When you have a good character, it shows. Through your mannerism, your lifestyle, your conduct. Everywhere you go, your aura will speak before your mouth does. In our generation today, where it seems that people are striving for financial success and popularity, I have understood the importance of being humble, not weak. There is a difference in humility and pride!
In my previous video, I spoke about the pressures of social media and how it is becoming a ‘source’ of ‘self-affirmation’ or where to feel approved. Social media is a platform and resource; it should not define who you are or cause you to change. Your proof is in the hard work behind the scenes, the tears, the frustrations, the silent rejections that will gradually enable you to get to where you need to be. Through your rejection you can create opportunities, and that is when character is birthed. You can always have a good character when everything works in your favour, but when things seem to not be working, that is where true character is tested.
With a great character, you are not only attracting blessings, but people will notice and will invest in you (the RIGHT people – not those who are going to take from you and run away). It would be really upsetting to have invisible pride and not deal with it at the early stages. No one is expecting you to be successful in a day. There is success and there is ‘SUCCESS’. The success I am talking about and determined to strive for is Godly success. No matter how relevant or popular one is, if God is not in the centre, the success will not last.
You may have the materialistic possessions, but not the wisdom to handle it. You may have knowledge but the character if not thoroughly checked can cause double-mindedness. Don’t let this be you. Be true to yourself. Love where you are, and allow each day to teach you something, because it will. When you have a good character, it attracts blessings that you did not have to work hard for; it also brings those above you to understand your goals, dreams and visions and can partner with you, just because of your character.
Do not be deceived, being humble does not mean allowing anyone to take you for granted. You can have a kind heart and be a firm individual at the same time. You have every right to protect your heart (Proverbs 4:23). Be true to yourself, and if you sincerely have an issue in dealing with insecurities, speak to a trusted friend before it tarnishes the character.
Remember this: character and beauty works hand in hand, and God will use people to help in your time of need. Do not stop being you because support isn’t coming or compromise your values. You will always get what you desire when you least expect it. Be open to change, and above all maintain your character. It will truly get you further than where you are now.
Founder of Authentic Worth and WWCG
I know it isn’t always easy, but you have to keep going. I have been finding ways to understand and help people nurture and utilise their gifts and make it work for them effectively. Recently, I have been asked the question of “what do you do when you are unemployed” or “how did you spend your time not working”. My answer was: “it is in you to create the job rather than find the job”. I’ll explain further:
A lot of us, if not all, tend to make job searching a priority, because it must be the quickest way to make money right? _________ <—- I’ll allow you to fill in the blank 🙂
What if you are constantly applying but not getting any responses? They all seem to be rejection, sighs and frustrations. I secured my first full-time job after a good three years from graduating. Was it easy to wait? No. Was it worth the wait? Yes! During my time of not working, (although I must humbly admit, I was only working between 8-15 hours a week in retail part time, so still wasn’t as easy at it looked). I used my unemployment season to create a YouTube channel, made my first wig, socialised and collaborated with different people, and more importantly worked on myself by publishing my first book.
You see, this life will either make you do two things:
1) STAY STILL AND DO NOTHING OR;
2) KEEP GOING
The choice is down to you. There is no excuse to be lazy, dormant, or waiting for the ‘right opportunity’. YOU ARE ALREADY THE RIGHT OPPORTUNITY! You must position your mind to believe this, or you will be waiting a very long time. No one has the same fingerprint or DNA as you. Looking at how others are coping with life will not change yours. You have to keep up the pace and move. Don’t stay stagnant, even when rejection comes! Use that rejection to create an opportunity.
God has put so much in you that if you aren’t willing to identify it, you will forfeit the process and miss the blessing. Had it not been for the constant rejections of my past when trying to secure a job, I would not have been able to write my first book in 2016. Now I have written three books, created an online course for aspiring authors, built Authentic Worth, and conducting events and workshops.
Even when the support isn’t there, which usually happens at the beginning stages, you will realise gradually that through the amount of time and effort put into working on your craft, someone will help you with the journey, as long as you don’t give up! Remember this, because there are people who are inspired by you, without realising it! Don’t give up!
