Wait for the Lord, be strong and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord. Psalms 27:14. I don’t know what you are waiting for God to do in your life. Maybe you want to have a deeper intimate relationship with Him? Maybe you want to find a better job; maybe you want God to reveal Himself to you; maybe you want God to change your brother or sisters behavior? We all have our struggles, even those you want to imitate have their own struggles. Some are battling with loneliness, they feel that no-one is ever around. Have you felt like this before? Even the most manipulative person that you are scared of is battling with loneliness, because nobody wants to be with a friend that is a bully right?
But have considered God in your situations? Some of us say we know God, but do we really? Or do we only know the God that is a provider of all things? It occurs to me that at times, we use God when we need him, but once we have everything, we go back to our normal routine. Our prayer lives diminish, we become more self-focused, we become more bitter and envious, we dislike certain people when we hear their names or see them walking on the road, we think we are doing ourselves a favor by making others feel small, but this only ends up in you being confused and wondering why God hasn’t answered your prayers.
In life, the way you treat people, will come back to you. If you know you love the God who made you, as well as your life, it would be advisable to consider how to treat others. Yes people hurt us, but don’t we hurt people too? Yes your closest friend said some nasty words to you, but how are you treating your family members behind closed doors? Do you want a better life? Start changing the way you think. You can do this by acting on God’s decisions. His decisions are always beneficial for you and I. God’s decisions tests our patience to see how much we trust in Him, rather than in ourselves.
Our strength does not come from our work, our friends, our finances or our jobs, it only comes from God. The Joy of the Lord is our strength. God’s decisions allow us to wait on Him so because we can be assured that He has something better for us than what we expected. I was reflecting back on my life and the achievements I desired to obtain but did not get them. So instead, what I did was to pray and ask God to show me why my prayers were not answered. The reason was that I was aiming too low. Not only that, God wanted to see whether I will praise the blessing or the maker of the blessing. It is easy to thank your friend for the job link she gave you, it is easy to thank your mentor for guiding you through that relationship problem you were having, it is easy to say ‘I love you’ to your partner because of all the presents he bought for you when it wasn’t even your birthday, but do you know where all that truly came from? It came from God. God is the provider of all things. Everything in the world is His. Your money; your job, your car, your friends, your family members, your health; all these are the Fathers.
God’s decision helps us grow in WISDOM AND MATURITY to handle things in due course. You may be upset about the interviews you attended in the past, and they all keep rejecting you. But has it occurred that you may have not been ready for it. I know of a person that would constantly apply for any job that comes her way; she would just constantly apply and rush through the process of making a strong cover letter, but she was so eager that she was not willing to go through the process, rather she was rushing to get to her destination. But where did it end up leaving her to? The same place she started. When I think about this, I realise why our prayers haven’t been answered. One; selfish motives, Two; Not realizing the One who gave you the blessing initially. Three; Not ready to handle what God has for us. Out of these three, which category do you fall in to?
Over forty times in the Bible, we are commanded to wait on the Lord. Learning to wait is a test for maturity. Waiting forces us to accept that we are not in control. God is in control of every decision you make. Whether you want God to give you a breakthrough, only He knows when you are ready for it. Stop trying to tell God what to do, and start surrendering yourself unto Him. I love humility. Humility is a quality of being constantly respectful towards others. It is variously seen as the act or posture of lowering oneself in relation to others or conversely having a clear perspective and respect for one’s place in context.
How humble enough are you? Are you struggling with helping others because you are too focused on your own problems? Sincerely, it does happen. I know it is a hard life out there, some worse than others. I was speaking to a group of girls this week about God’s love. Now, God’s love is about sharing and helping each other right? When God blesses your neighbor, don’t you think He will bless you too? It may not be at the time you want it to come, but it should help you to know that He is right on time.
When considering God’s decisions, He will teach you how to be humble. I know there are some things in your life where you were contemplating with God about the blessings that you wanted Him to grant you. Thinking that we know best for our lives more than God is a dangerous move. About 4 years ago, I really liked this guy, and I thought he was for me. I was saying that no-one is going to have him apart from me. Not knowing that God had to take him out of my life to help me focus on Him because He was a distraction to me. I couldn’t focus on anything, and I was trying to serve God at the same time. When people leave empty promises in your heart, it hurts. This guy said he would do anything for me, bla bla bla, you know the rest lol. But because of the emotional attachment I had with Him, I could not seem to let go. Some of us are still holding on to our past, and it is preventing God from moving. Our future’s are in the Lord’s hands, and we can only see it when we let go of the past.
Apostle Paul said in 2 Corinthians 5:17: Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away, behold the new has come. What are you still holding on to? It may not even be a man, it may be your pride, it may be stress, it may be loneliness, it may be unforgiveness, it may be addictions, it could be anything! What may be small to your eyes is big in God’s eyes. You think unforgiveness is helping you, but my sister, it isn’t. It only makes you more miserable. When God takes someone out of your life, respect His decisions. Don’t doubt or question it. God’s decisions are here to make you a better person.
Not everyone is going to like you so you have to realise that now, or else you will struggle. Jesus knew that the Pharisees and Scribes didn’t like him, but he did not let that get to him, and neither should you. Even some of the close friends you have at the moment, may switch up on you and just change. It is bound to happen so be prepared, but do not let it change WHO YOU ARE. There is a difference when a close friend changes, and when you change BECAUSE of their attitude. I am still a work-in-process because I seriously am struggling with this area as we speak. But I am willing to humble myself and surrender it all to God, rather than thinking I can endure. Some can endure the pain and some can’t. It really is dependent on how much you trust God.
From God’s perspective, your life is not measured by its length, but by its effectiveness and impact for His Kingdom. God’s decisions will enable you to make good choices for His Kingdom. It will remind you of your true purpose on earth. As I always say to a few of my friends “You are not here just to be rich and die”. We are all here for a purpose, and until we discover that purpose, keep seeking God. Don’t stop doing it. Just because life is not going according to your favor doesn’t mean that you can control your life and make your own decisions. It is a dangerous move to make your own decisions. So wait, and keep a good attitude while doing it because God won’t disappoint you. He knows your future, so why not allow Him to make the decisions for your next step?