QUESTIONS ABOUT LIFE!

DEDICATED TO ALL BEAUTIFUL WOMEN

Do you know why you are here? Sis, I understand what you are going through. I know the tears you cry; when fear cripples you and makes you feel something is missing. When the world is telling you to rush for success quickly, particularly before age 30. That is the age where everything must be complete; a house, your husband, your first or second child, a beautiful family car, a successful business. No matter what you want to achieve, do not allow the standards of the world to take over.

You are more than what the world and society labels you as. Sis, you are doing your best, but can I tell you one thing. You will fail. You will fail if you keep doing it all by yourself. You will be frustrated trying to fix everyone’s perception of you. You will be annoyed when others compare their progress with yours. Why? Because there is a tendency to allow what other people portray to trigger your self-esteem.

I know how it feels to work so hard and not see results come to fruition. I know. You had the perfect plan, but it just did not seem to work. I know the feeling of making an attempt to balance everything, to the extent where you lose sleep and feel anxious about tomorrow when you are still living in your today. Do you know how much that can make a woman feel? Let alone not loving who she is called to be.

Struggling with low self-esteem and having the ‘MIA’ time not only causes isolation but frustration. Do not keep yourself away from people. When your girls are celebrating their successes, you must understand that you are also a part of their success. Jealousy and envy should not be part of it. Are you hearing me? Jealousy and envy should not be part of it. You may have all your girls around, but it doesn’t mean you know what they are going through.

We smile through social media and post the fun parts of our lives, but behind close doors we scream and shout for help, fear of parents and loved ones criticising us for where we are. Feeling helpless and lacking purpose. Tired and weak and just on the brink of giving up. My sister, please do not give up. Do not look at life as if it has failed you. Life may have it’s ups and downs, but guess who will keep your life in perfect peace? JESUS ❤ <– that is your answer to all your questions about life.

To understand purpose, you can find it in my book Completion

This is my story – From Glory to Glory!

It can be perceived that when we smile, others assume that everything is going well, not noticing that behind closed doors, there are tears, confusion and to some extent loneliness. It is not always easy fulfilling purpose, but the rewards and strength that comes with it is priceless. You can’t put a price tag on your purpose. Everyone has something to do whether you know it or not. It is so important to know what you have been called to do, and yes, there will be doubts and fear because as you fulfil your purpose, it becomes different from the norm. You may not always understand your situation, but there is strength that comes from brokenness.

There have been many doors of opportunity to share my story of what I have been through and how I use it to inspire others through conducting workshops, speaking engagements, and my latest online course on how to teach individuals on how to write a book from start to finish. This is my latest interview with the United Christian Broadcast (UCB) about my latest book From Glory to Glory. You can tune in to the interview here

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Remember everything is beautiful – great beauty in seasons of pain – strong at the broken places

The Past, the Present and the Future!

“I have nothing to do with tomorrow. My Saviour will make that His care. It’s Grace and its Faith I can’t borrow, so why should I borrow it’s care?”

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We are too focused on our past; we put more emphasis on our future, but we don’t take care of what is already in front of us (our present) #PhilThompson.

Do not be anxious about anything because each day brings its own challenges. Take every day authentically and don’t worry about tomorrow. Just remain in THE NOW and not what happened yesterday or how tomorrow will be.

A dear friend invited me to the Called Out Concert on Saturday 10th November! One of the BEST concerts to date! If you didn’t or couldn’t make it I’d advice you to come to the next one!! I absolutely loved the atmosphere, the ambience, the presence of God, and most importantly, the amount of people who came to support the movement and experience God like never before. One of my favourite Gospel Artists came from America, Phil Thompson (best!!). He said something that was so profound and could not stop but jot it down in my journal – our focus is too much on what happened in the past, or it’s battling with what the unknown will look like in years to come, but how about just focusing on the present?

I had to hold my own hands so tight because it resonated with me very quickly! I am always thinking about what I could have done better and how I’d want my future to look like, but I have not even embraced the fact that I have come far in the season I am already in; that I can motivate and congratulate myself for writing two books, having opportunities to speak about my journey to other people, and being able to build my own website. Just celebrate the small steps before wishing for the bigger blessings

We are too focused on what other people are doing that we also want to be on their level, not realising life has to come in manageable portions – a day at a time so that we are not overwhelmed with so many blessings that can’t be handled properly. The worries of yesterday, plus the worries piled into today, can break ones mind mentally and emotionally.

The past, the present and the future are all important, but they all come in different stages, so take it one step at a time.

I will leave you with this:

“I have nothing to do with tomorrow;
My Saviour will make that His care,
It’s Grace and it’s Faith I can’t borrow,
So why should I borrow its care?”

Take every day as it comes, and do not be anxious about anything; do not look at your past with regret or worry. Do not fear what the future (your tomorrow) will look like. Learn to embrace your present and make the most of today as long as it is called TODAY!

I love you all! ❤

Be encouraged!

You don’t need to pretend

It can be frustrating when plans you initiate don’t happen the way you expected.

How about the time when you worked so hard and did not feel recognised for it?