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Your life has value; remember this always ❤
I know it is not always easy to admit this, but, each of us have different circumstances, obstacles, worries, fears, anxieties and constant battles that feel like they are never-ending. Do you realise when you switch your mind from a negative thought into a positive thought, what controlled you doesn’t have that much power anymore? Let’s take a look at the following examples:
“How do you handle rejection?” I handle rejection by embracing it. I do not allow it to define me; perhaps it is either because I was aiming too low and can create something better (which is usually the case), or I am not yet ready for the position and need further training and support. Either way, the choice is yours. How you see your season right now is solely up to you. No one can tell you the type of season you are in. You can choose to heal from this season or allow it to affect your mindset.
Remember, seasons change, and each NO will lead to ONE YES! Believe me, I am a strong believer on this. Throughout the countless unexpected results, I have benefited greatly from turning these around for my good, and I really encourage you to do the same. Ladies, you are precious, worthy and very valuable. You are here for a reason and a purpose. You may not know your purpose right now, but do not hide your gifts; whether they are polished or not, they will enable you to get to the next level.
“I don’t feel I am good enough, everyone is doing what I am doing and it looks so easy for them”: The reason why you keep feeling sorry for yourself is because you are focused on what other people ‘show you’. Someone may look happy on social media, but it doesn’t always mean you know how they are truly living. Be careful how you define yourself in this season. Don’t write yourself off because of what people show you or what they advertise on social media. Sometimes, it is a way to numb the pain and feel good, but feeling good for REAL, is when you are able to admit that you have a problem and choose to solve it, not worry about it.
Every day we are on a journey, and as we continue on this journey, our seasons will change. You have to learn how to keep it moving, despite the long wait, despite the rejection, despite feeling isolated. There is so much in you that is waiting to be birthed out. You will be surprised if only you allow yourself to be free.
“I am so hard on myself” – indeed, ladies, we need to stop overworking and sleeping less. If you want a good work-life balance, the key word is BALANCE! Stop doing so much, thinking you need to achieve a lot to feel acknowledged and valued. You are already valued. A full-time mother is still an accomplishment to a Qualified Chartered Accountant. Yes they are different titles but they both have heavy responsibilities. They can also be rewarding too! Please do not define success as the title you have, it is only a title and it will be passed on to someone else when our time is up.
I am encouraging you ladies today, embrace the season you are in. Breathe, take your time, learn from ALL your mistakes, and create solutions. Admit when you need help, and see how your life and mind will transform.
Remember what you think about will follow you every step of the way.
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You are loved and valued, always remember that!
Founder of Authentic Worth and WWCG
BOOK SIGNING SUCCESSFUL: My words are not enough to articulate how I feel!!🎉
*Saturday 26th January 2019!*
The experience and opportunity that WHSmith gave to promote and sign both my books at their store on Saturday 26th January!!!! The people I encountered, the connections ALONE!🔥 HMM!🔥Lord knows how I’m feeling! Yes, books were sold, but it’s not just selling about books, but seeing people relate to what I had to go through and being inspired to see life from a new fresh perspective!
I spoke with many people in different walks of life and circumstances that fully humbled me. From the staff at WHSmith to all customers, your loving words and support won’t be overlooked!! I can’t forget to thank my dear friend and Author, Ebony Ali for informing me about this opportunity and for my gorgeous stunning sister of LIFE Spoken Word Artist, Keeley Stevenson,who surprised me in coming and for her relentless support! She is truly my photographer and videographer! 😂😍. These ladies are gems! I can’t thank God enough for both of YOU!!!!! As you have remembered me, God will remember you FOR GOOD!💪🏾💪🏾
I am in awe of how far 2019 is going so far! May I not forget my big sis *Glory Jacob* who is rejoicing in the Lord🙌🏾🙌🏾 I know she would have been here to fully support, but as I mentioned before, I WILL MAKE HER PROUD and I’m seeing it all now coming together! Remember each day you are writing your legacy. What do you want to be remembered as? #awardwinningauthor #christianauthor #author #influentialspeaker #2019isnotreadyforme #nopridejusthumility #authenticworth #itstimetoheal #completion #real #authentic #worth #international #global #favour #winning #engagement #workshops #booklaunch #bookstores #confident #selflessness #raw #bold #purpose #destiny #passion #thebloodofJesus #FromGloryToGlory
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