Mature & Fully Assured

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There will come a time in your life where your Faith will be tested, and they come very unexpectedly. You wake up one day, full of the Spirit, getting ready for work, until something kicks in. Your time of joy has turned into bitterness. You assume things in your mind that may not even be true. You think you’re alright, but the truth of the matter is, you really aren’t. You are broken but you don’t want to show it for fear of what people will see you as, so you decide to buy clothes you can’t afford to please people who never notice you.

You wear the best make-up and buy the most expensive perfume for the lad to notice you, but doesn’t really know the true worth inside of you. The pain is unbearable isn’t it? You must be in your silent season; a season where God wants to fully assure you that everything is going to be okay; a season where He wants your undivided attention so that the things you have been dreaming of won’t become your main priority; a season where you can truly say that you are coming back to the ‘heart of worship’.

Sisters, we are all broken and flawed in some ways. Whether it is physical, mental, emotional or spiritual. Every day we are trying to fight one battle after the other. We try our best to make ourselves happy, even if that is trying to seek for the wrong attention to be noticed. In this time and age today, so much pressure has been added on to women and how they look. Some are even killing others just to be ahead of them, I mean, really? When did life become a competition?

The unity of women today is seriously having an effect on the church today. There needs to be more unity and togetherness, because in that, we can grow and mature into what God wants us to be, and how He can use us for His Glory. A dear friend of mine reminded me how important it is to have strong spirit-filled sisters when hard times come knocking around the corner. So many women all around the world have committed suicide just because they don’t feel beautiful enough like social media would define beauty as. Ladies, don’t be gullible! Let us mature to know that we are made in His image (Psalm 139:14).

In order to mature fully to what God desires us to be, it involves ‘serious surrender’. We say it with our mouth, but our hearts are far away. We want to do it when it’s convenient, but serious surrender is a DAILY COMMITMENT! It is not done just for a season, but for a lifetime. What is holding you back today that is stopping you from growing in the Lord? This is something that I too must reflect on a daily basis. I really yearn for God to reveal to me the things I do that grieve Him, because if you don’t ask, you will never know.

It is very important to remain strong in Christ, even when the wind and waves are tossing. I have realised that through my own personal struggle, I have greatly depended on God! As much as I love my sisters in Christ, there are some things that honestly they will never understand the way God does. Being a mature Christian is about fighting through battles not in our own strength, but with the help of the Holy Spirit in continuous prayer and the Word. The Word must be meditated on day and night (Joshua 1:8). This is something that Joshua himself stressed on as he was going through his own struggle.

It was the struggles of those in the Bible that made them who they are. And it is the struggles that you and I are currently facing that will help us reach to the next level where God wants us to be. I can assure you that nothing in life will come easy. There are some things you and I are going through that when you tell someone, they still won’t understand, but I am here to remind you that there is someone you can run to, someone you can RELY ON 24/7, someone you can honestly cry out your heart to behind closed doors, behind all the drama and heaviness. His Name is Jesus!

Jesus cares so much for us! It is the truth! He knows when we are rest assured in Him. Being a mature Christian is not a one day thing. It is learning every day because it says in Psalms 37:23 that “The steps of a man are established by the Lord when he delights in His way”. In other words, our steps are controlled by God daily. You cannot expect a fully harvest if you are giving God half and doing the rest yourself. Everything must be laid at His feet.

I can also relate this to ‘self-control’; how you perceive things in your mind. What conclusions have you made that is making you bitter? What have you said regarding your situation that is stopping you from getting your breakthrough? Has it ever occurred to you that every single word you say from your mouth is the consequence of your life today? Your mouth is powerful so speak well! (Proverbs 18:21). Your mouth can make you lose self-control and cause you to think thoughts that aren’t in your nature.

Our speech and thoughts have to come from a mature mind-set. Our mind has to be free from clutter and filth; from the things that don’t please God. Developing self-control is something that only God can help us all with. It will take a lot of time, depending on how patient you are to wait for Him. If you are someone who lacks patience, it is time to develop self-control; to know when to speak and know when not to speak; to know when to intervene and when to mind your own affairs. Every situation doesn’t always need a reaction. There are some things even instinct will tell you not to head towards.

So ladies, I really encourage you today, be fully assured in God, and develop spiritual maturity with Him and with others around you. You should not be fighting on your own; it is not healthy. Let us look into 2 Peter 3:16-18 “There are some things in the Bible that are hard to understand, which the ignorant and unstable twist to their own destruction, as they do the other Scriptures. You therefore, beloved, knowing this beforehand, take care that you are not carried away with the error of lawless people and lose your own stability. But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ”.

The Bible is difficult to understand in several places.  Those who are ignorant of the Scriptures can take text out of context to create a pretext and a false one at that.  One way to avoid this is to “grow in the Grace and Knowledge of The Lord” which means that, since Jesus is the Word (John 1) we need to be in the Word. Not only that, if you are in the Bible, and the Bible gets into you, that means you can rightly divide and discern what the context means when reading difficult verses, particularly when it comes to spiritual maturity. How can we discern? By praying through the Holy Spirit to bring the wisdom that is found in the Word of God (James 1:5). If you don’t ask you won’t get.

