Why is it vital to keep your life organised? So that you won’t break emotionally or mentally. There are too many broken hearts in our world today, and what we consistently forget to do is surrender our pain to the Father. We instead take it out on family and friends and end up more broken than we already are. I have personally been in situations where I’ve taken out my frustration on people who didn’t initiate the problem in the first place. It is really dangerous to have so much anger in your heart that you blast our your pain on others. The people who you are expressing yourself to also has their own problems.
Our journey of life is interesting; we have good days, we have bad days, but most importantly we must remember at all times to be consistent in developing a positive manner at all times, ensuring that we are always learning to mind our own affairs and stay out of other people’s situations. It is one thing to get caught up in your own problems, as well as other people. How many can you solve in one go? Keeping your life organised brings peace and freedom. You won’t need to justify your reasons as to why you do things differently than others, and you will be free from the criticism that people are ready to open their mouth and say a word or two. Being able to make decisions without asking your friends for approval is a strong trait that I strongly recommend every woman to possess.
When you go out, you don’t have to tell people what you do, just be yourself, and allow goodness and mercy to follow you. Don’t be so choked up that you feel bad for doing something and your friend is offended by it. You are not here to please friends, but only the Father. Do not misunderstand me here, they will be some things you can tell a friend, depending on the nature of the conversation, but it does not necessarily mean going into detail on what you are going to do. I see it as Snapchat for example. For those who know me, they know that I enjoy using Snapchat, but I’ve come to realise that it is not everything I must advertise about my life on it. Yes, it is good to keep in contact with people and see what others are up to, but if Snapchat is only used to be nosey, what is the purpose of having it? If it is going to make you envy someone else’s life, then I suggest you delete it. Staying in your own lane prevents a lot of drama.
For this reason, I strongly believe self-control is needed in these types of situations, especially with social media. With social media today, it is becoming competitively frustrating when we females lose confidence just by observing somebody else’s life because of a status on Facebook, how many followers one has on Twitter, where people are travelling to on Snapchat, and so many other cover-ups. At times, I see social media as a cover up; in that we tend to cover up our pain by ‘making’ it seem that we are enjoying life but we are not. To HAVE LIFE ALONE is a blessing in itself, and that is something to be very thankful for and is one of the ways to keep your life organised by expressing your gratitude to the Father.
1 Thessalonians 4:11 (NIV) says this: “And to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life: You should mind your own business and work with your hands, just as we told you”.
Those that mind their own affairs are classified as wise. It honestly is not every detail we must know about people, because let us be sincere here, would you want people to know all about you? You must question yourself on that. I’ve realised a few months back that people only wanted to get information out of me, but wasn’t willing to do the same back. So I had to distance myself and discern who the right people were for me to open up and confide in. When it comes to sticky situations, I make it a daily habit of running to God, but at the same time, I know that God puts people in my life that I too can confide in, HOWEVER, it won’t be to get information from them. It would only be to obtain Godly counsel, and leave it as that.
Be very careful and watchful of those who befriend you just to get something. It happens a lot and we are living in a generation today where it is becoming a trend. When people see that you are ‘having fun’ on social media, they assume everything is fine with you, so it is their opportunity to ask anything from you. Once you say no, you are their number one enemy. Ladies, may I re-emphasize again, do not allow ANYONE to stop you from enjoying what God has blessed you with. They do not know the length of pain you went through to reach your destination. I would hate to feel uncomfortable and stoop down to someone else’s level because they refused to work hard and make a turnaround.
“Above all else, guard your heart for out of it flows the issues of life” (Proverbs 4:23).
When I say guard your heart, it also applies to guarding your emotions. Your emotions can play you like football if you are not strong enough to discern when emotions are needed or not. You don’t have to cry about every situation that comes your way; other times you can just rejoice in them. You can keep quiet and meditate, but you shouldn’t allow your emotions to make you bitter, in fact, they should make you a better individual. If someone calls you to explain what they are going through, know that they can trust you with their business, but if you haven’t been called into a situation and you randomly head towards it giving your own contribution, what do you called this? It is very disrespectful to talk on someone else’s behalf when you don’t know anything about it, or just basing your point of view based on what somebody else has said. This should not be so.
Be wise with your life and stop looking at what others are doing. Take responsibility for your own actions and learn to handle your own journey. Along the way, God will bring the right people in your life to help you work towards your Destiny. You don’t need to be a busybody to be noticed or accepted. Just keep your life organised. Enjoy your life, do not try to be like someone else, as I stated earlier, you do not know the burden they had to carry to get to where they are today. You don’t need to envy anyone, it is a waste of time. We are all on individual journey’s, if you need help, do not be afraid to ask. Ask with humility and keep going on with your life. Don’t keep stopping at every bus stop trying to get information from people, it doesn’t work that way. Let us enjoy our seasons now and give ourselves the respect we need to live a fulfilled and pleasant life.
When I also reiterate about keeping your life organised, I am also referring to keeping your relationship with God organised, your finances organised, your health, your words, your family issues, your friendship circle, your eating habits organised, your future organised. Don’t keep wishing and not doing, it does not work that way. You must work hard and don’t look down on yourself or envy others. Don’t allow your failures of keeping your life turn into bitterness and hatred. People hate because they have insecurities, but you don’t need to rehearse the incident, you just need to overcome your hatred towards somebody with love. If you love your life, you will be able to keep your life organised and give yourself the freedom you deserve. Be sure to not hate on yourself either, but love the life you have now because it will get better. The only way is upwards. Don’t ever look back, keep marching and keep your life organised.