What Do You Do When God Blesses Someone You Are Mad At?

It occurs to me so much that at times, when a loved one hurts us, it can be very easy to get angry and eventually wish them bad. However, there is still room in your heart to love them, but you want them to learn from their mistakes so you try to make God work against that person. But it is very funny how we human beings act, because we too are not perfect ourselves. If you think the person who hurt you needs to be punished, then why not look at yourself and examine your own life before looking into someone else’s?

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We all have to be real with ourselves and know our inner motives as to why we want that person to suffer. Lets look at Luke 15. I am sure most of you know about the story of The Prodigal Son. I’ll break it down: The main character in the parable; the forgiving father, whose character remains constant throughout the story, is a picture of God. In telling the story, Jesus identifies Himself with God in His loving attitude to the lost. The younger son symbolizes the lost (in other words; the sinner), and the elder brother represents the self-righteous. The major theme of this parable seems not to be so much the conversion of the sinner, but rather the restoration of a believer into fellowship with the Father. In the first two parables, the owner went out to look for what was lost, whereas in this story the father waits and watches eagerly for his son’s return. The father waits ‘patiently’ for his son to come back from his mess. See how his father did not accuse him of mis-using the money anyhow. Yes the younger brother spent money on unnecessary things, but he realised that it was not his money, but the fathers.  

We see in this story the graciousness of the father overshadowing the sinfulness of the son, as it is the memory of the father’s goodness that brings the prodigal son to repentance. This is where the eldest brother was not too happy due to the younger brother’s behavior. In life, you would be shocked at the people you know who act so bad, but yet receives the most love. It can be confusing for some of us, especially those who work hard, staying up late to finish coursework and preparation for exams, feeding your siblings with no parents around, working long hours but not getting the pay you deserve; all these tasks are not easy; it can be draining! 

Towards the end of the story in Luke 15, we see that the youngest brother ‘came to himself’ and said that this was not the life that his father wanted him to live. So he went back to the father’s house and apologised for all he did. It amazes me when people are humble enough to admit their fault, and change their ways. The younger brother was so sorry, that when the eldest brother found out that the father had thrown him a party, he became very angry. Do you think he had a right to be angry? Some would say yes because the younger brother put the curse on himself. His dad did not tell him to use the money anyhow, but he still did it anyway. On the other hand, some would say no because we all need mercy and forgiveness from time to time. 

The painful part about life is when you are suffering and the person who is meant to suffer is getting all the attention, and you are there just picking up the pieces…

It is painful to feel that way, especially when you know you have been faithful! Most of the time, we treat people so well, but don’t get what we expect in return. Sometimes we put in 100% in our work, effort, time and commitment to others, and they only give 60%. I remember I had a friend who I loved so much! This girl was my sister (not blood), but I just called her my sister because she acted like one. Every time I would give my all, she would give me 40%! 40 out of 100% is very low! I was drained physically, spiritually, emotionally, psychologically and mentally! You would be surprised how much you invest in someone and not get the same investment back. 

Ladies, we must realise that giving our time to people should not be something we do grudgingly, it should be done out of love. The painful thing about life at times is when we see others who have not put in enough work as you did receive the blessing that you worked hard for. What do you do when God blesses someone you don’t like? At the same time, we must be reminded that we too are human and can easily fall. In Matthew 7:1-5 it states that we should “(1) Judge not that you may not be judged (2) For with the judgement you pronounce, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you (3) Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? (4) Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? (5) You hypocrite! First take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brothers eye”. 

Jesus did not just die for those who claim are Holy, but He also died for sinners. So no matter how righteous you may think you are, only God truly sees the inner motives of the heart. We cannot try to cover our own faults and blame it on other people, especially when we too have done things that we not pleasing to God. How many times have you wanted someone you hated to get in trouble? Be real. I can strongly guarantee that quite a lot of us wanted someone we love get in trouble because of the way they treated us. What do you do when you are tempted to give up on someone you care about? How can you erase the pain of how your ex treated you? What can you do to stop the pain from when your friends heard something about you that you done in the past?

We all have these problems ladies, there is nothing new in God’s eyes because He knows it all. In order to be free from the past, we must first of all learn to submit our issues to God. Do not try to do this on your own. It will mentally and emotionally drain you. Instead use the pain that a loved one caused you as an opportunity to draw closer to God, and see how He will comfort you. Saying that you want a loved one to be treated bad is not a sign of spiritual maturity. We must learn to love those who hurt us, for when we do that, we are heaping burning coals on their head (Proverbs 5:22). 

