It Is TIME!!!

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Hey everyone, hope you are all well? So today I am going to be speaking about my journey, since the day I graduated up till now. A lot has happened to me between the past few years between 2013 till now. 2013 was the year where I did not understand the purpose God had for me. I had a glimpse of it, but was still confused because of my environment; my own personal desires being met at a specific time frame, being able to enjoy my life without any restrictions, having the wrong set of friends around me. It was not an easy ride I tell you. My emotions were messed up, I kept being taken for granted, I just didn’t see the value Christ saw in me.

In my previous blog posts, you will see the consistency of my outpouring and transparency of how I graduated in 2013 and was in the process of constantly looking for jobs. I honestly thought life was meant to be like: (1) Primary School –> (2) Secondary School –> (3) College/Sixth Form –> (4) University/Masters (Optional) –> (5) Full time Job or Work Placement.

I was stuck in the middle between doing a Master’s Degree or just finding a job that was related to my field. Ladies, THE STRUGGLE WAS REAL! As the years went by, I stepped into 2014. I made some decisions as to what I wanted God to do for me and what He wanted me to do for Him. I even remember telling God that I would give a £10 offering on the first week in January to secure me a job that I applied for. But you see, the thing about God is that he doesn’t need our money! We do not need to bribe God with what is already His. When I put the £10 in the offering bowl, I kept my head high, walked in confidence and had my interview. To no avail. July 2014 came, and it was a year that I still was not able to secure a job, as I graduated last year July 2013.

You see, I do things differently. I always try to compare each years’ performance, but it just seemed that my life was not going anywhere special. Then frustration kicked in. What I decided to do was just cry it all out thinking that it would go away, but no it continued to get worse and worse. I had lots of breakouts, hardly any friends to encourage or support me, I just felt like giving up. It was all too much for me because no-one really understood the pain I went through, and what pains me the most is that “No-one really knows how much the oil costs in your alabaster box”. In other words, no-one knows the intensity and frustration of your pain behind closed doors. It was only GOD who knew the anger that was burning inside of me! August 2014, September 2014, October 2014 (that is the month I started to see change!) I passed my practical test in October last year and I was EXTREMELY HAPPY!!!!!!!! I honestly could not believe it! Then come November 2014, December 2014 and now January 2015, February 2015, March 2015, April 2015, May 2015, June 2015, July 2015, August 2015, September 2015 and finally OCTOBER 2015!!


From the time it hit July 2014 to July 2015, I was on the verge of giving up! But what pained me the most was to see that I was still in the same position from March 2009 to July 2015. This is SIX GOOD YEARS+ in my workplace! From college to the finishing of my university studies. Everyone around me was getting jobs, studying, enjoying life, travelling, but as for me, it felt as if I was suffering in silence. I really did not understand why God kept me in waiting for so long. I was even questioning myself about my life and where it was heading to. I did not see myself as valuable because there was nothing I had to prove of it. The silent tears at night, the secret struggles of giving up nearly took over, but that still quiet voice still told me to keep going.

Ladies, when I tell you it has not been easy, it has not been easy! Do not allow anybody to underestimate your pain! Whether they are close to you or not, let them see your struggle for them to know how powerful your God is! I was overly stressed! I did not have any good sincere friends in 2014 as I lost a few, although I still had my close friends, they were not able to understand my struggle because they too were going through theirs. Sometimes we expect our friends to understand our pain, but what we fail to realise is that they are human too. So for me, it was a battlefield of the mind; one day I would be happy, the next day fear would attack me.

I wasn’t even sure if I should share this now or later, but I want to use this opportunity to encourage someone and let them know that they are not alone in the struggle. This year woish!!!!! I met some amazing people, but not only that, I encountered God in a very profound way! If I am honest with you, I do not think I struggled heavily as much as I did in 2013 and 2014. I would have gone in greater detail but it would just take too much time lol! 2015 is my year of favor!!!!!! I even had to declare it towards the ending of Christmas 2014, and say God: 2015 is my year!!! And I can honestly say it is! I met this lovely lady who I cannot thank God enough (I don’t know whether I should say her name of not lol – I am sure she knows who she is) but ever since God placed her in my life, she has been a big big big blessing to me; challenging me, helping me to be a better Esther, being transparent with me, you name it!

