in those who haven’t struggled to obtain anything in life. When I go through my own personal problems, I find it easier to communicate with someone who is in a similar situation, because they relate to my pain. My sisters in Christ, your pain serves a purpose!!! Your destiny is kin to your pain so the things that are driving you insane is what is going to push you into the next level of your destiny.

It won’t always be easy, and it will be uncomfortable (Please read ‘Uncomfortable Environments’ on my blog post). You may have to lose some friends and gain new friends to find yourself. There are some people in your life that you love so dearly, but you know genuinely in your heart that they are not for you. It will only take the strength of God to cut them off. I found it hard to cut a friend off in my years of study. I loved her like a sister, but because of the number of people who got involved in our friendship, it made things worse. I honestly did not think our friendship had come to an end, but God said “It is time”. I may not know what you are going through, but what I can assure you is that your destiny is going to be greater than your pain. There are some people in your life right now that stress you out and give you a hard time to enjoy your life, but you have to love them when they come, and love them when they go. You cannot allow people to control your happiness anymore.

One thing I learnt when losing my friend was that is can be dangerous to love so much that you become so attached to them, whereby you cannot do anything by yourself. I struggled with this a lot in my teenage years where I couldn’t do anything by myself, and always felt the need to bring a friend with me. As I matured, I realised that life is you and the world. It will not always surround itself with people who love you. Sometimes you have to walk this journey alone, and it will include the destiny God has for you also. At times, you will notice people being funny, but that is just a sign that their time in your life is up. So there is no need trying to fix the situation. Whatever will be will be. When Jesus carried His cross, where were His disciples? There will be times that tasks will have to be met on your own. It is like an exam. You may have friends that work together, but on the day of the exam, it is just you writing that paper. When you can grasp that concept, you are more likely to be at peace, however it does NOT exempt the fact that God’s presence is not with you. God will ALWAYS be with you in your time of separation.

Destiny 1

God knows everything that is happening in your life right now. God has given each of us a destiny – something to do in this life, something only YOU CAN DO. God has already wired you with certain ambitions, goals and desires. Ephesians 2:10 says “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things He planned for us long ago”. Before you were born, God gave you a unique mixture of spiritual gifts, passions, abilities, personalities, and experiences. There’s no one like you in the entire universe because, in part, there’s no one with your unique mix of talents. Therefore, it is why your destiny is so unique, so you do not need to have sleepless nights worrying about what tomorrow will bring because everybody is at a different stage. Learn to love the stage you’re in because it is just temporary. If life on earth is temporary, what makes you think that your problems are permanent?!

Your destiny has your name on it, not your mother’s, not your father’s and certainly not your friends. Even our parents may not always understand where we are going in life, but what helps me to know is that at the right time, God will reveal to our parents and guardians who we truly are and where we are going. Your destiny is coming with tribulations; however they won’t last, for if you saw the size of the blessing coming, you would understand the magnitude of the battle you are fighting. Sometimes you are going to have to fight to reach your destiny. When Jesus said “‘It Is FINISHED”, He knew that His purpose was fulfilled. A lot of people may not have understood what He meant by saying that. Even the chief priests and critics came to a realization and knew that this truly was the Son of God. For if they have known before hand, they would not have crucified Him. Sometimes, people will tend to judge you PREMATURELY, until they realise you are not who they said you were!


On the other side of destiny, if we are not careful with the gifts that God has given us, we are more likely to go astray. Why do I say that? Because Social Media is having such a heavy impact on our generation today. The music we listen to, the way celebrities dress and how we desire to imitate them, the pressure to get all your plans met by a specific age; all these things can be detrimental to the soul. I know the intensity of looking good on the outside is having a mental shake up for some of us. We don’t feel beautiful until we buy the best make-up or dress a certain way. It is a sad thing when people define you by what you wear, but God already knows your name. Isn’t that more important? Instead of allowing the pressures of people and the world to define you, speak to God about your purpose and ask Him for full focus, because the world will live in is surely a distraction! Real focus is key when walking into your destiny.

Destiny 2

Some of you may have the talent to encourage and motive others. That is a very unique gift that not a lot of people have. I can confidently say that this is my gift, and it is already leading me into my destiny. For others, it is helping women overcome sexual abuse from men. We all have a gift which coincides with our destiny, but the way in which our gifts is to be birthed is by submitting them to Christ first. You cannot be successful on your own, no matter how hard you try. I am a strong believer of teamwork. Without teamwork, all plans will fail. There are some people in your life right now who are pushing you into your destiny, you may never know. I have three solid spirit-filled sisters right now who I never thought I would encounter this year. They have all challenged me in unique ways to be better and do better. When God brings people like this your way, thank Him because I tell you they do not come easily.


Every day is an opportunity to work closer to your destiny. It’s about being more like God and less like the world. The world cannot offer us anything; we can try partying our sorrows away, drinking our sorrows away, smoking our sorrows away, but it just won’t solve a thing! There will always be problems after problems, so we really must endeavour to seek God for what He wants us to do for His Kingdom. Ladies, I really want to see you grow in the Lord, and to know your God-given purpose. Life is not building your own empire expecting people to follow you. We are all a team and we must work hand in hand to fulfill each other’s destiny paths. Your path may not be the same as my path, but I am fully assured that when we have the right motive to see people do well, we too will succeed in every area of our lives.