When someone you dislike is being blessed with something that you have been waiting for quite a while, do not envy them, for you do not know the inner pain and process they had to go through to get that. If I am truly honest with you guys, we do not even deserve God’s love, YET He chose to love us anyway! We do not deserve His mercy, but YET His Grace is sufficient for us! There are so many things we take for granted, but still God loves us anyway. He shows His love by giving us chances upon chances, giving us life, giving us a place to lay our heads and rest. We may not have everything materialistically, but at least we have eyes to see, ears to hear, hands to cook, the list goes on. May we not take anything for granted, especially His unconditional love.

So I encourage you today, if you feel like you are fed up of someone, maybe you have compared your life against theirs, saying that you work so much harder that you deserve to be blessed more than the other person, think about what you are saying, because God is not a God of favoritism (Romans 2:11). He is no respecter of man, whether you are a CEO of a well-known company or a cleaner at McDonald’s. He loves everyone equally. Do not try to use your position to outshine someone who is lower than you. The challenge for most of us today, particularly those in power is HOW YOU TREAT PEOPLE! It is not how you treat people on your own level that God is concerned about, but it is how you treat people who are BELOW YOUR LEVEL. The way you treat people regardless of age, colour, occupation, status will be highly dependent on the way God blesses you. 

Let us remember to treat people the way we would like to be treated, and to remind ourselves that when we are quick to judge someone or look down on them, we should examine our lives first and see the faults you have committed. Don’t judge someone just because they sin differently than you.

“For He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and the unjust”. (Matthew 5:45). 

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Trust Me

John 14:1-2: “Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me (2) In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you”?. For the past few days, I have heard this scripture over and over, and I feel that I am being tested in my trust towards God. The problems that we face are not a sign that God does not love us, but that His Grace is sufficient for all our situations, and His love will enable us to endure.

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There is a song I always listen to by Richard Smallwood and its called “Trust Me”. Every time I listen to the song, it just reassures me when I trust God, I am wholly secure in Him. Some run to friends, some run to lovers, but even though they are in our lives for a reason, it does not mean that they will always have the answers to our problems. Some people however, are in our lives to push us closer to God, rather than relying on our own strength. How many of us can honestly say that they rely on their own strength to get tasks done? I know I do…

But the truth of the matter is that I just get frustrated, tired, emotionally unstable, and to some extent lazy! One day I would smile so much that my jaws would hurt; the next day I just can’t be bothered and take it out on those that truly love me and want the best of me, but because of my arrogance, I am pushing them away, which makes my situation feel worse. When we are in deep crisis, we don’t expect to be alone. We are expected to be comforted by our family, friends and loved ones. But the pain can sometimes be unbearable that you would not even want to open up; rather you choose to keep it inside of you and let your spirit be crushed.

Today, I urge you beautiful women to surrender your all to Jesus, because He really desires to hear from you. I have heard so many times that “If God already knows my needs, then why do I need to tell Him what I am going through?”. Yes He knows all your needs, but it is a time where your Faith will be tested in Him, so it is vital to be REAL WITH GOD, and tell Him what is really bugging you. God loves your honesty. Even if you want to cry, cry! Crying is good for the soul! If you want to get angry, by all means, BUT do not let the sun go down whilst your angry. So be angry for a while, but not until tomorrow morning lol!

I think the majority of us today feel as if God loves other people more than us. For example, you and your friend have both graduated at the same time. She achieved a 2:2 and you got a 2:1. Your friend got a job in less than a year, and yet you are still in the process of looking for one. From my own experience, I do not believe it is the ‘grade’ that will get you the job, it is how you carry yourself! Some tips would be:

– Your attitude
– Your mindset (Is it positive or negative?)
– Your expectations (Are your motives pure and genuine?)
– Your humility
– Your willingness to learn from others around you

All these points combined is the tools and techniques that should be used in all situations, but the GREATEST of all would be to TRUST GOD AND LET HIM DO HIS THING!! 😉. The challenge for most of us today is who we run to when trouble comes. It is very easy to run to a friend who is so close to us. Although we cannot see God psychically, we still have a strong feeling in our hearts that He is always around us, especially when we call on Him. At times, you would not need to call, your tears are ENOUGH for God to understand what you are going through.

