As individuals, we are all responsible for what we say about ourselves and to ourselves. We are also responsible for deciding whether or not we should allow people or society to dictate who we are. There is so much pressure today due to the demand on how we should behave, how much money we should be earning in our jobs, what age to get married, whether to do a Master’s Degree or not. All these pressure can result to stress and eventually depression.
A lot of people become depressed because of past and current rejections, doubt, fear, anxiety and loneliness. To some, rejection can be a killer because they have not mastered confidence to accept the word “No”, so they decide to define themselves as failures. Remember saying no is NOT A SIGN OF WEAKNESS, SO DON’T BE AFRAID TO USE IT! Others see rejection as a blessing in disguise, thanking God for the opportunity of missing something they thought was beneficial for them, when in reality it wasn’t. I have been in so many situations where I thought won the victory, just to hear God say “Not this time my child; don’t worry, I have got you”.
The difference between God’s voice and our voice is that we tend to get the two mixed up. We think that when God speaks, it is actually us speaking, and when we speak, it is God. We get confused because we have not decided to sit down and confirm with the Father whether our thoughts are from Him, or from our fleshly minds. As I stressed in my previous blog posts, although we are in the world, we are not of this world! What the world says about you should not determine who you are. You are who God says you are. When He says “You are fearfully and wonderfully made” believe it! You don’t always have to wait for your friends or even your loved one to tell you. When God gives you opportunities each day to wake up and experience life, remind yourself that you have a purpose to fulfill. Whether it is spending time in the Word, going to work, doing an exam, re-taking a driving test, it is still for a purpose. It may not directly link to God’s purpose, but even doing a university exam can bring Glory to God.
For those who are struggling with exams, I was there! I had problems with studying that I nearly lost hope! I did not realise that the amount of pressure in that exam was pushing me to trust God the more and not to rely on my own strength. Maybe that is your struggle today; trying to do things on your own. You are trying to be your own boss (self-righteous look). Let me be real with you guys; do you know what I find attractive the most? A HUMBLE SPIRIT! One that will admit their faults at the time of need. Humble people realise that they are not always right, and at times will tend to get it wrong, however, instead of beating themselves us, they grow from the problem rather than hiding it. When you are in trouble, open up. If you need advice, speak to someone. Do not bottle your problems in because they do not help your life at all. Not opening up can strongly affect your spiritual, mental, financial, social, emotional, academic and intellectual abilities.
The amount of problems we encounter are formed by the stories we tell ourselves. It is important to remember that what you say and declare upon your life, will dictate what your future will look like. You are living with the consequences of what you say to yourself! Your story is a CHOICE! You decide whether to write your script positively or negatively. Don’t determine the presence of your current storm to dictate the absence of God for He is always available in the midst of your trouble. Let FAITH be your main perspective to enable you to change/renew your mind for the better. You are too special to look down on yourself. Keep your head high ladies of worth!
This is why the Bible emphasizes on speaking life into every situation you encounter! There is power in the tongue, so you have to speak positivity over your life, your health, your finances, your joy, your happiness! (Proverbs 18:21). When we feel we are financially lacking, God says in His word that “We are rich”. When we are weak, He tells us to declare over our lives that “We are strong”. Why do the enemy’s job, when you can resist him and he will flee? My challenge for all of us today is, BUILD UP ON YOUR FAITH! Faith is your perspective. When times get tough, God will usually test your Faith to see how much you depend on Him. You don’t just have Faith for God to answer your needs because it is very easy to trust Him when you have an exam, especially when you have prepared for it. If it is something to do with coming out of your comfort zone .i.e moving to another country by yourself, that is where your faith will be tested.
It won’t be easy moving to a different part of the world not knowing anyone, and starting again, but sometimes God will call certain people to do that. What is causing us human beings not to excel beyond our capabilities is “being too comfortable/complacent”. My manager and I recently had a conversation, and what she said to me challenged my thinking. She said “You are responsible for your own progression”. Since that day, my perspective has changed! The way I used to put myself down and cry has now changed for my benefit. I was relying too much on friends, rather than putting my trust in God only. I thought if I was to blend in like the world, they would like me and give me the promotion I deeply desired.
However, God had a separate plan for me. A plan that did not involve bribery or politics. All I had to do was rest in His presence and allow Him to take over. This is supernatural favour! God will give you favor with people if you ask Him to do so and put your trust in Him. He can cause even your enemies to be at peace with you (Proverbs 16:7). The Bible says He changes the hearts of men the way He changes the course of flowing water. If God can make a river flow in a specific direction, surely He can change someone’s heart toward you.
When God favors you, He gives you things you do not deserve in the natural. But as long as you try to make things happen by the works of your flesh, God will stand back and wait for you to wear yourself out trying to do what only He can do. But if you stop struggling and ask God to take the driver’s seat, you can have favor with God, and He will give you favor with others.
Remember that our thoughts affects our words, and our words affect our lives. Words have power, and they directly affect our emotions. Words fuel good moods or bad moods; in fact, they fuel our attitudes a have a huge impact on our lives and our relationships. When you speak positive and good things, you minister life to yourself. You increase your joy and happiness. However, if you speak negative words, you minister death and misery to yourself. This is why the percentage rate of suicide is going up and up each day, which saddens my heart so much! There is so much potential in every one of us, but we should not allow our feelings to dictate when we should love our lives and when we shouldn’t.
The bottom line is that whatever you declare upon yourself; what you say when things are going difficult in your life, will determine the next step that you will have to take. If you are struggling with something personal, be honest with yourself and create time where you and God can speak about the issue and make resolutions for it. Do not allow life to pass you by, do something with your life now. Your life should be a challenge. In other words, when people view you, they shouldn’t be able to read you too quickly. They need to see you as a unique challenge. A woman who is difficult to understand (in a good way i.e. being able to stand against adversity) – to some, this may be confusing, but though people slay me, yet shall we trust Him! A woman who knows how to make her own decisions without allowing life to weigh her down is someone who has a clear path of direction and knows where they are going regardless of the barriers that may be trying to block her. If you can’t make decisions for yourself, who are you going to expect to give you the answers? Man will fail you but God will never fail you! When you run to God, He will draw Himself closer to you.
God has the final say upon your life; it is NOT over until God says it’s over, so keep fighting until your victory is won! Your story is going to be so worth it in the end! It will not be easy, but you are a winner! You have a CHOICE to write your script well, so what are you waiting for? #ToAllMyWinningWomen #WomenThouArtLoosed!