Finally, don’t allow society or people to define who you are and what you should be doing. Where you are right now is where your meant to be, so don’t question it. Wake up every morning knowing that God is working something special in your life. God is not okay with you fulfilling half of your destiny. He’s not okay with you fulfilling a part of it. God is going to make sure you complete what He put you here to do. No day should be the same for you but should challenge you to come out of your comfort zone and walk towards your destiny because YOU ARE IMPORTANT! I love you all!

Destiny and Purpose


This week, I was informed by two women that a loved one had passed away due to cancer. I was in shock because it is still just the beginning of a brand new year, and to hear such news as this was disheartening. To me, I just felt the need to encourage and support these women as it is a hard situation. I allowed myself to be me in the process and to let them know that they are not alone, and that they have all the support they need. Sometimes one of the hardest things Christians face is being ‘real’. It can be embarrassing to some, yet intimidating because when you are surrounded with unbelievers, it feels that you need to be exactly like them just to fit in. But we are reminded to always stand out. Although we are in the world, we are not of the world.


So what is transparency? Transparency is based on your individual character and how you portray it towards other people. In other words, it’s about being the real you regardless of what comes your way. You could be in a position where you find it difficult to share the Gospel to a friend, because you are afraid of what they will think of you. You may be afraid to let others know who you are. I remember someone telling me that you don’t always need to shout ‘I am a Christian’, because your attitude and lifestyle should be evident to those you are helping. Most people should know that you are a Christian through the way you speak, the things you do, and the way you relate to people.


Don’t deny your feelings – Feelings on the other hand can result to us not being transparent because they tend to have a strong grip on us if we are not careful. It can lead to self-pity, condemnation or anxiety. However, there is nothing wrong with feelings per se. Feelings are simply our emotional reactions to certain events or thoughts. Feelings can either be pleasant or unpleasant. Emotions filled the Psalms. For example, when Jesus wept in John 11:35-36. Ephesians 4:26 acknowledges anger as a valid emotion; it doesn’t say, “Don’t be angry because anger is a sin.” The issue is what we do when we are angry. We can be human and Christian at the same time. My question to you is, can you truly be transparent as a Christian and still be angry? It would be a challenge for some because if you are led by your emotions, you may say some things that should have not been said at all.


Another example was when Jesus was praying to God in Luke 22:42 it says “Father, if You are willing, remove this cup from Me, yet not My will, but always Yours be done”. Jesus Himself was being transparent because He acknowledged His feelings and portrayed an honest request not to go through the Crucifixion. Jesus knew that He was facing not only the agony of crucifixion but also the trauma of taking on the sins of the world upon His sinless self, and being separated from the Father. At the same time, Jesus did not deny the Father. He said, “Let your will be done” in Matthew 26:42. So we can see here that not only did He deny His feelings, He was open to the fact that He knew what was ahead of Him, and the suffering that He would have to endure, however the statement in Matthew 26:42 clearly states that the decision is given to God Himself. Whatever God tells Him to do, that is what He will do. This is what we as believers should remember. When God is speaking to us, we should not harden our hearts, but we should willingly and openly obey the Father to whatever He desires us to do.

Through transparency, we can build close relationships with other people, and be honest. I believe everyone deserves honesty not only in a relationship, but in friendships, at work, at social events etc. For example, if your manager was to give you a task, you would you want to work effectively to boost your performance. However, it would be highly appreciated if you received some feedback based on your performance, to see what you can do to improve for next time. If we do not take the time to adhere to the necessary feedback given to us, how can we excel in our lives? We can’t expect to be better than yesterday if we don’t comply with feedback.

I believe that transparency with God is the foundation for inter-personal transparency. If we cannot tell God what is on our minds and hearts then how can we do the same with another people? God knows all about us and yet accepts us just as we are (Romans 5:8). It us very vital that we are being honest with the Father, and telling Him what is really on our minds. We must also be able to understand other people without being judgmental. Being able to tell a friend the truth about what you are really going through will make that person respect you the more because you have made a decision not to cover it up, but reveal it. A really good way to start opening up to people is by having small group chats with people you know you can trust, or even with family members. Should a leader publicize every secret she’s ever shared with God? No. Should she divulge every private sin that has ever entangled her? Of course not! Be discreet in what you say. Do not feel you have to show all your failings to the group.


Modelling Transparency

  • When we are honest in our prayer requests, others feel safer revealing their burdens.
  • When we tell stories about something that happened in our life, that truth is more likely to penetrate their hearts, not just their heads.
  • When our disclosures suggest that we are not self-sufficient and that we need to lean on Christ and other believers, people are less likely to live independently and more likely to seek the help that they need.


The Benefits of Being a Transparent Leader

  • Your transparency will enhance your relationship with group members and facilitate more one-on-one ministry with them. Your group members will view you as approachable and feel safer talking to you about needs they might not want to reveal to the entire group.
  • Your transparency will develop a deeper level of sharing among group members. They will be less superficial because you have set the pace. They will not feel alone or like a second-class Christian because their leader has already demonstrated authenticity.


So as a result, we can see that transparency is vital not just for ourselves, but for other people who are surrounded by us. It is critical that we know when to speak, and when not to speak, but the main focus is to be real and take off the mask that is covering the truth. Being transparent requires a level of openness to comfort and bear one another’s burdens, to forgive one another, and to care for one another. Remember that TRANSPARENCY IS THE KEY TO INTIMACY WITH GOD. Transparency is the new truth and is removing the mask to reveal who you really are. It is getting beyond the surface to what is really going on in your heart. A lack of transparency on the other hand results in distrust and a deep sense of insecurity.