Take worship for example; some people worship through bowing down or laying prostrate on the floor, some may speak in tongues, some cry, some are still. Regardless of your style of worship, it is still pleasing to Him. But what I am trying to help you do now is to break you out of your routine of just going to God when you need assistance. Yes He is there 24/7, but if we keep constantly running to God when problems are surrounding us, how about when God blesses us with our hearts’ desires? Will we truly remember Him then? Maybe some of the things you are going through are pulling you away from God; it’s not God that has withdrawn Himself from you, its your mind. Your mind has accused you of saying that God is not for you because you did not get that job, you did not get married when you wanted to, you did not get that promotion, you did not get to travel on behalf of your school work. These are all situations that if we are not careful can be dangerous to our health and relationships towards others.

Do not allow your current situations to block your closeness with God. God is always with you day and night. He knows the end from the beginning! He wants you to come freely just as you are. No matter what you have done, you can always be confident that His love will keep you. His love is the medicine that you need for your conscience to be clear. Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the Lord with ALL your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; (6) In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths”. One of my favourite scriptures in the Bible! This scripture I learnt from my University. It really challenged me to put my trust in God and not to lean on my own knowledge.

Yes there will be times where we will think we are right, but we should not deceive ourselves. In all things, we must learn to trust God regardless of how we feel. We should not allow our emotions to dictate what decisions to make, because emotions are subject to change. Do not allow your emotions to make you bitter, but allow them to draw you closer to the Lord. He really does listen. I know it is easier to say, but it is true! I personally cannot emphasize it enough. If I was to honestly tell you the things I have cried out to God for, and the way He answered my prayers in ways and forms that I would not expect, you would be surprised!

When you are talking to God about an issue or a burden or a crisis, God won’t always answer the way you expect Him to answer, but will do it in a way that would humble you enough to trust God in the end. Let us look at the story of Lazarus in the Bible. (Reference: John 10). So here, we see that Lazarus was a sick man. Two women Mary and Martha were with him whilst he was not feeling well. Mary and Martha informed Jesus about Lazarus’ sickness. Jesus said “His sickness will not end in death. No, it is for God’s glory so that God’s Son may be glorified through it” (v4).

Although Jesus knew that Lazarus was sick, He decided to stay two more days where He was. A few days later on His arrival, Jesus found that Lazarus had already been in the tomb for four days. Now when Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went out to meet him, but Mary stayed at home. Martha had questioned Jesus saying that if He would had been there, Lazarus would not have died, but Jesus had to reassure Martha that Lazarus will rise again. Jesus was trying to convince her that anyone who believes in Him shall rise again. Now when Jesus saw Mary weeping and the Jews who had come along with her started to weep too, He was deeply moved in Spirit and troubled. There will be times in our lives where Jesus Himself will be upset with us because of our lack of Faith in Him.

The more we choose to distrust God and elevate our feelings, the less we can see the Power of God work in our lives. The Jews were always trying to challenge Jesus and mock Him saying that if He could open the eyes of a blind man, why can’t he not deliver a dead man. It does not surprise me by how many people would try to put you down because they only see your weakness, and not your strength. It occurs to me most of the time that people in life will always want to expose your faults just to make themselves ‘look righteous’, but as long as you do not give in to those people, you will be totally secure! With Jesus now, He did not have time to argue with these Jews for He knew His worth from the beginning! When you know that you are blessed and anointed, you do NOT have time to answer your critics! This is truly for someone, because I have a strong feeling in my heart that some of us women are wasting our time trying to win and convince people to believe that they are great!

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You are not great from a man’s viewpoint; you are great from God’s viewpoint!! Let this stay in your mind. Jesus shouted from the tomb “Lazarus, come out” and eventually he came out and lived. It is amazing how Jesus, regardless of all the haters and critics, still done His job effectively. Why is that? Because He trusted His Father in Heaven to help Him. He did not even need to run to His disciples for guidance or advice because He knew there was only one person He could rely on. The more you rely on God, the more stronger you become, and the more wiser you become in dealing with your critics. Sometimes, in order to get to the top, you will need to work in silence, if not darkness, and allow God to bring you into the light. You cannot force your way through until God says so!