It started off very well, until I kept going off course. I had good days and I had bad days, which obviously everyone has! But for me, it just kept coming and going, so I didn’t really like the feeling. Towards June, I remember praying to God about my face because before I had so many spots which was affecting my self-confidence and esteem. It was so intense that I would buy literally any product to take the spots away. Until I fasted about my face and spoke to a few friends who gave me good advice, I went to my GP and the lady recommended me to use a gel every night, and I tell you, God works in mysterious ways! It was a struggle but now I am seeing such a big difference in my skin!! 😀

Now that struggle was over, it was me against my job applications. Every time I would come back from work, the first thing I would do is to jump on my laptop and apply for jobs that were most relevant to me. When September came now, I handed in my CV to L.K.Bennett, one of the significant retail companies in the UK. On the same did they called me to ask if I could come for an interview. I was so excited! However, to no avail, I didn’t get the job. Why? Because I was too professional? REALLY!! -___-. They saw it as a threat but I saw it as God doing me a favor for the reason that initially, I told myself that I did not want to work in retail, but because I was so eager to leave my current workplace, I wanted to have the job.

When I got the news, honestly I was crushed. I cried whilst reading a book called “Living Waters” and since reading that book, it has encouraged me to keep pressing on and to listen to His voice. When God does not say anything, DON’T MOVE! No matter how desperate you are because when you move without Him, you are going to have to face the consequences. Moving on, October 2015!! Ahh what a month! Lord knows!! So I had given a word of encouragement at my church a few weeks ago about “The Perspective of Focus” and I was talking about how in life we tend to drift off and lose track of who we are in the process of trying to reach our destination. I also mentioned that those who struggle greater attacks are the ones that will APPRECIATE the blessings when it comes rather than those who obtain their blessing without struggle. It was a reminder to educate the church NOT to compare themselves with others as Apostle Paul considers it unwise and foolish (2 Corinthians 10:12). 

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When I gave that word of encouragement, the Spirit was telling me to open up about my job search, although I honestly did not want to. But I obeyed. So when I opened up, I shed a few tears which usually I don’t like crying in front of a crowd lol, but the struggle was real sisters!! For the fact that the church could see where I was coming from as I also related to financial problems and health problems, they realised that no matter what age you are, you can still fall into various struggles. Trouble does not just come with age I tell you that. It was enlightening for me also because I honestly did not know how I was going to relate my topic The Perspective of Focus” to my current situation. It was just a kind reminder to let the church know where to place their focus on. Ladies, your focus should not be on how to get a job, but to trust the One who is the provider of all things. Your focus should not be on how to force your way to get that promotion, but to work sincerely, humbly and wholeheartedly allowing God to lift you up in HIS TIME. Sometimes the way life is going, it feels easier to move by sight and not by Faith; this should not be so! Switch it around; WALK BY FAITH AND NOT BY SIGHT!

October 02nd 2015: I received news from my current workplace that the company will be closing down very soon. To be honest, I was happy. Why? Because I knew what I went through in that place (the good and bad times). I did not feel affected at all because I knew the God I was serving knows all things, and that He would surely provide a way out for me. Although I did not want to be in retail, I still ticked the relevant boxes that applied to me when I was handed the form, however I wanted something more stable so I volunteered for Head Office roles. Till now I have heard nothing back. I guess that answers my prayers to no more retail lol!

October 09th 2015: I received an email for a position that I was very interested in. I looked at my experience, skills and education background and thought I’d apply for the role. From the time I did not get the L.K.Bennett job in September, I stopped applying for other jobs for a while as I wanted to re-focus my mind on Christ and my purpose. But even before all this came, I met some amazing people in September who were so TRANSPARENT in their pain! I had a friend who was sharing her story about the struggle that she is currently facing, and I tell you tears were falling down my eyes! I thought I was the only one but Lord knows it wasn’t just me! Okay, back to October, I received an email on the 12th saying that I am invited for an interview at 2.30pm. When I clicked on the email, I was excited, but realised I was scheduled to work that day, so I looked at my rotar to see if anybody could cover me, but no-one was available. So I informed the lady to kindly shift it for me to 6.30pm so that I could come straight after work. Thank God for His favour!

The interview was held on the 15th October at 6.30pm. I arrived at the location on time, about 6.00pm. I inserted the postcode details on my phone, and as it was directing me, all I could see was “3 minutes left, 2 minutes left, now make a U-turn”, I was like WHHHAAATTT!!! I was a bit frustrated, but not too much! When 6.20pm came, I called the interviewer to let him know that I am around the area but could not find the place. The man said “we are opposite Zizzi’s restaurant”. I walked past the restaurant twice, still could not find it! So when 6.30 hit, I called my sister and told her that I was coming home. It is not that I gave up, but it seemed as if God did not want me to attend the interview. My sister surprisingly called the woman who helped me arrange the interview to inform her that I was already at the location, so the lady called the interviewer and asked them to wait for me.