Felt quite insecure because you knew how much work you put into it?

How about if friends you thought would be in your life forever have slowly drifted apart?

Do you still feel the same with or without people? When are we going to be real with how we are feeling, and not pretend? It can be obvious when people are going through certain situations due to their level of conversation with you. Communication may have gone down, the friendship or relationship becomes less intimate, you start to feel somewhat alone, but, in all these, God is in the midst of it.

I wonder what would have happened if we all expressed it as we feel. Being truthful and honest about what is really going on in our lives and in our world. We are living with people who have different values, beliefs, attitudes, lifestyles, you name it. We can’t change anyone, however, we can be the change in somebody else’s life.

2017 taught me that life is not about me or my desires alone, but for the benefit of other people. Notwithstanding, there is no need to cut yourself off or rinse yourself dry for others without first feeding yourself with the energy you need to carry towards others. Do not feel the need to sort every issue in your life, it is tiring and as human beings, we are not built to fix everything.

Inner peace and acknowledgement of the Word of God (the Bible) is the way in which I can expressively be who I am. I don’t need to pretend or fake it towards God as He already knows how I feel. You will have a few people in your circle that you can be transparent and open towards; take every advantage of it for you do not know what encouragement and kind words can come out of it.

Above all, never write yourself off or give up on what you are passionate about. Instead, be real with where you are right now, ask yourself what steps to take towards the next level and BE FOCUSED! Be positive, be YOU!

Let’s enjoy November and December 2017 until we enter 2018! I can’t wait! But for now, let’s enjoy this moment that we have. Make the most of it and grow from the challenges so that it will strengthen us for the road ahead.

The Power of a Closing Door

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Hello everyone and welcome back! Happy New Year to you all, and I really hope you enjoyed your Christmas and is having a great new year so far? Woah, for me I enjoyed New Years. So many blessings that are being birthed which I am very excited for! But before I go ahead to my topic, I want to let you ladies know about the first Empowered United Women’s Ministry Conference that will be held on Saturday 13th February 2016. More information can be found via my Facebook Page (Esther Jacob), Twitter Page (@queenstar2711) and Instagram Page (QueenEsther2711). Registration is required so please sign up via Eventbrite. The link will also be on my Facebook page too 🙂

 

So today, I want to speak to you about ‘The Power of a Closing Door’What is so special about a closing door you may ask? Would you suggest I am talking about the physical door we open and close on a daily basis? Well, it could be used to explain a situation metaphorically. But I am talking about the things we pray for that don’t get answered, our tears we cry at night that no-one is able to understand. Our personal one-to-one time with God will surely reflect the amount of doors He will open for you an I. You can be a church-goer every Sunday, but not have Him in your heart throughout Monday to Saturday. You can keep on giving your tithes and offerings until you don’t have much left and still feel broke. The power of a closing door today speaks many volumes especially in this new season we are in. When I was weak in my Faith in 2014, I honestly thought God did not like me. I struggled so much with job applications that it frustrated me to nearly giving up.

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I still remember a time I applied for a Marketing position for Gum-tree. Spoke to a lovely lady on the phone regarding the position, and she required me to bring my passport and bank details which I did. Upon arrival, a lady informed me that they have found a suitable candidate for the position. That day I was wearing the most tightest black shoes that my toes couldn’t breathe! It was more than a two-hour journey! As soon as the lady told me, I humbly walked out, went to the train station and I could feel the heavy tears falling from my eyes. I was listening to gospel music, but to no avail, the tears started to come. Personally ladies, I don’t cry in public, but this one was just too strong. I did not even have the opportunity of introducing myself and why I applied for the role. I felt it was a two-hour wasted journey, but I know that God didn’t. He saw it as a set-up, because I strongly believe ladies, what you have been struggling with the most, will be your greatest triumph.

The funny thing about us today is that we don’t want to struggle. In other words, we don’t want to go through the process, we just want to arrive at the destination. But can I tell you something? You learn MORE in the process rather than at the arrival of the destination. My mind-set before was like “When I get the job, when I get the money, when I get the car etc I will enjoy life”, not knowing that these things do not produce happiness. Being happy is about focusing on what you DO HAVE and being content with it. There are certain things I don’t have at this moment, but it does not mean I should behave in a way that is discontent and miserable. Imagine one of your close friends that constantly complains and compares with other women who may have it all. But the question is, what is ‘having it all?’ Is it about working full-time earning £50,000 per annum? Is it travelling around the world 5 times in a year? Is it having the best make-up and hair? Don’t get me wrong ladies, these are beautiful blessings; I see them as bonuses, but are they the real tools that bring about happiness?

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How about your friend who is currently struggling to find her inner-self? She keeps wallowing in low-self esteem, and you are there complaining and being bitter about not having enough money. Which one is more detrimental to the soul? Personally, I would choose low self-esteem. Some kill themselves due to this, because they have not made the effort to discover who they truly are, instead they allowed society and friends to dictate who they are. Have you ever been in this position before? Every struggle is a strength because in your weakness, it teaches you something that you would not have known. The struggle to find a job can be seen as a strength. For example, if you are constantly looking for Marketing jobs, and nothing is coming your way, shouldn’t that be a sign that you should position your search somewhere else? Somewhere that you will benefit from and grow! You do not just apply for jobs because of its title or pay. The employer does not want to recruit someone who just wants money. The employer needs an experienced and qualified candidate who proves that they are capable of handling the job.