Our lives should be an indication to other people out there who are finding it hard to trust God in every situation they face. Some people want quick solutions which makes it look like they have got the victory, only to realise that they are back to square one. Whilst others are out there searching for God wholeheartedly. And although the situation is taking long, they still have enough FAITH to believe that all things are working together for their good for those who love the Lord. (Romans 8:28). Ladies, in the good and bad times, God is good! We should not allow the enemy, the world or society tell us otherwise. The only person you will end up trusting is God Himself! When everyone around you has failed and disappointed you, you will realise that all along, God was with you, holding your hand, wiping your tears, keeping you company, and most importantly, giving you opportunity after opportunity to live every blessed day!

When you can trust God, God will also be able to trust you. When you invest in Him, He too will also do the same. God can only invest in people He can trust. If you are crying about a job because you want more money, your finances will be tested. He will test you on how you use it in terms of what you buy. You cannot buy what you want and beg for what you need. It does not work that way. A savings account would be essential if you really want to get a reliable job with financial stability. He sees your heart so no matter what you do, He knows your inner motives. Be wise with your money ladies. Yes it is good to look good, but investing in things that will not add value to your life is a waste! I tell you now: God will wreck your plans when He sees that your plans are about to wreck you! You would think that it is harsh, but it is out of love. The plans you think are good for you, may be the same plans that could delay you of the REAL BLESSING God has in store for you!

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Remember to not worry about tomorrow, for every day has its own problems of its own. We cannot control what goes on in our lives, but there will always be one solution, and that is to TRUST GOD! So I ask you, who are you really trusting?? Be wise in who you trust! Let God be your one and only. He wants to hear from you. Be real with Him and He will be real with you. He is not the one who is moving away from you. Your problems are not meant to make you move away from Him; your problems are meant to draw you CLOSER to Him so that He can speak to you directly. Do not make assumptions based on how God works. So because you sinned last night, you think God is punishing you based on that sin? No no, God is not like that. He is just and fair and faithful! As long as you apologise and confess, He won’t even remember what you did because He loves you UNCONDITIONALLY! Remember that God’s promises will only be revealed when your trust is in Him!

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Remember the more you trust God, the more He AMAZES YOU! My love goes out to you all!

God bless you richly 🙂

xoxox

The Word Verses The World

There is a strong battle between the Word and the World. We are surrounded by so much pressure and heavy influences that at times we do not know what decisions to make due to our surroundings. There is something that is laid very heavy on my heart that I would like to share with you. Ladies, we need to Word. The Word is simply the Bible. The Bible enable us to live according to His commandments and principles. Yes, I know it isn’t easy to abide by the Word because we seem to like ‘fitting in’ with the world. We do not want to be classified as boring so we use the Word mainly on Sundays and leave it out from Monday to Saturday.

When you take the Word and the World, have a deep think about it. Take out the letter “L” from the ‘World’, and what do you get? WORD! This is an indication that no matter what, the Word will ALWAYS STAY TRUE! The word “L” from my own perspective is LUST! Lust is a very dangerous thing, because when used inappropriately, it will cause division and conflict. So many people of nowadays are being pulled away from the Word and into the World. The world that we live in is surrounded by so much negativity that most women are trying to compete with other women, rather than completing them.

There is too much gossip, too much of “It’s all about me”, too much of “I want/I need” etc. It’s a corrupt world we live in because so many of us are being entertained by the patterns of this world, that they cannot make their own decision to live a life that is pleasing to God; rather they find it easy to follow the customs of this temporary world. As much as we are in the world, we are not of the world. (John 15:19). This world is bound to fail you, but when you stick to His Word, it will complete you and you will experience the Peace that surpasses all human understanding! Women, we should never feel ashamed of not copying this world, because we are to stand out for others to see Christ in us. Remember in Matthew 5:14-16, it states that we are the light of the world, a city set on a hill that cannot be hidden. We must also ensure that our light shines before men, that they may see our good works and Glorify our Father who is in Heaven.

What is it in this world that you crave for? Is it to be loved by people? Is it to be known? Or is it for people to like you? All these things are bound to fail you because you are not putting your trust in the source. When you however put your trust in God, He will meet all your needs and give you more than you expected. The challenging question for most of us to understand is that can we cannot have the word and the world at once. We can only choose one and leave the other, and yes it is hard to do, but it has to be done.

