I Didn’t Let It Choke Me


The feeling that we receive when we hear bad news or when the people you are surrounded with are constantly negative that it even affects the way you operate. Everyone has a decision to make and it must be one that you should not feel bad about or would need to justify. There are various situations that I have encountered where my flesh was put to the test. I was so eager to retaliate out of my feelings, but something deep down told me to hush.

Ladies, we must come to a realization that what people meant for evil, God will turn it around for your good (Genesis 50:20). Let us focus on the story of Joseph in the book of Genesis chapter 50. Here, we see that Joseph had two brothers whom he loved dearly. As time went on, God showed Joseph a vision of the dream He planned to fulfill in His life; until he told his dream to his brothers. When the brothers found out about his dream, they turned from being kind to being envious. Now that is a dangerous thing because it’s one thing for a friend to change in a heartbeat, but for your own family member to turn against you like that is painful!

So what did these brothers do? They sold Joseph into slavery for 22 years in Egypt! What really amused me was the fact that Joseph did not hold any grudges on his brothers. I wonder if it would have happened to any of us whether we would actually let go or want to revenge back. The pain that Joseph faced was so severe that it could have choked him. But GUESS WHAT, IT DIDN’T! I’ll tell you why. Joseph’s brothers stood before him as Prime Minister of Egypt. They did not recognise him and he holds their fate in his hands. Although Joseph knew that his brothers were with him, Joseph did not talk about the incident. Joseph made sure that no one in Egypt would ever know that they had done to him. Remember ladies that perfect love casts out fear (1 John 4:18). Some of us in this scenario would want to pounce back on the culprit, but Joseph was wise enough to know that the battle was for the Lord; for that reason he didn’t allow the situation to choke him as well as his future.

God knows the weaknesses of your offenders that caused them to hurt you, but you must bear in mind that the same way you would want to judge or retaliate with the offender is the same way God will deal with you. Matthew 7:2 says “You will be judged in the same way that you judge others”. Joseph’s brothers genuinely did not know it was Joseph and was stunned with surprise. When they approached Joseph, Joseph then revealed himself and told them that he was their brother, the one who sold him for 22 years in Egypt. The most humbling thing to me was that Joseph even comforted his brothers for what they had done, so in other words he didn’t feel the need to intimidate them. When you are able to over-look the pain of what someone did to you in your past, you are a MATURE Christian! It is not always easy to be one I tell you; the majority of the time, our flesh wants to take over, but we have to develop self-control.

In particular, Joseph did not want his brothers to fear him, but to love him regardless of what they did. He wanted restoration and not revenge. How many of us can truthfully say we want restoration for our enemies? This is why Joseph didn’t choke and was able to obtain the promises God had for him. He knew that the long-term benefits of healing a relationship far outweighed any short-term satisfaction we would get from retaliation. Joseph understood that only when you release your offender that you set yourself free. Joseph wanted his brothers to know that they are accepted and will not use their sin against them. This too is the kind of love our Father shows us daily because He never brings up our past mess or keeps us at arm’s length because of our failures. Just as Joseph showed love and compassion to his brothers, it is the same way God too desires us to show love to other people; a love that doesn’t want them to feel afraid in your presence.

Imagine going to university or to a family gathering, and everyone looking at you in a weird way. How would that honestly make you feel? For me personally, I wouldn’t feel comfortable. So it is very important how you treat people and how you make them feel. Bear in mind that God has been so Faithful to each and every one of us so we too must be careful not to lay a guilt trip on others. Often it is your forgiveness that makes it possible for others to forgive themselves. What if you know of someone who cannot forgive themselves on what they did to you in the past, that the only way they can be free is if you tell them you accept their apology? Have you noticed that some commit suicide because of a friends unforgiving attitude? Yes what the person may have done was wrong, I am not disputing that, but for someone to go to that extent of taking their own life for a friend! Eish that must wake someone up today! Let us not wait until it is too late to forgive our offenders. Remember forgiveness is a gift that you give to yourself; it is for you to be free and enjoy what God promises you to have.

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Nothing is heavier than guilt because:

  • It will drag you down – emotionally and mentally!
  • It will destroy your relationships – you would only be using the new relationship to numb the pain of the old one!
  • It will destroy your health – because you are not built to carry resentment!

