Hello lovelies, today I shall be speaking from the topic of Perfection versus Progression. In an ever-changing world full of temptations to be like others, dress like others and even compete with others, it is becoming highly frustrating to keep up to date with current trends. What led me in this path of my topic; perfection vs progression is that the majority of women find it very difficult knowing who they really are. Some women buy products they cannot afford just to impress their friends. It is so dangerous trying to be a perfectionist when your inner character is sour. Your character says a lot about you. As they say beauty is not just on the outside, but also on the inside.
A lot of us today take so much care in how we look outwardly that we fail to realise that our inner being needs to be fed. I had the opportunity of sharing my personal testimony at the Empowered United Women’s Ministry Conference (more info on Facebook) held on Saturday 13th February regarding my journey at University and my physical attributes. My struggle in second year of university made me break out severely. I had no one to talk to regarding the way I felt because when one problem was solved, another one popped up. I did everything I could to get rid of my spots, but unfortunately it got worse and lost all confidence. I hardly went to church because I was so ashamed of the way I looked at the time. Eventually, when I stepped into my third year, I realised that God placed good room mates in my life and when my prayer life changed, the confidence I had towards my skin improved 🙂
Looking back on it, I learnt that beauty is not just on the outside, but what defines beauty is dependent on how you see YOURSELF. It is not about how people view you because if you depend on people to make you feel worthy, you are like the man who looks at himself in the mirror, goes away and totally forgets what he looks like (James 1:24). Your beauty has nothing to do with having a flat stomach or a small waist. Try to not put so much emphasis on your physical appearance and start feeding your spiritual life up. When your spiritual life is consistent you will start to see gradual progression not just in your life, but those who are surrounded by you.
Perfection vs progression are always in battle! It is either one or the other, but you cannot have both. You either live to serve God or serve the World. 1 John 4:4 states that “Greater is He than is in me than he that is in the World”. The way the world is going today, only God can save it. Celebrities are making such influencing women from the way they dress (modesty) to the way they talk. I was having a discussion with my sister earlier on and was telling her about the power of prayer and how we must stand as one to speak LIFE over our women around the world who are being influenced by society. Women today want pleasure and attention, not realizing that it is temporary satisfaction. But those who yearn for PERMANENT SATISFACTION (which is Christ Jesus) will never be disappointed.
The world WILL fail you but God WILL NEVER fail you. There is a difference. A lot of us place God as a last resort when things are not falling in place. We perceive God as a “Santa Clause” only going to him around the Christmas season giving Him all our hearts desires, and then have the cheek to go back to living our selfish lives. This is why at times, God will remind you of what crushed you in your past so that you will humble yourself and get on your knees to pray and seek His face. This is truly the starting point of progression, not just only in the Kingdom but in our every day lives. When you wake up to attend work or manage your daily house-keeping duties, people around will notice a glow in you and would want to find out what is it that keeps you smiling, positive and on your feet.
Wouldn’t you be happy to see your sister or close girlfriend changed by the renewing of their minds? (Romans 12:2). It would be amazing to see ladies in the Kingdom serve their sisters in that they will remind them of their true worth in Christ Jesus and draw them away from the world into His Peace. The world cannot give you Peace ladies, I have tried and it has failed me. As previously stated, you cannot please God and the World, you have the choice to choose. We will never be perfect until the day of our Lord Jesus Christ returns. We can try to be perfect in people’s eyes, but God knows you more than you know yourself. Stop wasting time trying to get people’s attention which you know won’t feed you positively. Be intentional and learn to progress with the Father as your foundation and when He sees that you are Faithful to Him, He too will be Faithful to you.
BE YOURSELF! No one in this world can be like you and never will. I have come to realise that in my previous years, a few friends would expect me to do things their way not realizing that every human being has the right to speak out. For me, I was very timid and shy so I just had to do what my friends wanted me to. In other words, I would try to please them just to make them happy but inside I was crushed. They wanted me to look like them, act like them, dress like them, speak like them, but inside me there was a voice saying “You are better than this” ; “Do not give them so much authority over your life”. Those kind of situations gets you thinking so much. You start to wonder who you are, and if you really have a purpose in life, or you are just living day-to-day looking for a “motive”. Well, your motive should be to live for Christ. It is not about you trying to look or be perfect in mans eyes, but it is about your level of progression in the Kingdom. Your level of progression will enable God to reveal His Destiny for your life.
This is why we go through tests, to see whether we trust God ENOUGH. When God blesses you with a gift, are you the type of person that will flaunt it on Snapchat or Instagram, or will you humble yourself, kneel down and thank the God that gave it to you? A lot of us today use social media as a form of ‘praise’ to get the world to notice us. But what I am trying to put across to you is “It is not about you, boo!”. It really is not about the shoes you wear, the clothes you buy, the perfume you put on or even the status of your salary. It is simply about Christ. Women must learn to die to their own desires and open their spiritual eyes to see that we have a duty to fulfill on earth. You don’t even know what your sister or close friend may be facing; just because she looks good on the outside does not mean you know her inner struggle. Instead of trying to get attention from social media, learn to distance yourself from the instant popularity from the world and make a change in your inner circle and eventually it will create a long-lasting cycle of progress in the Kingdom.
There are some people who look up to you without you even knowing. They ‘pree’ your Instagram and Facebook page to see if you are really living by what you preach. Do not be inconsistent in the choices that you make, instead learn to stick with the choices made. It could be the choice of taking a break off social media, it could be a choice of not buying clothes for a year, it could be a choice of cutting out certain friends in your life that you know have no intention helping you become better. All these sources of fast success will lead you in the wrong direction filled with regrets. God did not create us to live a life of regrets; He created us to worship Him despite our imperfections. In His eyes we will always be beautiful, but in mans eye’s we will be over the place. Man will always want us to work according to their schedule and what suits them, but it will seriously drain you if you are not wise to make a decision to say NO! Saying no is not being mean, you are saving yourself a lot of frustration.
It is so heart-breaking to see many women today committing suicide because they do not take the time to know who they really are. Hence this blog’s name; the Women’s Worth Conference Group, we are a group that enables women to identify their worth in our Lord Jesus Christ. When Jesus died on the Cross for you and I, He reminded us of our worth and said we have nothing to worry about. The world hated Jesus, and if it hated Jesus, it will also hate you (John 15:18). Do not be surprised when the world does not operate according to what you need, because what you need is not in the world, but in the WORD! You must take this on board for yourself Queen. No man, woman, mother, father, brother, sister, aunt, uncle, niece or nephew will tell you of your worth other than Christ. You may feel important when you have the latest Michael Kors bag but is that what you are here to do? Just to flaunt a bag? No sister, you are here on a mission.
You are here to feed yourself with the Word and apply it to this lost world who thinks revenge is the best way of solving everything. Some women enjoy fighting people physically and verbally, not realizing that time is running out and everything has its own season. If you are reading this message today you do not know how BLESSED AND HIGHLY FAVORED you are! Take this opportunity to speak with God to find out what your purpose is. Once you have received it, use it for the extension of the Kingdom. Do not be selfish with your calling and feed on it yourself. Share with others that are struggling from all angles. Your purpose can save so many women in the world to know that they are worth it and that God hears every thing they pray about. In addition to this, please know ladies that GOD HEARD YOU! God sees all so honestly ladies, give it all to God now. The struggle is over! Stop trying to be a people-pleaser and be a God-pleaser. Nothing in this world can satisfy. His Word will never go away (Matthew 24:35). Learn to be broken and transparent in your time of vulnerability the greatest victory is when you surrender your all, your plans to be perfect and learn to wait on Him so that He can lift you up in due time.
God bless you!