The Bible has everything we need to live a successful mature life, fully assured that He has everything covered for us. So rest assured that He has YOU! You are blessed and highly favored and remember to take REST! It is needed once in a while. Allow Him to keep you in His loving arms. Don’t try and sort everything out on your own. He is there to help you, to guide and protect you all the days of your life. I am a living witness to that!


Things that are killing your JOY!


  • What are you thinking about?
  • What is taking up most of your time in the day?
  • Why do you feel the need of gaining more, when you can use what you already have?
  • Why do we fall into complaints often?
  • Why are we usually unhappy when we see other people succeeding?
  • Is there one way to success?
  • How do you define success? (Materialistic versus Spiritual Success)
  • I am lazy and tired! All my joy is gone. There is nothing to be happy about.
  • I should be over there, and I am only here. God what is going on?
  • Everyone is steaming ahead. There must be something wrong with me
  • I think I need more money. Yeah, that will make me happy…
  • I need to find a new job. This job is really getting on my nerves!
  • I have been in the same position for 5 years and yet they have not promoted me!!
  • Why do I keep failing in my exams?


Do these questions sound familiar? I know the feeling because I am in that position right now. It can seem very difficult to accept what position we are in, particularly when we perceive ourselves to be in a better position. We seem so choked up by opinions said about us, and what other people are doing that we forget who we truly are in the process of becoming who God wants us to be. We tend to be in situations where we ask God to show us what He wants us to do, but at times, we may feel ‘stuck’ in the process of trying to get there quickly. Everything I am going through right now is a process, and it applies to you too!

There are many reasons why your joy can be stagnant. Majority of the reasons are looking at man for help instead of God. This is one of the most common problems that we face at present. In reference to the above questions, we can see what obstacles are blocking our joy. We want instant replies and quick responses of how we can get to the top, not knowing that everything we desire is to do with a process. A process is a step by step procedure of where you desire to be. It can take weeks, months or even years for God to get you to where He wants you to be, but in order to be where He wants you to be, you have to trust Him. Learn to lay aside all your pain and burdens on Him. I tell you the truth, it is not easy, but you will know the importance of leaving everything in His hands and being free!

Sorrow may last for the night, but JOY comes in the morning! When we read 2 Corinthians 10:12 it says: “Not that we have the audacity to venture to class or even to compare ourselves with some who exalt and furnish testimonials for themselves! However, when they measure themselves with themselves and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding and behave unwisely“. In other words, comparing and contrasting yourselves with others can add to the pain you are already going through. It is indeed an unwise move. You may have waited a long time, more than your peers, but you don’t know what they are going through behind closed doors. A smile can look deceiving, but it does cover up a lot of pain. However, it is very good and healthy to smile during the painful process.

It is very easy to look at someone who has a good dress sense and automatically judge them, based on outward appearance, and to be honest, it is happening most of the time especially in today’s society. Cultural pressures are increasing rapidly, the way our bodies should look, the clothes we should be wearing etc, all these things can suck the joy out of you. Why? Because our minds are not focused on God. Your Father knows everything your heart desires, but if our minds are on materialistic things, how will you be able to hear the voice of God? We must always be reminded that our joy comes from God, not the things of the world. The things of the world are only temporal. We are not taking any of our possessions to heaven. It is just you and God. I know it’s easy to say ‘well I have got a long way to go, so let me enjoy my life’. But we must always have a conscience that God could come anytime. We should enjoy until then, of course! But even if we don’t have the blessings desired, it doesn’t mean that we should sit here miserable, and in doubt.

Everyday should be filled with joy!! Waking up is a blessing! It is a GIFT from God than no man can give! Let us learn to appreciate that, and everything will become easier to love. You have a choice to be happy. You have a choice to allow joy to come into your heart. Will you allow joy in today? When we say ‘I surrender all, it means SURRENDER ALL! Not some, not few, but ALL! Be joyful everyday! Someone desires what you have. We just don’t see it because of our motives are somewhat selfish at times. Let us not take what we have now for granted. God is using each and every one of us for His Glory. And He wants to bless us so much, more than we can imagine, but we must begin with being happy with what we have. Whether it is a small or big blessing, use to the Glory of His Name.

Let your pain be an example to others around you who are experiencing other sorts of pain to be encouraged that despite their problems, they have a God who cares, who loves, and who understands. Nothing in this world can give you joy apart from God! He sent His only Son to die for us! That could have been you or me on the cross, but Jesus took our place. That is worth being joyful about! Another thing, stop allowing the enemy to steal your joy!!! I always call Satan a dirty dog because that is what he is! When you are down, you are more inclined to bring negative thoughts in your mind, and eventually invite the enemy to twist and deceive the more. Instead, rejoice in the Lord always, and AGAIN I say REJOICE!! Instead tell yourself everyday; “This is the day that the Lord has made, I will rejoice and be glad in it”. Be happy with yourself and where you are. You are in a good place 🙂

Remember: There is always something you can be joyful for! Do not wait until everything you desire should fall in place before you enjoy your life! Enjoy it now! God has promised you that His plans for you are of GOOD and not of evil! Plans to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11.

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