The ‘Deception’ of Ourselves

Deception 1

Deception & pride is concerned with WHO is right; Humility is concerned with WHAT is right.

Who are you really? Are you trying to put on a front for people to accept you? What are your motives behind what you do in your day-to-day life? These questions require genuine answers. In a world that is influenced by society and material possessions, as believers, we should be reminded that our worth is always in the Lord Jesus Christ. Let nothing in this world take your mind away from the True, most Holy One.

When you wake up every day, what is the first thing on your mind? Is it God? Do you think about what you are going to eat? How about what you are going to wear? No matter our thoughts, we must come to realise that what we think about before we wake up is likely to follow us throughout the day. When your mind is fixated on God every morning, your day will be filled with His goodness! I am a true living witness to that. However, I cannot say that I have been consistent with Him at every moment, but I do get back on my feet and carry on. That helps me to know that I am not deceiving myself. You see some of us today want others to ‘see’ that we have it all together, but it is good to be broken and vulnerable. Why do we hide our insecurities? God can see them all. Or do we just hide them from man? You see, there is a comparative difference between the two. Some hide their fear and pride from God, and others hide them from man.

You can never hide anything from God; you are just wasting your time if you do. With man, on the other hand, there are some things you can hide from them. You had a quiet divorce recently that you don’t want your girlfriends to know, you lost your job and now you are using your savings to keep you going, your secretly a spiteful person but you smile at everyone just to allow people to ‘see’ that you are being nice. These things God understands. Yes, at times our speech can be very spiteful towards others, but why is this the case? Don’t think just because your neighbor is dressed to impress and looking means that she has it all together. Some put on a show to cover up the pain; the make-up, the nice hair, the car, the partner etc, all these things can be cover-ups for the real anguish within ones’ heart.


Ladies, I cannot emphasise enough how GOOD it is to be broken in the eyes of God. We will not always have it together, do you know why? Because pride is likely to kick in. We will start to think that we have come this far in our lives, but we must always have in our minds that if it were not for THE LORD that was on our side, we would have been CONSUMED (Psalm 124:1-2). David knew that if the Father was not on his side, he would have been defeated, but he humbled himself saying that he is NOTHING with God. We must have this same mentality, to not always think that we must have it all together and that we can still be used whilst in pain. David was in so much agony that in 2 Samuel 22:7 he said “In my distress I called upon the Lord, to my God I called. From His temple, He heard my voice, and my cry came to His ears“.

When you think you have everything all together, you won’t be able to pray like David did. It takes a humbled-minded person to be naked with God and tell Him the real deal. Tell him how bad it hurts, although He already knows. Most people would say “but why do I need to tell God my pain if He already knows?” Well, why not? Remember His word says that we should cast our burdens onto Jesus for He cares for us 1 Peter 5:7. The Father knows your weak points, that is why He wants you to cast them over to Him. He may not get you out of the situation when you want Him to, but He promises in His word to be WITH YOU! This is something to be very happy about! Do you know how long I have been wanting God to take me out of my predicament? But He kept telling me, “I will be with you”. That was the comfort I needed to keep me going in my journey with Him.

Rather than me thinking, I had it all together, He was reminding me that He knew everything that had happened to me, and all I had to do was relax and know that He is God. There is no point trying to fix every detail of your life, He is the best craftsman to fix it up for you. Stop trying to do Gods job and allow Him to work in your life. We deceive ourselves in so many different ways. The usual: “How are you?” then you say “I’m fine, thanks”, with that smile emoji…. Remember if you do not have it all together right now, it is for a good reason! God wants you to be reminded that without Him, nothing can be made possible. You won’t be able to see the fruit of your labor if you keep doing everything by yourself. Remember that it is God that gives you the Power to make wealth (Deuteronomy 8:18), and without Him, everything you planned to achieve will just fail. Quit choking yourself up, swallow that pride and let Him have His way. At the same time, I know how it feels to hide your pain away, but you can’t hide it from the Father. Some hide their pain due to fear and shame but there is simply nothing to be upset about. Your pride doesn’t want you to leave it, but you can’t allow it to keep you bound all the time. 

Girl, if you are not fine, please be honest. No one is going to look down on you because you may not have it all together. To be honest, there are some ladies who are waiting for you to be vulnerable towards them so that they too can be real with what they are going through. Yes, it happens at times. I was usually a quiet person back in my days, but now as I am walking closer with the Lord, He has enabled me to open up to the right people, but most importantly to Him. God does not want you to keep lying to yourself thinking that you have it all together. Yes, you can say “it is well” but do you REALLY BELIEVE IT IS WELL? Or are you just saying it because it sounds nice? Remember you don’t have to lie to make others happy. Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord, but those who act faithfully are his delight (Proverbs 12:22). Remember, you have to be HUMBLE ENOUGH to say that though he slay me, YET shall I trust Him (Job 13:15).

Deception 2

You are the one that must take responsibility for your life and actions, and eventually, you will enjoy the benefits of Gods Grace. Recognise when something is dead in your life, whether it is a friendship, a relationship, an addiction, all these things must be rectified and put to bed so that you are free from what kept you bound in the first place. The deception of ourselves can be dangerous if we are not sincere. Remember that God is not moved by your emotions, HE IS MOVED BY YOUR FAITH. Bishop TD Jakes kept saying in some of his recent sermons that why do people think Christians always have to have it all together 24/7? Let us be real here, who is going to be happy 24/7? Yes, we have the Father and we SHOULD be happy that we have life and can breathe, but can you honestly say you are happy every second? There will be some things that will come to memory and will trigger you. God knows that we will have heavy days and painful moments, but through it all, He is willing and eager to help us along the way. You just have to be true to yourself.

He knows that we will have shortcuts, but does that mean we should deceive ourselves by saying we have it all together? Remember that you do not control your life, God does because the steps of a good man are ONLY ordered by Him (Psalm 37:23). Our steps are being led by the Father, and this is where deception will eventually rub off because God cannot bless a proud heart. He can’t be surrounded by people who want to control their lives and the decisions they make. Who are we really fooling by working so hard to make everyone around us look as if we have it together? Do you know how much effort that takes? Ladies, it is effort! You can’t keep worrying about how others define you as. Do you know who YOU are in the Lord? Are you allowing people to define you by how they see you, or your past mistakes? You can’t be victorious if you are going around seeking approval from man. God is the One whom you seem for approval and validation.

Man will love you and hate you tomorrow, but Gods love is unconditional!

Come out of your comfort zone and be free! Stop allowing deception to get the best of you! You are bought with a precious price and don’t need to put the whole burden on yourself. Why not allow the Father to take your pain away? Learn to be consistent with the Father, day-to-day. Never allow a day to pass you by where you don’t tell Him how you feel. It is very important that every false assumption, every negative pride, every boastful heart is surrendered to God before you start your day unless it will keep following you around. It is draining and does not help matters at all. Give yourself the Peace you deserve and allow the Father to heal you from deception. In order to be healed, you have to always walk in the Spirit, meaning that you have to study the Word day and night (Joshua 1:8), and meditate on it. Pray over what you have read and ask the Father to help you apply it. We can all be INTENTIONAL about studying God’s Word and make it fun!

Galatians 6:7-8 “Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life”.

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