This was only the favor of God upon my life! My sister called me as I was on the bus going home and told me to get off that two men are waiting for me. I sighed and thought let me just go, after all God did not bring me this far to leave me. Bare in mind I was cold and in heels so all I wanted was my bed and some sweets lol! I finally found the place of the interview, and guess where it was? In a desert restaurant -_____-. Not knowing that I walked past that place over 2 times in a row!! But on the email it did not specify it was in a restaurant! So when I approached the restaurant, I saw two men standing at the front door. I smiled at them and walked in, and saw a bag and some papers on the table. I knew they were for me. So I approached the owner of the restaurant to inform him that I had an interview. He allocated me to the two gentlemen that were standing outside the restaurant. They both came in and sat down with me. I apologised for the late response as I arrived 25 MINUTES LATE!! I honestly thought there was no point in me attending. I explained to the interviewers that the lady who arranged the interview did not specifically tell me that it was at a desert restaurant. Would you ever think an interview would be at a place where people buy ice cream or waffles? Please someone answer lol!

The interview only lasted about three minutes! I was totally in shock! He asked me why I applied for the job, when my resignation period was and what experience I have. Only those three questions landed me my first permanent job after university! This IS THE TIME! When I got the call just this Wednesday gone, I was in shock! I have not yet cried about this because it does not feel real because I’m used to hearing interviewers say “Regrettably”, “Unfortunately”, “We are sorry” etc. I honestly don’t know how to thank Him! After all the countless times of Nos I received, I only needed ONE YES FROM GOD!! No body, not even my family could have given me this job opportunity apart from our God who is able to do EXCEEDINGLY AND ABUNDANTLY! I honestly cannot believe God granted me the job because not only was I 25 minutes late, but it was so rushed!!! I honestly thought are these people serious because they were really in a rush to go!! Not only that, but the interview only lasted for THREE MINUTES!! Now I do not know about you, but interviews I know usually last around half an hour to an hour! Sometimes we should not despise the days of our beginnings! God really proved Himself, and up till now sisters, it still does not feel real!

I just want to use this opportunity to really encourage someone! You may feel like you have had it up to your throat, but believe me when I say I had my own fair share of ups and downs. You may feel tempted to question God and ask why He is delaying, by my sis, DELAY IS NOT DENIAL!! I honestly thought God had forgotten me, but when I found out that my current workplace is closing down, I knew it was only a sign that this was just the beginning of my breakthrough! To know that all the stress I’ve been through at work has not gone to waste, I can confidently leave in peace and on a good note! You will never know the intensity of my pain until you step into my shoes! Ladies, God is amazing!!

Keep going because you will get there! No matter how much you want to quit, when you do not give up on God, God will not give up on You!! This is my testimony because I declared by the ending of this year I will have a testimony! I will enjoy the remaining months in 2015! This is my time to enjoy what God has done in my life! So ladies, I tell you, be encouraged by what I am telling you. It is not easy to be this transparent but consider yourself favored because I won’t be doing this all the time LOL!

I want you to know that God is for you! For over 2 years of struggling to find a job, plus 6 years of being in my current position has shown Gods power in my life! I do not know about you, but this is your time to RISE!!! Rise above your struggles, rise above your past, rise above your doubts, rise above your haters! I know there were so many people who thought I wouldn’t make it. People will just come to know your business and not speak to you again, but God is going to take control of that. As for me, I will continue to keep serving the Lord. I did not know I was going to be offered a job this year, but the Lord said “IT IS TIME”.

Unto the Lord be the Glory, great things He has done, Unto the Lord be the Glory, great things He has done. Great things He has done, GREATER THINGS HE WILL DO, Unto the Lord be the Glory, GREAT THINGS HE HAS DONE!! You have to give Him the PRAISE in the good and bad times!! You have to give Him what He deserves! This is not the time to lose your head! It is the time to thank Him for all that He has done!! Your latter days shall be GREATER than your former days!!

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This is just the beginning! Your eyes have not seen, yours ears have not heard, neither has it even entered into the heart of man the THINGS that God has in store for those that LOVE HIM! (1 Corinthians 2:9).