God will always use the things that people plan against you to work out FOR YOUR GOOD! That is just how He works. Everything you and I have been through that has tried to bring us down one way or the other is working out in our favor. Friends that promise you to do something and fail to do it is working out for your good. I have learnt not to rely too much on people because things are subject to change, and in this life we will eventually step on each others toes, but as long as we are willing to NOT BECOME BITTER ABOUT IT, and let go of the situation is where God can step in and give us His Peace. This is a new level of forgiveness! When you preserve the dignity and self-worth of others, God will do the same for you also. With full knowledge of our sinful past, He covers us with the garment of Grace, and He expects us to do the same to others. The Bible says “Be full of love for others, following the example of Christ who loved you and gave Himself to God as a sacrifice to take away our sins”.

When you forgive, there is no place for self-righteousness. With Joseph, he wasn’t being condescending or patronising, nor was he thinking, “I’ll be admired for being so gracious”, No! During his years in prison, God had moved on his heart and changed his attitude. So when Joseph said “You meant evil against me, but God meant it for good (Genesis 50:20), he really meant it. This was why Joseph was a step ahead of his brothers, and for this reason it made his brothers respect him the more. When you consider that God knows all about your sin YET promises to keep it a closely guarded secret, it should:

  1. Increase your sense of humility and gratitude
  2. Cause you to keep your mouth shut
  3. Make you refuse to hold anybody else’s sins and shortcomings over their head

True forgiveness must be practiced every day, and I know it won’t always be easy because we are all human and have feelings. Sure, it is easy to accept someone’s wrongdoing when they admit their offences, but if that is how you want to live all the time you may never experience victory. WHAT YOU DON’T FORGIVE, YOU WILL HAVE TO RE-LIVE IT! So for your own sake take back your life and keep walking! Although keeping your head high after an offence has come goes against our carnal nature, there is a high chance others may never know you truly forgave their offences. You certainty don’t want it to choke you, so why not just do it sincerely? Your heart might even break as you watch God bless your offender in answer to your prayers. The Bible says that Job’s suffering ended and his prosperity was restored once he was able to pray for those who had become a thorn in his side (Job 42:10). It takes a whole lot from you to pray for someone to receive their blessings while they have hurt you, but this is Christ’s standard of forgiveness. Imagine Jesus allowed his haters words to get to him, would he have won the Victory? I doubt it, but truly if the knew that Jesus was the Son of God, they would not have crucified Him. Some people do not know what they are doing when they try to offend you. 

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True forgiveness is the medicine that heels the deepest emotional wounds you have faced. It closes the door on the past and gives you Grace and motivation to move forward and enjoy the life God wants you to live. For all I know, all the sins we have committed are being recorded, so we have no other option but to just live right, love right and forgive right. Do not allow anything to choke you! Temporary satisfaction of revenge is not worth losing a long-term blessing for. Don’t allow your enemies to see you choking, instead let them see you love. Pray for those who despitefully use you (Matthew 5:44-45). Ladies, do not allow anything to steal your joy. There is so much more to life than allowing something so petty as a small argument that pushes you to make emotional decisions on a temporary situation. Be wise with your life and live it well in LOVE! God did not create you to choke, He desires you to enjoy life and have it more abundantly! (John 10:10). 

Note to remember: “Do not allow the hurts caused by temporary people block your path of your ‘FOREVER PEOPLE’. Clear the way for those will enhance your life.

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Be Heaven-Focused


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Dear sisters, as the majority of us know, we have just found out the shocking news in Paris on the 13th November 2015. It pains my heart to see how human beings take pleasure in killing what God has created. This takes me to my message today; Be Heaven-Focused. Ladies, nobody knows tomorrow. We can do all the planning we want, but in the end it amounts to nothing. Imagine investing in a £300,000 business, only to find out that you are not alive tomorrow. We honestly have to keep praying for the protection of ourselves and our loved ones.

In 2 Chronicles 7:14 it reads: “If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land”.

God is saying that when we turn from our wicked ways, our sinful nature, our cravings of worldly possessions and power, He forgive us of our sins and will eventually heal our land. Could it be possible that due to our lack of consistency in prayer that is why all the mayhem is going on in our world? What are we Christians doing about the world today? Fasting and prayer is decreasing because we are too focused on ourselves.