As stated previously, yes we are in the world, but we do not have to copy what other people are doing just for them to accept us. For example, I remember a few years ago, there was so much drama on the best weave to buy including, Brazilian, Peruvian, Indian, Mongolian, Malaysian etc. To me, they all look the same lol! I really do not think there is any difference between any of them. It is just the way people perceive them to be that changes the mind of women. From my experience and the secondary research I conducted, the majority of women prefer Peruvian because of its thickness. Most women stated that Brazilian shreds a lot, whilst Indian is too thin. The Mongolian and Malaysian hair I cannot disclose any information as I haven’t bought them at all.

What am I trying to say here? No matter what you buy, do not let that stress you out. Its only hair!! Lol! Yes most of us women like it, but just because a lot of women say they don’t like Brazilian, does not mean that you can’t get it for yourself. Save yourself the time and buy what you know you can afford. Don’t go to the extreme just for people to accept you because of the hair you bought. Likewise, do not feel you need to blend into the world because you were born to stand out. Because of the pressure that is happening in the world, it is not giving us any peace of mind. When you go on YouTube tutorials, it is stated that the LA Girl Pro Concealer is the best concealer, however MAC lovers would say that their concealers are better and so on…

The Word is the only book that will NEVER CHANGE! When you have lost all hope in the world and its unreliability to remain stable, you will realise that all this time, you have been investing in the wrong things. Ladies, I challenge us to continue studying the Word of God. As much as we focus on our outward appearances, let us not forget to check our hearts and attitudes. Are they healthy? Are you saying positive things to yourself? How are your thoughts helping others around you to change for the better? Your words can either help someone or break them. It can make them choose which way to follow;the “Word’s Path” or the “World’s Path”. Our lives should demonstrate the love of God, so that others can be convinced to abide by His Word.

Your worth and value is hidden in Christ. You do not need validation from the world. I know most people prefer to be loved through people, but I urge you today to seek God’s love. The world’s love is temporary. When you are excelling, people do not like it. But God Himself will be proud of you. You must always ensure God is in the centre of all your decisions. Rather than running to the phone to call your friend about what someone did to you, run to the throne where you can be real with God and express your pain. He will answer.

We are living in the end times where so many churches and Christians are being persecuted for what they believe in. What are we really doing about the situation? Are we now ashamed to be Christians for fear of what the world will do? Or are we just too focused on our status and take God’s Grace for granted knowing that He constantly forgives? Remember that God sees the inner motive of ones heart, so no matter what happens, God can see right through you. Being like the world can be a dangerous thing, because if you want to be of this world, then your love for God is not in you. The world will pass away along with its desires, but those who do the will of God will abide forever.

James 4:4 “Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.” It would be painful to be God’s enemy, because God is far greater than the world. If our mind is always focused on the things of the world, we are more likely to slip and miss our real purpose here on earth. Do you know what you are created to do for God? If not, brush up on your bible. Do not wait until your circumstances change for the better before you can start living for God. Do it now while you are alive and well.

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What is Success to You?

What is it to be successful? Is there only one definition of success in this world? I do not think so! The majority of us, if not everyone has their own opinion of what success is to them. I was recently doing some research on what success is and asked a few people to offer their own contribution. Take a look at what some of them said:

Friend 1: “The definition of success is different to all. I believe success is a result of setting a goal in life and accomplishing it. Having a focused mind and preparing to go through challenges in order to achieve your aims. For me, it is knowing your God-given purpose in life. There is a reason why we are here; to use our talents and skills for the glory of God. Money and jobs are part of being successful, but does it make you happy? Although millionaires may class themselves as successful, this doesn’t necessarily mean they are ‘happy’. I feel that declaring one self as ‘successful’ you must feel it within you as well as well as show others the result of your hard work and perseverance”.

Friend 2: “Success to me is having a set goal that you have set yourself and achieving it. Someone may have set that goal for you, but everyone has an aim that they have within them that when they have achieved it, they will say ‘I succeeded in that'”.

Friend 3: “Success from my standpoint is when one can fulfill their purpose knowing they have achieved an objective”.

Friend 4: “Success to me means achieving what you have set your self to; in a result to PURSUE YOUR AIMS, GOALS, TARGET AND OBJECTIVES. Success begins with motivation, planning and working hard, which leads to progressing and achieving”.