This is why I titled my message: “IT IS TIME!”

Be blessed and thank you for reading!

Your sister in Christ


Are you trying to be your own God?

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It is seemingly so stressful that the more we wake up, the more problems we are surrounded in. Not just in our own personal lives, but in the lives of our brothers and sisters around the world. I can confidently say that so many of our youths are dying and its becoming a trend. Some pass away due to stress, some due to friends, some due to their own self-talk. Society today is having a major impact on our generating. It is saying that if you don’t have the latest clothes, or the latest bag, or the latest footwear, you are nobody. The human mind strives to constantly be better than its opponent, not realizing that our biggest competition is us. We cannot do a better job at being who we are than ourselves. No-one can be you, so cherish who you are.

This week, I had a one-to-one with God and was reflecting about the next steps I need to take. We are approaching the end of 2015 and into another Glorious year of 2016! I am very excited for that year!!! As we are still in the remaining few weeks in 2015, I want you to take this time and spend it with the Lord, asking Him what you have learnt this year, what you have gained, how you have helped others around you, and how others have helped you also. Write down all the things you prayed for that God answered, and the things you are waiting for God to do. What are you expecting God to do for you in 2016? Do you want to be in the same position you are in now? Take the time between you and God to sort it out.

As we dive into today’s message; “Are you trying to be your own God?”, I am going to talk to you about the way in which we live; the way we operate at work, at home, at school and when we meet our friends. I want you to think of a time where you thought you had everything together; your job, your car, your friends, your house, your life! You really invested time in making sure it was perfect the way you wanted it to be. You are still expecting great news to come your way because right now everything seems to be working well. You are very comfortable, no-one can shake you, no-one can challenge you; you are your own boss! Sisters in Christ, do you want me to be real? No-one, not even your close friends have it all together! On the outside, they smell good, hair is beautifully done, dressing is on point, but there is still something missing because the human mind is unfortunately never satisfied!

Yesterday, as I was on my computer I remember speaking to a friend of mine who was asking what my plans were for the upcoming year. I told her “It’s all in God’s hands”, because there are some people who will randomly just pop up in your life when they feel it is convenient for them to find out what you are doing. I had to encourage myself because it seemed as if it’s obliged to set my own rules and regulations for my own life. When we get distracted or intimidated by other people’s success, you have to ask yourself, what is my own concern? Why are you so into other people’s success that you cannot look at how far you’ve come and thank God for where He has placed you? For those who have given their lives to Christ this past year, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! That is the bold step! Some would think otherwise, but nothing is far greater than offering your life to Jesus!

Do not misunderstand me here, it is very good to get advice from people who genuinely care for you and want to see you do well, but it is very rare these days. Some people ask to ensure you are not ahead of them, because when you are, you become a comrade. Do not allow anyone to limit you and label you into what they ‘think’ you should become, because that will make you become weak and dependent on them rather than on God whether consciously or unconsciously. So you come home miserable because you received bad news on an interview you attend the other day because your friend told you to tilt your neck straight and wear the best clothing, and put on the best smile, but God is just saying “BE YOU!”.

As much as I love my friends, they honestly cannot take me to where God is taking me. The plans He has for me are far greater than what I initially planned. Our emotions and thoughts can become so overwhelming when we tune our mind into the voices of our friends, that we don’t even have the strength anymore to make our own decisions. When was the last time you had a one-to-one with God and said “Can we speak Lord?”. God wants to hear from you girl! He really does. He does not want you to take everything into your own hands. Cast your burdens unto me because I care for You (1 Peter 5:7). That is a command! He wants us to offer our pain, stress, and our desires to Him only! No-one can heal like God does; the same way no-one can bless like God does! I love chocolate ladies, especially white chocolate hehe, but if I am to be real with you, when something I planned does not go my way, my mind tends to wonder at food. This sounds insane but its true! I never really take the time to ask God what the problem is, so instead I go for quick comfort of chocolate hides face.