The majority of the world will say “If God is kind then why is all this happening?”. Umm, please do not blame God for it is a part of the plan, to show the world that He is far more greater than any war or famine. It is an opportunity for those who do not know God to see how powerful He is. But unfortunately, some people are so ignorant of that and won’t believe everything happens for the good of them that love the Lord and are called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28). We always want God to answer our prayers when we are in need but blame Him when wars and killings occur. God did not start this, it is the MIND OF MAN THAT DID. God is very capable to stop the wars from happening, but Matthew 24:7 it reads “Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be famines and earthquakes in various places”. Do not be ignorant of these things, because they are bound to happen. Whether you are a Christian or not, you are not exempt from the troubles of this world.

What we can be rest assured of is this “I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world” (John 16:33). No matter the troubles we face, we know that God has everything under control. Jesus came so that we can enjoy life, and this is His promise to those who believe in Him. Let us not be ignorant of the devices from the enemy but take our prayer lives to another level. There is too much going on in the world today that we must not ignore. Where ever you are right now in the world, just take a quiet moment and pray to God regarding our world. The world is a good place, but it is filled with bad people, evil spirits and all sorts on tribulations. Together we can conquer the plans of the evil one and God’s enemies SHALL BE SCATTERED ONCE AND FOR ALL!

Referring back to my topic, being heavenly minded is not a one day commitment, it is a consistent routine that must be adhered to on a day-to-day basis. Let us bear in mind that our tomorrow is not promised, so we must live right everyday. When we go out, when we come in, what we say to one another is vital! When something is said, whether out of love or intentions, our words will be judged. Be reminded that not everyone is on the same level as you spiritually, so we have to ensure that we pray for those that are spiritually weak, to support and encourage them to press on. Remember ladies that our rewards are in Heaven; nothing on earth can satisfy our souls, but just knowing that you are making an impact in the lives of others through your attitude and lifestyle makes God glad. Our lives should be to work for the Lord in our schools and universities, at work and also in our communities. Let us not just depend on church only, but to BE the church where ever we step our foot on.

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Colossians 3:2 says “Set your mind on things above, not on the things that are on earth”. Why did Paul say this? Because he knew that the things of the world are perishable and won’t last. He knows that the things of the world are likely to draw us away from the presence of God. Not only that, he was referring to our future home (Heaven). Let us be focused on heaven that no matter what famines and wars happen in the world, we know that Heaven is waiting for us. Being heavenly minded always inspires us to be more earthly good because what you do on earth will be recorded in Heaven. Thus, our goal as Christians must be to set our minds on things above and faithfully serve the Lord.

Sometimes God will use the foolish things of the world to confound the wise so that everyone will know that all Power is in His hands. No-one knows the truth why our world today is falling apart. It is even funny because some would say it is because we cannot see God. How can we truly be wise in our own eyes by assuming that? This is not so. In 1 Corinthians 3:18 Paul writes, “Let no man deceive himself. If any man among you thinks that he is wise in this age, he must become foolish, so that he may become wise. Paul’s readers (the Corinthians) are commanded to stop deceiving themselves with worldly wisdom. Apparently, Paul believed that it was possible for Christians to be deceived because he warns each person against falling victim to self-deception. Not only that, most Christians today believe that when we sin against God, He will condemn us and make us feel worthless, but that is not His nature. God uses the most ridiculous situations of the world to confound those who claim to be wise. Rather, one chooses to follow either “the wisdom of this world” or “the wisdom of God”. And each person must accept the consequences of the choices that are made. The wisdom of God is what we must choose daily. Do not be swept away by the cares of this world. Be expected to hear bad news, it will come, however do not lose Faith, you have a strong weapon; THE BIBLE!!