Likewise, God will not always grant our hearts desires simply because we may not be ready, so instead of rushing, He wants to work on your inside. Lets jump back to the woman with low self-esteem. If God who is all-knowing, can see His daughter struggling with who she is, fear is gripping her, her mouth speaks negatively, she doesn’t see the best in herself, how can God bless her? This is a challenge to some of us today. When I studied Romans 12:1-21, it talks about how we should present our bodies as living sacrifices. Down along the line, we see Paul stressing about not being accustomed to this world and its habits. Most women today feel the need to imitate others, and never feeling fulfilled until they become like other celebrities. Now apply this in your own personal life my dear. Are you currently in a predicament where your mind is not at rest? Do you feel the need to dress a certain way or look a certain way for people to love you? If God takes that man away from you, will you STILL be able to stand?

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The power of a closing door is not everyone’s cup of tea. Some can endure it, but others cannot. Where I am now at this time, I can honestly say I am getting there. I am not where I used to be (praise Jesus!), but I am SO GLAD that I am getting there! It won’t be an overnight thing, some will take months, some years, but regardless, length of time has nothing to do with the importance of a closing door. Do not time destroy your blessings by counting the number of doors that close in your life. Some closed doors are blessings because I strongly believe that God will never give you a task you cannot handle. A book that TD Jakes wrote previously in the years is “Can You Stand To Be Blessed?”  A lot of people today cannot enjoy their blessings because they do not want to hurt or offend their ‘friends feelings’. I am not going to buy into that, because a GOOD FRIEND would celebrate you and be genuinely happy for you. I smile when I think about the relationship that Jonathan and David had, because Jonathan was much wealthier than David, HOWEVER Jonathan knew that David was capable to be King, so instead he HUMBLED HIMSELF and allowed David the opportunity. Now I do not know how many would humble themselves just to exalt their friend.

Despite the closed doors, the rumors, the heart aches, how many of us are still willing to see our friends be blessed? I know it won’t be easy when you have struggled more than your friend, but won’t you be glad to see your friend happy? Because I remember hearing that when God starts blessing your friends, it means He is around your neighborhood to bless you too :). For me personally, a closing door is very powerful in this new season we are in. I assume that some of you have already made new year resolutions, and some may not have been what you expected. On the other hand some may not have been answered, but that does not negate the fact that God is not present. Remember ladies, do not confuse the existence of your problems to contradict the absence of Gods presence. God will always be with you, no matter how long the door is closed.

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We will not always get everything we desire though, and it is for our good. Too much of everything isn’t good! Honestly speaking. If God was to give you everything at once, you won’t know how to handle it, because it will be too much. This is why God puts us in S-T-A-G-E-S. Most of us disregard stages with a passion, but knowing the power  of stages will enable you to reach your destiny. It may not get you there quicker, because a lot of women today just want to arrive at their destination and neglect the process. It cannot be this way. God wants us to be GROUNDED in Him (Refer to TD Jakes – Ground Level Zero via YouTube). Yes it may look like you haven’t got anything, but I tell you it is better to start with God and have nothing than to fight your way to the top without having God, because eventually you will fall. This is why I thank God for taking me the S-L-O-W R-O-A-D. Not a lot of us have the patience to go the slow-road. I remember a dear friend said to me that she told a few people about something that she planned on doing. Eventually, she realised that her plans did not prosper, so she learnt that saying things pre-maturely is dangerous. I too had to learn from that word ‘pre-mature’. We shout, jubilate and say we have this and that, but what if it does not come when you want it to? How embarrassing will it be for you? This is why it is better to allow God to close certain doors that are not relevant in your life, than to embarrass yourself and blame God for it. 

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GOD IS NOT IN THE BUSINESS OF EMBARRASSING HIS CHILDREN! HE IS FAR FROM THAT!

All He wants is your heart! Are you ready to give Him your all this year 2016? Or do you want this year to be a repetition of 2015? If you keep doing the same thing, you will always have the same result. Do not expect God to change your world if your only talking to God about your blessing, and not taking any action. Faith without works is DEAD! (James 2:14-26). Remember that ladies! It is your works AND the Faith together that will move God to bless you. Yes you believe with your mouth but what is your mind saying? Are you ready to have some doors closed on you this year? Brace yourself queen, because some will happen when you least expect it. You have to be ready for the trials, tribulations and silent struggles that will come in your life. Don’t expect everything to always be rosy, because I tell you, God can easily interrupt your plans! Try not to go ahead of Him because He is ordering your steps. God always works behind the scenes!

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Quote: I’m thankful for my struggle because without it, I wouldn’t have stumbled across my strength (Author: Alex Elle).

Remember there is power in a closing door; do not lose sleep over what you lost, instead thank Him for what He took out of your life 🙂

Blessings x

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