It’s not easy ladies! I am sure there are some of you out there that can relate! If it is not chocolate, it could be sweets, it could be partying, it could be junk food, we all have our cravings. But I have come to realise that no matter who gives me chocolate in my darkest moment, it still won’t satisfy. I am not someone who is easily influenced, however I do endeavour to make an effort to listen to people when giving relevant advice. On the other hand, there have been certain situations where I have tried so much in my own strength to fix everything, and I have just come to realise that maybe I was trying to be my own God. The pressure to get everything perfect was such a struggle for me. Even as I’ll be a year younger next month by His Grace, I have come to a breaking point where all my rules and regulations must submit to the name of Jesus, because only He can make my life prosperous. I cannot try to be my own God in some situations, and expect Him to finish it off because He is not our slave. Matthew 6:33 “Seek Ye First the Kingdom of God and His Righteousness, and all other THINGS shall be added unto you”. Most times we underestimate this scripture because we assume that seeking is about praying before we send an application or for the food that is sitting on our table. But this kind of seeking is not even about your own hearts desires; it’s about seeking to praise Him, to honor, Him, to worship and adore Him. Seeking God does not just consist of finding Him in chaos. Sometimes use it as an opportunity to serve Him in gladness.

Imagine a friend who constantly comes to you with their problems, and nothing to do with how things are going for you. How would you feel? It is a lot to take in, I know, but really let this sink in. How many of us can genuinely say we seek God to praise Him? In other words, when last have you done something great for Him, rather than to keep pouring your problems? It can be a challenge, but remember as Mighty and Powerful our Father is, He has feelings, and anything you place above Him whether its your problems, your job, your finances; they can be idols if you are not careful. Dwelling on something that does not involve the Will of God is a distraction. For example, as much as I love fashion, if my mind is constantly on the latest fashion trends and what is hot and whats not, it can take my mind away from God. However, I will not stop loving fashion as I believe it is a gift that God has given me, so I pray for BALANCE! Balance is key ladies. You can still enjoy your make-up, enjoy your little treats, enjoy your new workplace, but don’t forget God please. Don’t come to a position where you are so comfortable with your life that you don’t have time to spend with Him. I honestly never knew that what takes most of my time can become an idol.

So, my whats-app was acting up the last few weeks, and when I tell you I was stressed, you better believe it lol! I had some important group chats that I had not yet replied. I had a few other people who I also had to attend to. I did not realise that my whats-app was deleted from my phone. So I had to re-install it again, which took OVER FOUR HOURS! Once it hit 12.00am I said “The devil is a liar, I am going to bed!”. In the morning when I woke up, I prayed over my phone for the whats-app to work, and thankfully it did, however I lost all my chats and messages. I thought, it’s not that deep! But what I am thankful for is that I was still present in all my group chats. Ladies, I tell you I honestly did not understand how this app took most of my precious sleep and my time! This just comes to show that we can be so faithful to things that are temporary, but not to a God who is permanent. It’s like whats-app was my mini Bible that I couldn’t live without. I deleted so many pictures, apps and videos just to get it working, how sad lol! Only God knows. But I am glad that regardless of all the drama, I am learning to stress less and focus on Him more.

Nothing in this life should ever take your focus from God, no matter the distractions of people. Remember that when people are being blessed and they try to make you feel small, thank them! Why? I am glad you asked. They are the people who push you to seek God even more; they are reminding you that God who blessed them has not forgotten you, and in His time He will bless you too! Don’t waste time trying to be on top in your own power, because God is able to bless you when He wants to do it. He can bless your enemy and there is nothing that you can do about it. He may not always be fair, but HE IS JUST!! So sisters, keep seeking God; don’t allow your situation to become a ruler over your life that you can enjoy yourself. Remember that your God is bigger than your problems, so stop giving your problems power to take away your peace, your joy and your happiness. You need to learn how to take a step back from it all and REST IN HIS ARMS.

He wants to hear from you constantly, but stop giving Him the little pieces to fix, and start giving everything to Him. Withhold nothing from your mind. If you are angry, vent it to God, stop taking your problems out on other people. We all have our own struggles. Learn to surrender and let go. It won’t always be easy because the human mind always wants to have its way, but there is no Greater Power than God. He is Mighty to save and He has a great plan for you all (Jeremiah 29:11). Enjoy the journey, not just the destination, because there is something special in-between the journey and destination. You learn so much about yourself that you never knew.

Remember when you stand, God will rest, but when you rest God WILL STAND! Meaning that, if you keep trying to do everything in your own strength, you will have to finish it, but what God starts, He will FINISH AND HE WILL FINISH IT WITH A BANG!! Philippians 1:6 says “And I am sure of this, that He who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ”. When God says He will do something, believe with all your heart that He will. Take a leap of Faith and know that what He has begun in you will surely be completed! Stop trying to control everything and take rest.

