Your character is so precious that you could be viewed by the way you act, talk and operate in your lifestyle. We are living in a world that is full of criticism, conflict and pain. Sometimes, we don’t even want to wake up in the morning because we do not hope for anything good to come out of the day. Even though life may not always be fair, and people always judging and labeling you with harsh words, remember that you are valuable to God. We are not perfect-beings, and we should try to stop striving and stressing ourselves to attain someone else’s approval of us.
It doesn’t matter what people define you as; what truly matters is how you see yourself. Queens have manners; they are not concerned about the other party, and how they perceive them to be. A queen is so unique that she is on her own individual race and does not have time to compete or compare with others. She is a replica of the Proverbs 31 woman; a determined woman who works extremely hard to reach her goals, a humble woman who does not indulge in gossip, an encouraging woman who always cheers others on, a tenacious woman who SPEAKS words of wisdom to her fellow sisters, a meek woman who respects authority, and above all, a woman who wholeheartedly seeks and serves the Father. When a woman can serve the Father, she is precious because she chooses to look beyond herself and seeks God for validation. She yearns to get so intimate and lost with God in order to prevent negative conflict that may occur along the way.
She has manners because she wants to please the Lord and help those around her become humble and kind. She knows how it feels to be put down so she refuses to be influenced by an outside party; rather, she influences others and makes a strong impact. Are you the queen that has manners? I am not saying that you have to be a doormat for people to walk on, but when you are in a sticky situation, and you want to solve the issue, take a humbly-offensive approach. What does that mean? It means to be willing to apologise for where you have gone wrong, however being honest, truthful and bold enough to also express the way you feel in a non-offensive manner. It won’t always be easy because we always want to seem ‘right’ in other people’s eyes, but this should not always be the outcome. It takes a Queen to know where they have gone astray and come up with a solid solution.
No matter what, we are all equal in the Lord’s eyes and He is not a respecter of man. He really values and understands our shortcomings and weaknesses, but it takes a QUEEN to first of all humble themselves and apologise for any inconvenience caused. I remember a time where I was going through a friendship issue, and the first person I went to was a friend. I love this friend, but the advice given did not help the situation at all. Why was this? Because she was offering advice from her perspective, but I forgot to seek God for His perspective, and this is why some of us today are left confused and spoken down upon, because we refuse to seek the Father as we feel He might be too slow to answer us. Nonetheless, one must remember that a slow result is better than a fast fall. I would rather allow God to take His precious time on me, in building my character, my walk, my conduct, rather than to seek man for quick approval, because people can smile with you when you are on top, but when all obstacles burst out, you will question yourself as to why you opened up.
Now I am not saying that opening up to people is wrong, it’s the FIRST PERSON that you open up to that is a big concern. Some of you may have best friends that you open up to, and that is okay. But have in mind that they too have faults, mistakes, and failures but our God who is Perfect, Supreme, Mighty, Pure, Righteous & Holy can attend to Him at any time WITHOUT feeling judged. He is not a God of “yes today and no tomorrow”; He is a CONSISTENT FATHER who wants the very best for His Queens. But ladies, our mannerism speaks volumes not just from a friendship perspective, but even in preparing for a solid relationship. It really does, and I too am learning. I am a work-in-progress, and no matter how long it takes to get rid of toxic behaviour, I am willing to enjoy the journey because that is how you learn and grow.
Some of us have lost really good friends due to our character and mannerisms. Yes, they hurt you, but you reacted to that hurt and made it difficult to heal. You may have made it seem bigger than it actually was. When people hurt you, queens, it does not mean that we too should show them how we feel and intentionally hurt them back. I know at times, we act in ways that offend others and we are not even aware. Some people can’t even open up because of fear that you may not be able to handle the truth. Let us be sincere, we have all been in this boat. When someone can tell you the truth in love, and you know that what they are saying is true, you have won a very good loyal friend. Others can give up on you quicker than a cheetah running a marathon race, but it takes a true friend to stick closer to you than a brother (Proverbs 18:24).
Remember, it is okay to be broken, but do not allow that brokenness to rub on your character. You do not want your character to be tarnished, you are a Queen of the Most High and you have manners. You count in this world, so make a difference. Do not blend in with those who speak foul words, but instead, influence them with your aura and gentle spirit. A gentle spirit, therefore, is where God can abide because where there is gentleness, His Spirit takes over and turns our lives around for the better because we are being unapologetically intentional about having good manners. At times, your character will be tested in ways that one would not expect. It truly does happen, but with these tests, they should produce a better outcome.
Above all queens, remember that you have manners, and if you want to make an impact, you must first and foremost check yourself; check your heart, check your thoughts. Do not worry about what people are saying, because the truth of the matter is: are you speaking well to yourself? Or are you speaking defeat?
Ask yourself if people would sincerely want to be around you? It’s tough at times to critique yourself because it is easy to say “I am perfect”, “There are no flaws in me”, “I am just fine”, but are you? Can you honestly say that you don’t take all things to heart and that you are always calm, even when people intentionally want to hurt you? Are you at that level where you can REALLY LOVE your enemies, and I mean LOVE THEM, not wishing for their downfall or having evil thoughts about them? Because Queens don’t have these thoughts. Queens are working extremely hard to have a better and peaceful life for themselves and those who are attached to her. She is not a talebearer that reveals secrets. A perverse man sows strife, and a whisperer separates the best of friends (Proverbs 16:28).
So the Word for you today is: have good manners; it really goes a long way, because how you operate now is a reflection of who you are. Whatever you do now is what you will carry to your future. Learn to humble yourself and get rid of the pride that is controlling your thought life and learn to serve God in every aspect of your life.
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