Although we are to be heavenly-minded, let us not forget to do good in the world because people are truly watching us. When ever you serve someone, whether they appreciate it or not, do not allow your flesh to make you lose your peace or your kindness. Instead keep showing them love, for God is preparing a wonderful gift for you. When you love someone, genuinely mean it. Don’t just show care to someone because you want people to see that you are a nice person. You should already have the kindness in you ready to give to others. If you are waiting for a pat on the back from the world, you are more likely to fall into the traps of the world. Remember whatever we do in the world will perish; let me show you why:

In 2 Corinthians 4:16-17 it reads “We do not lose heart. Even though our outward man is perishing, yet the inward man is renewed day by day, (17) For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, is working for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory”. Paul is saying that no matter what we go through we must not lose heart because the world is already perishing. Let us not be aloof to the plans of the enemy and think it all ends here, no my sisters it doesn’t. The afflictions that we face today are only for a moment.

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2 Corinthians 4:8-10 says that “We are hard-pressed on every side, yet not crushed; we are perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed-always carrying about in the body the dying of the Lord Jesus, that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our body”. Remember our pain serves a high purpose. Furthermore, Paul was saying exactly what Peter told the scattered and persecuted believers he wrote to: “We endure the sufferings of this world for the sake of the Glory of heaven. Whatever we suffer in this life cannot be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.” (Romans 8:18).

My sisters, I hope you have gained something from this message. Let us not be ignorant of the evil devices in the world but take our time to keep our brothers and sisters in Christ in our prayers. Keep pleading the BLOOD OF JESUS OVER YOUR LIFE AND THE LIVES OF YOUR FAMILY AND LOVED ONES. Know that this world is not where you belong, your home is in Heaven, and God is waiting to receive you with open arms 🙂


A person who does not forgive hates their own self!


As human beings, we tend to look at others and their faults, not realizing that we too are aren’t perfect. It can seem as if everyone puts the blame on you but they never see that they too have hurt others. It is where we must choose to let go and forgive or keep the grudge in our hearts and create bitterness. Our lives as women of God should be pleasure, pure and meek. There should never be a time in our lives where we hold grudges on people for a length of time because it does not change the way people act towards you. You have to choose to forgive those who have hurt you because you are not perfect yourself.

Jesus did not have to die for us but He chose to do so. We are worthless, and He is worthy, and because of His blood we are covered in Him. When I reflect back on those who have hurt me, my flesh at times wants to retaliate, however when I think about the beatings and wounds they placed on Jesus, for Him to go through the pain for you and I should take away our pride and forgive. There is a reason why God gave us two ears and one mouth; so that we can listen more and talk less. When a friend has offended you, listen to the person. Not everyone around you desires to hurt you intentionally. Some on the other hand have been through secret painful moments that all they can do is pass the hurt onto you. We have all been there when something or someone has hurt us, and instead of solving the problem with a friend, we take it out on them.

People like this do not have love in their hearts because someone who loves would not emotionally strain a friend but would want their support. Why is it today that we find it so hard to forgive? Don’t you know that forgiveness opens so many doors to your blessings? Even though you may be prospering physically, spiritually you are weak because you chose not to forgive. Forgiveness is a hard topic for some of us to digest; at times it becomes underestimated and abused, because we say we forgive with our mouths, but our hearts are far away from it. When you hear your friend talking about the person that hurt you, all of a sudden your mind becomes stiff and hard to operate because you have chosen to open up the wound of what your friend did to you in the past. Darling, you are not living in the pas, you are living in the NOW! Don’t allow your past to dictate your present situation, else you’ll think you’re moving forward, but really you are going two steps backwards.


Lets take a look at what the Bible says about the power of forgiveness:

  1. Mark 11:25 – “And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses”.
  2. Matthew 6:15 – “But if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses”.
  3. Matthew 18:22-22 – “Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy times seven”.
  4. James 5:16 – “Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working”.
  5. Luke 17:3-4 – “Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him, and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him”.

Remember a person who does not forgive hates their own self! When you love yourself, you will find it easy to forgive. When you want God to open a door for you, you will have no choice but to let go. Delayed blessings may hurt for a while, but you must have at the back of your mind that if you choose not to forgive, don’t expect an extraordinary blessing. Even when you can’t forgive yourself, you will find it hard to progress in life. I personally found it hard to forgive myself when I was a teenager. I didn’t realise that regardless of what I did, God still loved me, but at that time I wasn’t spiritually strong. Until I continued to take my personal journey with God, that is when I realised that when I was unfaithful, He is STILL FAITHFUL!


Forgiving other people is a strength. It is only a fool that keeps bitterness in their hearts. What makes you enjoy life without forgiveness? Impossible! It won’t work because you’ll keep dwelling on the problem rather than finding a solution. When you think about a struggle for so long, it will drain you mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. Your social life will deteriorate and you will start to close your heart and become bitter. Stop memorizing what people have done to you, and remind yourself daily that you are forgiven by Christ! It does not matter what you have done or what someone has done to you. What makes you a bigger person is choosing to forgive. We all want God to open doors for us right? How can this by done? By listening and obeying the Word of God. Remember Luke 17:3-4 talks about how you must rebuke your neighbor if he/she sins against you and if he/she changes, you must forgive. No matter the amount of times someone has hurt you, choose to let go because no matter what happens, you will be worse off than the offender.

If God had not included forgiveness in His plan for humanity, none of us would enjoy life renewed with Him in heaven. Without forgiveness there would be no hope at all.

Because of God’s nature, He forgives on a daily basis. If there were no forgiveness at all, we will live a miserable life. You will start hating yourself the more, start breaking things in the house, until you COME BACK TO YOUR SELF and realise everything you have broken has to be replaced. Your anger does not have to involve breaking the house down, whether psychically or verbally to your siblings and parents, but can be solved through genuine prayer through seeking God. If God can forgive us of our sins, why can’t we too forgive others? Remember that forgiveness is not for the weak. Being able to forgive those who have wronged you is a mark of spiritual strength and confidence. When you forgive, you grow, your heart begins to heal, your back straightens up, your eyes clear so that you can see clear, so that you can see the road ahead. Anger is a spiritual sickness; but when you forgive you live. 

When I think about the Cross, my heart tightens because of the sacrifice Christ made for You and I. Even when the chief officers were accusing and spitting on Him, Christ did not retaliate but instead He said “Father forgive them for they don’t know what they are doing (Luke 23:24). Could you pray for your enemies like that? Even if one was to spit on you, could you humble yourself enough to not retaliate but just pray? It was not easy for Jesus and certainly it won’t always be easy for us, but because of the love that God has for Christ and ourselves, He will give us the strength and GRACE to forgive!

For those who may not be Christians or are new to the Faith, it won’t always be easy to forgive or receive forgiveness. 1 John 1:9 says; “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness”.  It really is that simple! This is not just a confession though.  We all have confessed words in our lives that we didn’t feel regret for. This type of confession described here is a confession of heart-felt shame from what we have done and that is what brings humility and meekness. This is a confession of remorse for what has taken place. This remorse goes hand-in-hand with repentance because when you cry out to God for His forgiveness of your sins, you must not forget about your repentant heart; a repentant heart is a healthy heart. Without it, you will fall right back into the same sin.


Sisters, choose today to forgive all who have hurt you. Remember no one knows tomorrow, but because God lives we CAN face tomorrow. Every word that is uttered from your lips is being recorded by God in Heaven, so choose what you say wisely to your fellow brothers and sisters. Do not allow your anger to control you but be an example of Christ on earth. You want to be rewarded for the good things you have done on earth. God is not someone who will hold your guilt against you; it is you that is holding it against you. Without forgiveness, nothing in your life will satisfy you. You can eat as much as you like, drink as much as you like, party as much as you like, but without forgiveness, you are living a life without oxygen!

To conclude ladies, enjoy the life that God granted you and choose to let go and forgive. Forgiveness is a strength not a weakness! Never bring up a past fault of what someone did, especially when they are very apologetic. Put yourself in other people’s shoes and see how you treat them, for how you treat people will determine how God will bless you.

Remember, forgiveness warms the heart and cools the sting!

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You have to love what prospers you!


You have to love what prospers you ladies. Why are we so faithful to disloyalty? To people who we know don’t like us? I know how hard it can be to keep everyone happy, but do yourself a favor and say “ENOUGH!”. There will be times in your life where you’ll be tested through different sorts of people and circumstances, and will have to make a decision on how to continue living your life. I have been through various stages in my early 20’s where I felt used and taken advantage of. I realised that in life those who are being treated unfairly will rise above it all! When they rise, that is where all hell breaks loose simply because people enjoy you being lower than them. When they see you’re getting confidence, they’ll eventually become bitter and resentful.

Well I hate to break it to you sister, but you need to RISE BACK UP AGAIN! If you are having a hard time right now, trying to figure out why people are changing, speak to the Lord Jesus! He knew how it felt when the people he loved changed especially when He needed them the most (in reference to His disciples when they slept instead of praying with Jesus – Luke 22:39-46). He knew how it felt to be taken advantage of. He also knew how much he had a loving Father who knew all this was going to happen. Despite all the drama, He still chose to love them. Now I do not know about you, but the world we are living in today, it can be so difficult loving those who drain us. Sometimes we find it hard to cut them off for fear of being lonely. But let me challenge you a little bit; would you rather let go and be free, or stay stuck in an environment (your comfort zone) where you cannot grow because people are hindering your success?

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The only antidote that can prosper you is The Word of God!! “This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success”. (Joshua 1:8). If you do not make time for the Bible, I strongly encourage you to do so! The Word has everything you and I are going through and currently facing. It is important to have intimacy with the Father so that we are able to hear when the Holy Spirit is speaking. We should always refuse to allow our flesh to overtake because words can be uttered and not taken back. Maybe you can trace a time in your life where a loved one hurt you; stepped on your toe a bit too much! Up till now, you are still finding it hard to forgive, but something keeps telling you to let go of this person. You still love the person but they are not helping you achieve your fullest potential. It takes humility and STRENGTH to let people go, and you must bear in mind is this person enabling you to prosper?? Be honest with yourself…

T.D. Jakes says “When people can walk out of your life, let them walk because your destiny is NOT tied to theirs”. We must stop allowing ourselves becoming agitated or stressed about other people and start focusing on ourselves, because where God is taken you is not where He is taking your friends. We all have different paths to take, so ensure you do not miss your opportunity. Comparison is the thief of joy, so refuse to look to others and look up! In fact, have some ME TIME TODAY! Take this opportunity to reflect on your life and see how far you have come and where you intend to go. The more time you spend investing in yourself and your future, the less time you’ll worry about what people define you as.

I have come to a point in my life where cutting people off has become so easy. Why? Because I knew how it felt a few years ago to hold on to heavy baggage that was weighing me down. I also had to examine the people who were in my life and the impact they would have made if they were genuine. There are some people today that won’t allow you to be the person you are; people not allowing you to be free; controlling friends; ungrateful friends, those who spoke bad behind my back. These are all the dead-weights that are draining our day-to-day lives and it needs to be CUT OFF!! As we are approaching 2016 very soon, let us set a strong foundation for the year, and use it to pray and intercede! Ask God what He wants you to accomplish and inform Him of your personal hearts desires so that He will fulfill it. Be Faithful in communicating with God. Examine the whole year of 2015 and reflect on it; what have you learnt this year and how can you use what you’ve learnt to benefit 2016?

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You must endeavour to surround yourself with people who will take you up another level; those who are willing to challenge and deliver you out of your comfort zone. I met a couple of lovely women this year who are authentic and can relate to me when I open up to them. It is very important to know how to surround yourself with good people. I was speaking to a dear friend of mine recently and was reminding her of how precious she is in the Lord’s eyes. Sometimes as women, we don’t always feel worthy because of a past memory or something we have done. If we are not careful, we can be faithful to our past that we miss the opportunity of being blessed. Although our past is kin to our future, it does not give us the right to wallow in it. Our past should only be an indication that our future is going to be beautiful! Amen!!

Now what I am going to talk about next may not be some people’s favourite topic, but I am going to say it anyway. In Malachi 3:10 it reads “Bring the full tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. And thereby put me to the test, says the Lord of hosts, if I will not open the windows of heaven for you and pour down for you a blessing until there is no more need”. Now giving is an ACT OF WORSHIP UNTO THE LORD. Giving is saying that you choose the GIVER OVER THE GIFT, and put your own personal desires aside, and is confident that the Lord will provide all your needs in His time. Those who give more are likely to receive more, HOWEVER TO WHOM MUCH IS GIVEN, MUCH IS REQUIRED! (Luke 12:48). Now please do not misunderstand me here, you can only give on the level you are already on. If you earn £1,000 a month, you know that giving God £100 is essential as it is 10% off your earnings. For those who may be earning about £500 a month, you ought to give £50 as it is 10% off your earnings. But if you could trust God to give above £50; lets say £65, that is a leap of Faith, and you will see how God will open up the windows of Heaven and pour you out a blessing that you won’t even have enough room to receive. On the other hand some find it very difficult to give for fear of having less. Well ladies, have you heard of this saying before “When you keep things dear to your heart you will lose it”.

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Bare in mind that God is able to make all Grace abound to you, so that having all-sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work (2 Corinthians 9:8). Being generous not only to God but to others will enable every good work to follow you. It is important to understand that giving is an act of appreciation to the person that gave you the blessing in the first place. Let us endeavour to be thankful for those who pour out their hearts to us, especially our Spiritual sisters and brothers in Christ.

I leave this brief but powerful message to you sisters. Do not be deceived by this world for what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and loses his soul? (Mark 8:36). It does not matter how much you have, but how are you using it to glorify God? These are the things that should make you prosper, not to get your girlfriends jealous, but to encourage them to be Christ-like so in due season they too will receive the promises that God had for them. What prospers you should be peace, joy, happiness, laughter, unity, humility but moreover LOVE! Let love continue to uplift and prosper you and it will generate a strong aroma. Use this time God has given you to fulfill your purpose, help your fellow sisters, let them know they are not alone in their circumstances. Let us live in love and continue to reach to those things that prosper us. If you do not know your God-given purpose, just pray and humbly ask what He wants you to do. Remember you are a chosen generation called forth to show His excellence! 🙂



Prosperity 5

The Fear of Stepping Out


Hello everyone! Welcome back to my blog and happy new month to you all! I am so privileged and humbled to know that we are near the ending of the year! It has indeed been a rocky year, but thank God for His Faithfulness! Today, I want to be speaking from the topic of; stepping out of your fears. Fear can attack us in so many ways; physically, mentally, emotionally and verbally. How many of us have truly been scared about something? Scared of failing your exam? Scared of being pregnant? Scared of losing a loved one? It is honestly mind-blowing!

I recall 2 Timothy 1:7 which states “For God gave us a spirit NOT of fear but of power and love and self-control”. When we can develop power, love and self-control, fear will eventually lose its grip on us. The majority of women today feel the need to over-pamper themselves and look down on others just to make themselves feel good. Should we really be doing that? How does it look in God’s eyes? Is he happy with our hearts and motives? The majority of the time, fear speaks in so many volumes. We hurt our loved ones through our actions i.e. body language. Some of us are finding it very hard to confide in a friend that triggered our feelings whether recently or currently. Bare in mind that not everyone will know you are offended if you don’t open up. You cannot expect people to read your mind every time you have a problem. Now I am not saying you should change for someone to like you, but WHEN YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE WORTH, THE RIGHT PEOPLE WILL COME TO YOU! 

Fear is an ingredient that the enemy uses against us when we are strong in the Lord. When God is on your side, the enemy will always try to place fear in your heart; maybe a past friend hurt you and you are finding it hard to forgive. Fear can come up and whisper “Don’t forget what that girl did to you”. “She does not deserve to go unpunished”. When we get these thoughts in our heads, we must learn cast them out straight away. Remember His word says “Perfect love casts out fear” (1 John 4:18). The one who fears is not made perfect in love. No one is perfect, and God knows this. That is why He has liberally sprinkled encouragement against fear throughout the Bible. The beginning of the Bible in the book of Genesis and continuing throughout the book of Revelation, God reminds us to “fear not.” When you truly love someone, you would be careful not to trigger their feelings, or to act in a way that would make them feel unworthy.

I am at a stage whereby I’m learning to step out of my comfort zone and be transparent. Stepping out of your fear won’t be easy and comfortable, but I can surely guarantee that you shall come out greater than you expected. So I ask you today, what are you afraid of? what is holding you back? What is stopping the love in your heart from pouring out to others? Do not allow the world’s definition of life to determine who you are. Whether you have the latest possessions or not, it shouldn’t make you any less than who you are! God Himself dislikes it when we are fearful. Why? Because it brings us down and makes us COMPLACENT! I never knew what that word meant until God dropped it down into my Spirit. Complacency is a ‘feeling of quiet pleasure or security, often while unaware of some potential danger or defect’.

From a Biblical perspective, ‘complacency is a self-satisfied state of negligence or carelessness, especially in relation to one’s personal situation’. Complacency can happen in so many forms such as being stagnant in one position. You have what it takes to reach the next level, but you prefer to stay where you are because it is comfortable to you. Complacency grows out of a false security that creates a lukewarm faith. So for example, you know deep in your heart that you desire to be healed in your body, but you are not making the effort to take your medicine or even pray; you want people to lay hands on you. There will be times in your life that you must anoint your own head and pray for yourself. Don’t always expect people to understand you especially in your vulnerability.

There is so much fear that is attacking our youths especially; in dressing, in technology, in hairstyles, in statistical views and likes etc. You would be surprised at the amount of boys and girls that compete with one another, but deep down fear has caused it all to germinate. No-one is born in fear, it is what one chooses to believe about himself or herself that will define them. Now I know when it comes to something your familiar at doing, for example applying make-up, it is a skill that you have developed and won’t fear because you know how to apply it, but when it comes to doing something you are not familiar with, that is when it becomes a problem because you are not used to that environment. Learn to REDUCE YOUR FEARS AND INCREASE YOUR FAITH!

Make a decision today to step out of your comfort zone and choose to say NO to fear. Coming out of your comfort zone is not a one day job, it is a process. It will honestly take time and patience, but it will all work out for your good. Do not allow anybody to intimidate you into doing something your heart is telling you not to. We all have a discerning Spirit to know right from wrong. Maybe you have cancer and you feel that it is the end of your life. If I was you, tell cancer to bow at the Name of Jesus! Don’t give in to that fear because God is your healer! You are never alone precious one, no matter what you are facing! Have it written on your heart that God will always be for You! He is never against you! What hurts you hurts Him, so if you are feeling scared about something, imagine how He is feeling about it?

Sometimes our greatest fear as Christians is stepping out with the Gospel. We tend to not know how to reach people because we don’t want it to look as if we are ‘Bible-bashing’ them. The first step you could take is to speak with your Father and ask Him to you use to be a blessing. For me, I usually share the gospel with this ministry blog as well as my actions and behavior towards people. Others, they say it with the words “Jesus loves You”. I know some find it hard to mention Jesus for fear of being laughed at or looked down upon, but when I told this young girl a few weeks ago that Jesus loves her, she was properly smiling, and since then I haven’t found it hard expressing Jesus’ love to people.

God will always grant us the opportunity to share His love with others, that is if we are willing to be used. “The day you hear His voice, harden not your hearts” (Hebrews 3:8,15)It is expressed TWICE in this scripture. It is a command that we do not ignore what God is saying to us, especially at our moment of vulnerability. When you choose to come out of your shell, God will expose you to great and mighty things that You haven’t seen yet. Why? Because you have chosen to overcome your fears. Stepping out in fear is a journey. Even those who have made it still have fears. We all have an element of fear in us and this is why Jesus can relate to us even when we are tempted because He too was tempted.

It helps me to know that when I have a problem with fear, I can easily go into my secret place and just cry out to God. I used to hold my fears in, but I realised that the more I hold it in, the bigger it becomes. Don’t be afraid or worried about tomorrow, because everyday has enough trouble of its own (Matthew 6:34). Remember that the fear of the Lord brings with many blessings and benefits. It is the beginning of wisdom and leads to good understanding (Psalms 111:10). 

Once we learn to place our trust in God, we will no longer be afraid of the things that come against us. We will be like the Psalmist who said with confidence “Let all who take refuge in you be glad; let them ever sing for joy. Spread your protection over them, that those who love your name may rejoice in you” (Psalms 5:11). This is indeed a reminder for us all to not only take refuge but to LOVE GOD WITH ALL OUR HEARTS AND BE FAITHFUL TO HIM. The more we love Him, the less fear we will have about life and the things situated around us. The more we love others, the less we will have time to talk down upon ourselves. Whether you are feeling good or not, make it a decision to cheer someone else up. You would be surprised at how your life will change for the better because you are choosing not to allow your feelings to rule your mood.

Ladies, I really hope this message blessed you. Please share with a sister, friend or loved one.

Yours Truly,