Rest is needed darling. Don’t be afraid to take a break. Even God rested on the 7th day, and you can too! Please enjoy life but don’t take it too seriously.

With love,

Your Sister in Christ


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Your Destiny Is Too Important


Your life isn’t a mistake. God created you to have a prosperous destiny. “Before God formed you in the belly, He knew you” (Jeremiah 1:5). Some of us get stuck in several areas where we do not know or understand why we are in our situated predicaments. Some may be in their current jobs with no promotion, others may have received their blessings without struggle, but what I am here to inform you about is that your destiny is just too important for you to miss regardless of where you are. Whether you are struggling with keeping it all together, trying to stitch the pieces so they do not break or fall out, you are secured in the Lord Jesus.

You may think that where you are right now is where you are going to be forever, but my sister that is not so. Without the test, there will be no testimony. Without struggle, there will be no triumph. As I previously stated in some of my blog posts, I find it very difficult to confide in those who haven’t struggled to obtain anything in life. When I go through my own personal problems, I find it easier to communicate with someone who is in a similar situation, because they relate to my pain. My sisters in Christ, your pain serves a purpose!!! Your destiny is kin to your pain so the things that are driving you insane is what is going to push you into the next level of your destiny.

It won’t always be easy, and it will be uncomfortable (Please read ‘Uncomfortable Environments’ on my blog post). You may have to lose some friends and gain new friends to find yourself. There are some people in your life that you love so dearly, but you know genuinely in your heart that they are not for you. It will only take the strength of God to cut them off. I found it hard to cut a friend off in my years of study. I loved her like a sister, but because of the number of people who got involved in our friendship, it made things worse. I honestly did not think our friendship had come to an end, but God said “It is time”. I may not know what you are going through, but what I can assure you is that your destiny is going to be greater than your pain. There are some people in your life right now that stress you out and give you a hard time to enjoy your life, but you have to love them when they come, and love them when they go. You cannot allow people to control your happiness anymore.

One thing I learnt when losing my friend was that is can be dangerous to love so much that you become so attached to them, whereby you cannot do anything by yourself. I struggled with this a lot in my teenage years where I couldn’t do anything by myself, and always felt the need to bring a friend with me. As I matured, I realised that life is you and the world. It will not always surround itself with people who love you. Sometimes you have to walk this journey alone, and it will include the destiny God has for you also. At times, you will notice people being funny, but that is just a sign that their time in your life is up. So there is no need trying to fix the situation. Whatever will be will be. When Jesus carried His cross, where were His disciples? There will be times that tasks will have to be met on your own. It is like an exam. You may have friends that work together, but on the day of the exam, it is just you writing that paper. When you can grasp that concept, you are more likely to be at peace, however it does NOT exempt the fact that God’s presence is not with you. God will ALWAYS be with you in your time of separation.

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God knows everything that is happening in your life right now. God has given each of us a destiny – something to do in this life, something only YOU CAN DO. God has already wired you with certain ambitions, goals and desires. Ephesians 2:10 says “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things He planned for us long ago”. Before you were born, God gave you a unique mixture of spiritual gifts, passions, abilities, personalities, and experiences. There’s no one like you in the entire universe because, in part, there’s no one with your unique mix of talents. Therefore, it is why your destiny is so unique, so you do not need to have sleepless nights worrying about what tomorrow will bring because everybody is at a different stage. Learn to love the stage you’re in because it is just temporary. If life on earth is temporary, what makes you think that your problems are permanent?!

Your destiny has your name on it, not your mother’s, not your father’s and certainly not your friends. Even our parents may not always understand where we are going in life, but what helps me to know is that at the right time, God will reveal to our parents and guardians who we truly are and where we are going. Your destiny is coming with tribulations; however they won’t last, for if you saw the size of the blessing coming, you would understand the magnitude of the battle you are fighting. Sometimes you are going to have to fight to reach your destiny. When Jesus said “‘It Is FINISHED”, He knew that His purpose was fulfilled. A lot of people may not have understood what He meant by saying that. Even the chief priests and critics came to a realization and knew that this truly was the Son of God. For if they have known before hand, they would not have crucified Him. Sometimes, people will tend to judge you PREMATURELY, until they realise you are not who they said you were!


On the other side of destiny, if we are not careful with the gifts that God has given us, we are more likely to go astray. Why do I say that? Because Social Media is having such a heavy impact on our generation today. The music we listen to, the way celebrities dress and how we desire to imitate them, the pressure to get all your plans met by a specific age; all these things can be detrimental to the soul. I know the intensity of looking good on the outside is having a mental shake up for some of us. We don’t feel beautiful until we buy the best make-up or dress a certain way. It is a sad thing when people define you by what you wear, but God already knows your name. Isn’t that more important? Instead of allowing the pressures of people and the world to define you, speak to God about your purpose and ask Him for full focus, because the world will live in is surely a distraction! Real focus is key when walking into your destiny.

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Some of you may have the talent to encourage and motive others. That is a very unique gift that not a lot of people have. I can confidently say that this is my gift, and it is already leading me into my destiny. For others, it is helping women overcome sexual abuse from men. We all have a gift which coincides with our destiny, but the way in which our gifts is to be birthed is by submitting them to Christ first. You cannot be successful on your own, no matter how hard you try. I am a strong believer of teamwork. Without teamwork, all plans will fail. There are some people in your life right now who are pushing you into your destiny, you may never know. I have three solid spirit-filled sisters right now who I never thought I would encounter this year. They have all challenged me in unique ways to be better and do better. When God brings people like this your way, thank Him because I tell you they do not come easily.


Every day is an opportunity to work closer to your destiny. It’s about being more like God and less like the world. The world cannot offer us anything; we can try partying our sorrows away, drinking our sorrows away, smoking our sorrows away, but it just won’t solve a thing! There will always be problems after problems, so we really must endeavour to seek God for what He wants us to do for His Kingdom. Ladies, I really want to see you grow in the Lord, and to know your God-given purpose. Life is not building your own empire expecting people to follow you. We are all a team and we must work hand in hand to fulfill each other’s destiny paths. Your path may not be the same as my path, but I am fully assured that when we have the right motive to see people do well, we too will succeed in every area of our lives.

Finally, don’t allow society or people to define who you are and what you should be doing. Where you are right now is where your meant to be, so don’t question it. Wake up every morning knowing that God is working something special in your life. God is not okay with you fulfilling half of your destiny. He’s not okay with you fulfilling a part of it. God is going to make sure you complete what He put you here to do. No day should be the same for you but should challenge you to come out of your comfort zone and walk towards your destiny because YOU ARE IMPORTANT! I love you all!

Destiny and Purpose

Mind your own affairs!

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Hey ladies, how are you doing? I just thought to make this blog post very interactive and brief. Just want something different! I will be asking some questions below so please kindly let me know your thoughts and contributions. You can write them down in the “comment” box below 🙂

So today, I’ll be talking about the difference between minding your own affairs and getting involved in people’s affairs. There are times in our lives where we must learn to stay out of people’s issues, simply because it does not involve us. In 1 Thessalonians 4:9-12 (NIV), we see Paul stressing on the importance of learning not to depend on anyone and being able to mind your own affairs. It reads “(9) Now about your love for one another we do not need to write to you, for you yourselves have been taught by God to love each other (10) And in fact, you do love all of God’s family throughout Macedonia. Yet we urge you, brothers and sisters, to do so more and more, (11) And to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life: You should mind your own business and work with your hands, just as we told you, (12) so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody”. 

Questions and Interaction

  • So if I may ask, when last did you get involved in something you were not supposed to?
  • What is your concern about someone else’s success that you can’t get your life together?
  • Why are you so worried about what others are doing that you fail to realise you are precious with or without the material possessions?
  • Could it be possible that you are so dependent on people to accomplish your hearts desires and afraid to do it without them?
  • Are you someone who can stand on your own two feet when life seems to be unfair, or are you trying to make your neighbors life frustrating so that you will feel comfortable in your own mess?

(Please choose one and answer below)


Ladies, I suggest you choose one and let it sink into your Spirit and question yourself if you have ever been like that. Ask God if this is me, how will you be able to handle it. These questions are common to the majority of our women today. We are very quick to either judge, look down on, or even over-estimate ourselves just to cover up our flaws. I know of a lady who told me that this man asked her a random question about what she was doing at the moment. She told the man that she was working in retail. The man then asked if it was related to her degree, she said it is similar but not the same. The lady was frustrated that he kept asking her about what she was doing. Why was she frustrated? Because he hardly speaks to her. It can be so upsetting when people randomly pop into your life and tries to find out what you are doing. I would assume the man may not even help to find her dream job so there was no need of asking. Because once someone asks about you, there are either two reasons as to why they have asked:

  1. To help you find your job in your related field
  2. To be curious and not help at all!

Ladies, it is not advisable to tell everyone your problems. God has given you the wisdom to discern right from wrong so that you will know who to express how you feel. I take God as my greatest example to date; He is my real and secure confidant, the one I can speak to about anything! Someone who will NEVER JUDGE ME, or make me feel unworthy about myself. Because for all I know, human beings are very inconsistent; they are with you today, tomorrow they become your enemy. For why? (LOL!)

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With God Himself, He is a very reserved and respected Father. We must take Him as our greatest example because He does not involve Himself in our problems if He is not wanted or called. Some of us still depend on man to help us with our problems, but it is not working the way we expected it to. A friend sent this to me earlier today:

“Trust God were you cannot trace Him. Do not try to penetrate the cloud He brings over you, rather look to the bow that is on it. The mystery is God’s; the PROMISE IS YOURS. Stop trying to figure God out! When will you realise that God is God? Just focus on Him and remember His ways are not our ways”.

Indeed, His ways are surely not our ways. We cannot expect God to fix our situations if we have not called upon His Name. The same way you have an exam, if you need help and you know of someone in your class that is academically brilliant, surely you can be confident enough to ask them for help.

God ain’t no hide and seek God! When you need Him, you can find Him; it is really up to you to decide. A friend sent me a quote that said “A private life is a happy life”, and indeed it is true! I believe what can be frustrating the most is when people promise to do something with you, but then comes up with another story. You have the choice to either let it affect your whole day and be miserable, or just shake it off and have peace of mind. You do not always have to call a friend to do things with you. If you are someone who likes company, I challenge you TODAY to enjoy your own company! Do things by yourself without having people around. See how independent and free you’ll become! It’s an amazing feeling! I know before when I was a teenager, I really disliked going places on my own, but now I really enjoy it, because I had learnt from my past that people will always disappoint, but I chose to have Peace by just living the life that God promised me.


When you are sitting for your exam, does any of your friends share the chair with you? Impossible! There are some things you will have to do without people, and it will help so much in not only being wholly dependent on God, but minding your own affairs. I have realised that getting involved in people’s concerns can be dangerous. You can try to sincerely help someone, and because you were involved in their issue, they would suspect that you were the culprit. Stay away from people’s drama unless they tell you to be involved or ask you for help/advise. Be particularly careful when talking about other people to your friend. The person you are informing has another friend! Wow oh wow I learnt this at a young age! I realised that any problem with my friends would be consulted with God or the person directly. It would not be passed on to someone else to avoid more complications.

Ladies, when you learn to mind your own affairs, you will continue to have inner peace because your mind is not focused on other people’s issues. You will be at rest and won’t need to worry yourself because God takes care of His people. Enjoy the life that God has given you. Please do not misunderstand me, it is very good to help people in love, but you can still love someone from a distance. Furthermore, when you can discern something that will affect you (changing of attitude and potentially your lifestyle), that is where you need to ask yourself “Am I really needed in this?”. You may just make matters worse. If you are stuck, speak to God or a trust family member/friend and see how they overcame their interferences with other people. Ladies, you are not alone in this walk! I know for some of you, yours hearts are here to serve and help people get better, but honestly ask yourself, how many people can you serve at a go? God has given each one of us a gift. We must learn to stand still and let God do the work. You can’t keep taking things into your own hands, so that everyone can hail you as hero. No no no, that is not your job. Whether you try to help or not, some unfortunately won’t see the best in you, so why strain yourself?

Look to Jesus because He is the only one that grants REAL PEACE OF MIND! I myself have learnt to just keep myself to myself until God tells me otherwise. He sees all our hearts, and if we are Spiritually strong, we will know when to help our fellow sisters, and when to stay out of ones situation. In other words, we must learn to respect people’s privacy! Any change that comes from our interference in the lives of others is merely the result of human effort and is worthless in the eyes of the God, who has established a plan in which He and He alone is able to affect real change. Our efforts to reform ourselves and others will never be equal, nor will they ever be an acceptable substitute for God’s covenant plan of redemption; a plan that absolutely requires the individual, personal participation of both man and God for its fulfillment.

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Remember that some people are anointed to get you in trouble, so before you force yourself in getting involved in someone else’s business, live in such a way that if anyone should speak badly of you, no-one would believe it! 

You all are amazing, thank you for reading this interactive blog post. Also please keep the comments rolling as I’d like to hear your thoughts about minding people’s affairs.

With love,

Your Sister in Christ x