Quoted from The Wait book New York’s Best Times Seller from DeVon Franklin & Meagan Good:
“The wait is a time to heal when the only one that matters is you. Some of the world’s largest greatest success stories are about people who knew that nothing they did could influence events in their favor, so they chose to wait for conditions to shift”.
When I read this, I had to re-assess my mind pattern and ask myself if I met this criteria. When things doesn’t go the way we expect it to be, do we position our minds to be at rest, or do we stress ourselves thinking that it will eventually sort itself out? The only person that can handle problems is YOU. You are in control of you thoughts, decisions, and circumstances that come your way. People who are intentional are the very people who know how to roll with the punches of life. They know that life will not always go the way they planned it to be, so they learn to adjust, and this is what some of us including myself needs to activate in our lives.
I have been in many predicaments where over-thinking did not do anything for me other than make my attitude bitter and negative. If you do not tackle the problem now, it will affect you so much that anything you plan on doing will fail, whether its to study a book or confront an issue. Your character won’t allow you to do these things because your mind is being abused. Why do I say your mind is being abused? I’ll inform you. It is being abused because you are not giving it time to heal; you are desperate to find out why people hurt you, so you abuse other people with the hurt you received from others. Overtime, you will develop a character that people will be afraid of because you choose not to wait for the right time for your breakthrough. No matter who you are, you will never get everything your way; that is a fact. Show me a man or woman today who has received everything at a time they planned for it to come, and I will show you someone who did not have it easy but worked hard to receive all they have.
Ladies, there is no short-cut to success! Some people want to take the easy route and dodge most of the pot holes, but unfortunately, there will be bumps and side roads along the way, and we must learn to adjust to these issues. Unless you try to shift your way to the top with bad motives, you will still face the consequences because it truly takes time to be successful; it is not an overnight thing. A lot of people today glamorize success by the amount of money you have. That is not the only way to define success, so do not stress yourself over your financial status. There is more to life than being defined by your financial stability. If your calling is to be a leader, it is going to take time to operate, not only for the benefit of yourself, but because God has entrusted you to lead His people who you are going to make an impact towards. If I may ask, what are you waiting for? Are you aware that having a family takes time, being self-employed takes time, writing your first book takes time, but what matters is that you stay consistent with a positive attitude all at the same time. This is called wise waiting.
An influential philosopher St. Thomas Aquinas said that:
“A person is said to be patient, because he/she acts in a praiseworthy manner by enduring things which hurt him/her here and now and is not unduly saddened by them”.
I will not forget these few words “praise-worthy manner”. If that is all I can get from this statement, it is fine by me. Now I know to some it seems weird to have a praise worthy manner when the odds are against you, but compare yourself to a person that despite the odds against him or her, they refuse to give it to their emotions because they know they could end up doing something foolish, relative to someone who has been attacked and still managers to keep it going with a positive attitude. Imagine we all had this mannerism that regardless of what comes our way, we still remain in the attitude of praise. What impact will it make towards those around you? Do you not realise that your character rubs off on others who are in your life? Your inner circle is influenced by the way you speak, act and think. It does take time, however to know who you are (your character) you must learn to face these attacks head on because how you handle your situations will determine how far you will go in life. Who are you really? Are you a nice person on Sunday morning when you arrive at church, then switch into a bitter individual on Monday going to work? I know it is not always being who you are around people, but if you have to change for people to like you, I suggest you re-assess your friends. I would strongly dislike to be in an environment where I have to constantly keep changing just to please people. For those who are struggling to know their friends, this is for you. I waited approximately a year to have such good friends, and cannot thank God enough for them all. True friends are very rare these days and I had to wait scared, worried, anxious, but it worked out for me.
It takes wisdom to wait patiently, particularly when it is something that not only benefits you but those around you. Your level of waiting will determine your ability to succeed in life. God Himself requires us to wait on Him, even if it means not doing what our usual schedule is. A song that gets me excited when I’m feeling overwhelmed is called Wait on the Lord. The words go like this: “Wait on the Lord, He knows what you need, He’ll give it to you just in time, wait on the Lord. They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up with wings like eagles, wait on the Lord”. (Isaiah 40:31). When it feels like everything is against me, I just take time out of my busy schedule and wait on Him patiently. I must discipline my mind to stop going ahead of Him and allowing my “got to do everything now” mentality to rest. Yes it is easier said than done because God does require us to take responsibility for some circumstances, but NOT to constantly worry about them.
You can be one of the politest person but you will still face attacks, no-one is immune to attacks. We will encounter problems in different stages of our lives. God does not require us to wait to punish us. Before, when I wasn’t a mature Christian, I would assume God to deliberately allow me to wait, as I would always see other people’s statuses on Facebook about how God brought them out of their personal situations and how blessed they were to have their first job after graduation, or getting married, or even setting up their own business. I looked up to Heaven and said “Lord, what about me”, He said “Keep waiting”. Do you think this was easy to hear? No, it wasn’t, but instead I obeyed. I didn’t question the Lord because I was convinced in my heart that He knew what He was doing. Take it like this: you have run out of batteries, you have plugged in your phone and now there is nothing to do but sit and wait. Whilst waiting, you know it really only takes a matter of minutes, you start to feel tense and anxious, wondering how long this could possibly take. Have you been in this position? I have many times. Charging your phone is not always comfortable especially when you need it desperately. But this is where our test comes from. God is not testing your ability to wait, He is testing how well you BEHAVE while you wait. It is easy to plug in a phone and leave it to charge whilst you have another task to do, but when your task involves using your phone, He will see your true intentions and test your ability to see how long you are willing to let to phone charge without allowing your mind to wonder.
While the majority of us is in a hurry, God is not usually in a hurry because He knew us even before we were in our mothers wombs (Jeremiah 1:5). God tends to be slow when it comes to blessing His children because only He knows when we are ready for it. God will not give you what you cannot handle; He knows what you can take and what you can’t take so learn to be content with what you have, and wait for the best to come. The problem with waiting is not having all the details. From our perspective, we have everything figured out and we want God to move within our time-frame, but this is not always going to be the case. We should not perceive the Father as Santa Clause only going to Him when we need a gift, but should be a time where we express our trust in Him knowing that He is working everything out for our good whilst we wait. God always has good reasons for making us wait. Waiting is a part of life and one of God’s tools for developing people. Yes it won’t be easy, but this is where your true character comes out. Are you someone who can wait wisely? If you do not have a journal, I suggest you buy one. Write out all the times where you were tempted to complain and compare it to the days where you were happy. See which one is most popular and determine your level of waiting from the results.
Moral of today’s blog post:
- Waiting reveals our true motives
- Waiting builds patience in our lives
- Waiting transforms our character
- Waiting builds dependency and intimacy on God