Brokenness is so attractive. Why is it attractive? Because it enables you to be vulnerable and meek when expressing your feelings and hardships to a neighbor. Most of us today, have so much pain that we refuse to allow people to know about our lives. We want people to see that we have it all together, but God sees right through us. There is nothing that we can hide from God; we can hide a few things from people, but no matter what stage you are in life, there will be times where frustration will keep you silent. But I employ you to express your pain with wisdom and do it broken. You do not need to cover up what is already cracked.
I had my book launch on Saturday 23rd July 2016, and the feedback I received from the launch was phenomenal. The ladies who came and witnessed the event said their lives were changed and it pushed them further to have more intimacy with God, as well as being vulnerable regarding their problems so that they can be healed. As ladies, we are very emotional beings, and it is not easy for some of us to express how we feel so soon. But we must come to a point where we do not care about what people think and just express our feelings.
A quote I saw recently said this “You cannot be fully surrendered to God’s plan and fully care about what people think of you at the same time. One trumps the other”. So in order words, when you are dealing with an issue, you must remember that your concern should not be about how people will define you after telling your story; really, it should be how God will use your broken pieces for His Glory. Remember that the pain you go through is not meant to break you, NOR is it meant to be for you alone. You are meant to share your pain. As it says in Proverbs 27:17 “As iron sharpens iron, so does a friend sharpens his friend”. God has given people to us so that they can be accountable to us, and we can be accountable to them.
It really is a “you help me, and I’ll help you” relationship. Doing things by yourself will leave you broken and cracked. Not allowing people to help and serve you is a sign of pride. Because ‘pride’ says “I can do this all by myself, I don’t need anyone!” but ‘brokenness’ says “I have messed up and I really need help” or “I get anxious all the time and I want you to understand my story”. When some people hear your story, they tend to either underestimate it or overlook it. But you must remember that everyone’s pain is unique and you don’t need to fall for people believing in you or not. Just ensure to use discernment wisely to know WHO to open up to and allow that person to minister to your heart. That person is God our Father; He should be the first person on our minds to release the toxic pain that is eating our personality and destroying our peace.
God places people in our lives at different seasons, and we must always be reminded that those people are either there to help us draw closer to God or teach us not to depend on others. Some people will come and disrupt your life, but it is all a part of God’s plan. I was recently reading the book of Job in the Bible and a conversation started between God and Satan in Job 2. God allowed Satan to attack Job, and he lost his siblings, he had boils and scars all over him, his own wife told him to curse God and die. What more can a man face! But what really humbled me was when Job replied his wife by saying: “You are talking like a foolish woman. She we accept good from God, and not trouble?” (Job 2:10, NIV).
In other words, Job was so intimate with God, that no matter what he faced, he would never leave the Lord’s sight. Now, how many of us, if we were in Job’s situation, could face what he went through? Losing everything; your riches, your family, your friends. Thankfully, from verses 11-12, we see that Job had three friends; Eliphaz, Bildad, and Zophar who saw Job from afar and wept with him due to the condition he was in. It takes only a few real people to weep with your when all hell is breaking loose, but thank God that Job received DOUBLE FOR HIS TROUBLE in the end!
Job experienced TOO MUCH BROKENNESS, which humbled Him to run to the Father even more! Satan must have thought he was smart, but God knew the end from the beginning, and this is what I love about God; no matter who tries to attack you, He already knows the scheme of man from the beginning, so sister, do not worry about the arrow that tries to attack you, because though it may shoot at you, IT WON’T KILL YOU! I am here to encourage and remind you that your pain serves a high purpose, and when you are willing to allow you pain to break you, you will never understand the true encounter of the Father. He is the only one that can turn your brokenness into JOY! And I mean joy unspeakable!
You must understand sister, that when people say things about you, it isn’t for you to wallow in self-pity or hide your pain by going out without any limits. It is a time for you to be REAL WITH THE FATHER and express to Him how you truly feel. Being broken is very attractive, but in order to keep it more attractive, you must be consistent. Life is consistent, so is the pain, but how many of us are willing to endure it? We want the Victory, but we don’t want the process. That is not the way to go. In John 16:33, Jesus says this: “I have told you these things so that in me you may have peace. In this world, you will have troubles. But take heart! I have overcome the world”.
Brokenness is what God wants from us because He already knows that there is chaos in our world. We can’t hide from it, we can’t escape it, BUT we can endure it! We have the help of the Holy Spirit to guide and protect us all the way, to share our story with other broken people, so that they too shall receive their healing. Your story is so powerful, but it is pride that is stopping you from being free because you keep all the pain to yourself. You will crack and crumble if you keep doing so. The only way to be free is to see God’s Kingdom FIRST (Matthew 6:33), and ask for the Spirit of Discernment to open up to those God has placed in our lives. We are human, and God knows why He created us with emotions, however, we cannot allow our emotions to make us numb to our pain as well as those around us. God knows how to bring up a situation from your past to gradually get rid of toxic pride and bitterness, so that you can truly enjoy the life and promises He has said (Jeremiah 29:11).
OUR LIFE IS FULL OF BROKENNESS – BROKEN FAMILIES, BROKEN RELATIONSHIPS, BROKEN PROMISES, BROKEN EXPECTATIONS. HOW CAN WE LIVE WITH THAT BROKENNESS WITHOUT BECOMING BITTER AND RESENTFUL EXCEPT BY RETURNING AGAIN AND AGAIN TO GOD’S FAITHFUL PRESENCE IN OUR LIVES – HENRI NOUWEN
Your brokenness is God’s opportunity to show off His strength to His children. We as women of God have to truly believe and know that what we go through should NEVER be a surprise to us. It is even better to use the pain you are going through, to pray for your sister that is currently struggling with low self-esteem or her chatter. You don’t know how your pain is a reflection of someone else’s brokenness. Just be honest with yourself and say where it hurts, and your friend will see right through your pain, and eventually become vulnerable and share where it hurts. That is how two people can heal. As I keep saying, I cannot relate to people who haven’t been through what I encountered, and until you understand, you will never come to reason why I praise Him so much!
Be willing to tackle the issue and not the person, because in the end, God will use the issue and people for His Glory. I’ve come to realise that most times, we get into the ‘blame game’ activity, but when was the last time you took accountability for your own actions? Yes, it may look weak but it really is strength. No-one can cover up a bad character, but one can make their character better by being sincere, showing that they don’t have it all, and is willing to start again because LIFE WILL HUMBLE YOU IF YOU DON’T HUMBLE YOURSELF. But it starts with YOU! Are you willing to do it broken? Are you willing to get rid of your ‘it’s all about me titles’ and just be meek? Life does not only revolve around you, we all need someone, but you have to admit you need help in order for God to fix you. Stop doing it by yourself, you are breaking inside. Do it broken with God; He will make you whole again.
For those who have not be able to attend the book launch, I will put the link for my new book “It’s Time to Heal” below where you can purchase it. Please, let this book touch your heart and see how brokenness brings out the beauty in your pain. Remember that your pain serves a high purpose, and being broken allows God to ultimately be in the centre of your life. Enjoy: