It is seemingly so stressful that the more we wake up, the more problems we are surrounded in. Not just in our own personal lives, but in the lives of our brothers and sisters around the world. I can confidently say that so many of our youths are dying and its becoming a trend. Some pass away due to stress, some due to friends, some due to their own self-talk. Society today is having a major impact on our generating. It is saying that if you don’t have the latest clothes, or the latest bag, or the latest footwear, you are nobody. The human mind strives to constantly be better than its opponent, not realizing that our biggest competition is us. We cannot do a better job at being who we are than ourselves. No-one can be you, so cherish who you are.
This week, I had a one-to-one with God and was reflecting about the next steps I need to take. We are approaching the end of 2015 and into another Glorious year of 2016! I am very excited for that year!!! As we are still in the remaining few weeks in 2015, I want you to take this time and spend it with the Lord, asking Him what you have learnt this year, what you have gained, how you have helped others around you, and how others have helped you also. Write down all the things you prayed for that God answered, and the things you are waiting for God to do. What are you expecting God to do for you in 2016? Do you want to be in the same position you are in now? Take the time between you and God to sort it out.
As we dive into today’s message; “Are you trying to be your own God?”, I am going to talk to you about the way in which we live; the way we operate at work, at home, at school and when we meet our friends. I want you to think of a time where you thought you had everything together; your job, your car, your friends, your house, your life! You really invested time in making sure it was perfect the way you wanted it to be. You are still expecting great news to come your way because right now everything seems to be working well. You are very comfortable, no-one can shake you, no-one can challenge you; you are your own boss! Sisters in Christ, do you want me to be real? No-one, not even your close friends have it all together! On the outside, they smell good, hair is beautifully done, dressing is on point, but there is still something missing because the human mind is unfortunately never satisfied!
Yesterday, as I was on my computer I remember speaking to a friend of mine who was asking what my plans were for the upcoming year. I told her “It’s all in God’s hands”, because there are some people who will randomly just pop up in your life when they feel it is convenient for them to find out what you are doing. I had to encourage myself because it seemed as if it’s obliged to set my own rules and regulations for my own life. When we get distracted or intimidated by other people’s success, you have to ask yourself, what is my own concern? Why are you so into other people’s success that you cannot look at how far you’ve come and thank God for where He has placed you? For those who have given their lives to Christ this past year, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! That is the bold step! Some would think otherwise, but nothing is far greater than offering your life to Jesus!
Do not misunderstand me here, it is very good to get advice from people who genuinely care for you and want to see you do well, but it is very rare these days. Some people ask to ensure you are not ahead of them, because when you are, you become a comrade. Do not allow anyone to limit you and label you into what they ‘think’ you should become, because that will make you become weak and dependent on them rather than on God whether consciously or unconsciously. So you come home miserable because you received bad news on an interview you attend the other day because your friend told you to tilt your neck straight and wear the best clothing, and put on the best smile, but God is just saying “BE YOU!”.
As much as I love my friends, they honestly cannot take me to where God is taking me. The plans He has for me are far greater than what I initially planned. Our emotions and thoughts can become so overwhelming when we tune our mind into the voices of our friends, that we don’t even have the strength anymore to make our own decisions. When was the last time you had a one-to-one with God and said “Can we speak Lord?”. God wants to hear from you girl! He really does. He does not want you to take everything into your own hands. Cast your burdens unto me because I care for You (1 Peter 5:7). That is a command! He wants us to offer our pain, stress, and our desires to Him only! No-one can heal like God does; the same way no-one can bless like God does! I love chocolate ladies, especially white chocolate hehe, but if I am to be real with you, when something I planned does not go my way, my mind tends to wonder at food. This sounds insane but its true! I never really take the time to ask God what the problem is, so instead I go for quick comfort of chocolate hides face.
It’s not easy ladies! I am sure there are some of you out there that can relate! If it is not chocolate, it could be sweets, it could be partying, it could be junk food, we all have our cravings. But I have come to realise that no matter who gives me chocolate in my darkest moment, it still won’t satisfy. I am not someone who is easily influenced, however I do endeavour to make an effort to listen to people when giving relevant advice. On the other hand, there have been certain situations where I have tried so much in my own strength to fix everything, and I have just come to realise that maybe I was trying to be my own God. The pressure to get everything perfect was such a struggle for me. Even as I’ll be a year younger next month by His Grace, I have come to a breaking point where all my rules and regulations must submit to the name of Jesus, because only He can make my life prosperous. I cannot try to be my own God in some situations, and expect Him to finish it off because He is not our slave. Matthew 6:33 “Seek Ye First the Kingdom of God and His Righteousness, and all other THINGS shall be added unto you”. Most times we underestimate this scripture because we assume that seeking is about praying before we send an application or for the food that is sitting on our table. But this kind of seeking is not even about your own hearts desires; it’s about seeking to praise Him, to honor, Him, to worship and adore Him. Seeking God does not just consist of finding Him in chaos. Sometimes use it as an opportunity to serve Him in gladness.
Imagine a friend who constantly comes to you with their problems, and nothing to do with how things are going for you. How would you feel? It is a lot to take in, I know, but really let this sink in. How many of us can genuinely say we seek God to praise Him? In other words, when last have you done something great for Him, rather than to keep pouring your problems? It can be a challenge, but remember as Mighty and Powerful our Father is, He has feelings, and anything you place above Him whether its your problems, your job, your finances; they can be idols if you are not careful. Dwelling on something that does not involve the Will of God is a distraction. For example, as much as I love fashion, if my mind is constantly on the latest fashion trends and what is hot and whats not, it can take my mind away from God. However, I will not stop loving fashion as I believe it is a gift that God has given me, so I pray for BALANCE! Balance is key ladies. You can still enjoy your make-up, enjoy your little treats, enjoy your new workplace, but don’t forget God please. Don’t come to a position where you are so comfortable with your life that you don’t have time to spend with Him. I honestly never knew that what takes most of my time can become an idol.
So, my whats-app was acting up the last few weeks, and when I tell you I was stressed, you better believe it lol! I had some important group chats that I had not yet replied. I had a few other people who I also had to attend to. I did not realise that my whats-app was deleted from my phone. So I had to re-install it again, which took OVER FOUR HOURS! Once it hit 12.00am I said “The devil is a liar, I am going to bed!”. In the morning when I woke up, I prayed over my phone for the whats-app to work, and thankfully it did, however I lost all my chats and messages. I thought, it’s not that deep! But what I am thankful for is that I was still present in all my group chats. Ladies, I tell you I honestly did not understand how this app took most of my precious sleep and my time! This just comes to show that we can be so faithful to things that are temporary, but not to a God who is permanent. It’s like whats-app was my mini Bible that I couldn’t live without. I deleted so many pictures, apps and videos just to get it working, how sad lol! Only God knows. But I am glad that regardless of all the drama, I am learning to stress less and focus on Him more.
Nothing in this life should ever take your focus from God, no matter the distractions of people. Remember that when people are being blessed and they try to make you feel small, thank them! Why? I am glad you asked. They are the people who push you to seek God even more; they are reminding you that God who blessed them has not forgotten you, and in His time He will bless you too! Don’t waste time trying to be on top in your own power, because God is able to bless you when He wants to do it. He can bless your enemy and there is nothing that you can do about it. He may not always be fair, but HE IS JUST!! So sisters, keep seeking God; don’t allow your situation to become a ruler over your life that you can enjoy yourself. Remember that your God is bigger than your problems, so stop giving your problems power to take away your peace, your joy and your happiness. You need to learn how to take a step back from it all and REST IN HIS ARMS.
He wants to hear from you constantly, but stop giving Him the little pieces to fix, and start giving everything to Him. Withhold nothing from your mind. If you are angry, vent it to God, stop taking your problems out on other people. We all have our own struggles. Learn to surrender and let go. It won’t always be easy because the human mind always wants to have its way, but there is no Greater Power than God. He is Mighty to save and He has a great plan for you all (Jeremiah 29:11). Enjoy the journey, not just the destination, because there is something special in-between the journey and destination. You learn so much about yourself that you never knew.
Remember when you stand, God will rest, but when you rest God WILL STAND! Meaning that, if you keep trying to do everything in your own strength, you will have to finish it, but what God starts, He will FINISH AND HE WILL FINISH IT WITH A BANG!! Philippians 1:6 says “And I am sure of this, that He who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ”. When God says He will do something, believe with all your heart that He will. Take a leap of Faith and know that what He has begun in you will surely be completed! Stop trying to control everything and take rest.
Rest is needed darling. Don’t be afraid to take a break. Even God rested on the 7th day, and you can too! Please enjoy life but don’t take it too seriously.
Your Sister in Christ