Friend 5: “I agree with the comments above. While success is defined differently by different people, I believe it is about achieving what you set out to. It’s about meeting the goals you’ve set for yourself regardless of the obstacles and challenges you may encounter. Also it is that feeling of contempt you get when you know in your heart of hearts that you’ve done your possible best. Success is NOT measured by fame, popularity or money!”

So from all the above, we can see that all these people have different views of success. However what drew me to it was that they didn’t mention anything about possessions such as fame or wealth. We must realise that in this life, whether you are rich and wealthy, it does not mean that you are any better than someone who is not rich whether it is in finances, health, society and intelligence. I remember I met up with a friend recently and she was telling me that she learnt how to view people on the same level. Someone you know may be a cleaner; another person a bank manager. The only difference is the position. You may feel as if you are in a low position right now, but I am here to tell you that it is not your position that defines you, it is God who defines you! Women, you are more worth than any position in this world!

I would always think that life after being a graduate would be so easy! But really, it isn’t. So much comes into mind such as finding the ‘right’ job (which I don’t even think exists to be honest lol), being in a relationship, buying the most prestige car etc. But the most challenging thing about graduates (from my experience) is finding a stable job that related to your degree. I can’t stop thanking God for where I am because He has made it possible for me to keep my current position, rather than me being idle at home. Just because someone has got their job before you does not make them any better than you who is still looking. Don’t compare your story to another person’s, because what you already have is what they may be seeking God for.

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We are all at different stages in life. Okay, you have a job, but your friend wants to get her driving license. You however already have your driving license and is now looking for a job. You are both still on the same level. It’s very logical to understand. But most of us put so much pressure on life and status! Could it be that society is playing such a massive impact in our day-to-day lives, or have we just shut God out thinking that we can handle everything in our lives? The biggest mistake one can make is feeling as if they know it all trying to do everything by themselves, then later on realizing that they have just crossed the line. It can be a painful journey, and this is why life is called a ‘journey’. It’s a process and it will take a lot of pruning (which hurts), but it will get you to where you need to be.

From a biblical point of view, there were so many people who were amazed as Jesus’ miracles; healing the sick, raising the dead, making the blind to see…from my own opinion, I for one see this as SUCCESS! Why? Because He thought about others more than Himself, and that is what I am going to talk about in the next paragraphs.

Success to me is having the right mind-set of helping other people. It’s about serving your community and being a strong influence to the next generation to come. I always say to my friends that if they are the eldest in the family, they have  STRONG ROLE to play towards their little ones. Because the little ones will usually look up to the older ones. I look up to my big sister because to me, she has gone far, and I see her as a strong example to keep me going in life. If you do not have any siblings, it is understandable; you can look up to cousins, relatives and carers; if not parents! Parents may not always get it right, but they do have more wisdom 😉

It is vital to ensure that one does not define success as having large amounts of possessions. Yes you may be rich, but does it truly make you happy, as Friend 1 stated. We must make sure that money should not be the main goal in our lives, before we go astray. In the book of there was a story of A Rich Man that had so many possessions, and Jesus told him to give everything he had to the poor and follow Him. The rich man had so much sorrow in his heart because he was so addicted to all his belongings that it made it difficult for him to let go. Sometimes there are some things in your life that is making life difficult for you to enjoy, because you are not learning how to surrender, rather you enjoy the possessions that are temporary and won’t give you full satisfaction, because human beings mind-set is always ‘give me more’.

I was having a conversation with my friend and we were discussing about the importance of relationships, and how to relate to one another sensitively. In order to be successful, you must be relational. You must be able to adapt to other people, especially when they are hurting. I know for some it might be difficult to relate to a friend who has lost a family member, simply because you have not yet experienced losing someone so close, but just being there for the person is more likely to make their day. Not being sensitive to others can make you isolate yourself from others, and be more controlling which is a no no! The more controlling you are, the more your loved ones are likely to distance themselves away from you. When you want to be a successful individual, you should be able to openly and freely disclose your thoughts and feelings in a way that invites openness in them. In addition, you are quick to admit your own mistakes and freely forgive those who have offended you in any way.

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Your experiences are another form of success because what you have been through will not be wasted. Your pain serves a purpose, whether you realise it or not. Your experiences are what can bring lost souls back to Christ, and help them back on their feet, because as you relate your own issues to those who are hurting, they are also more likely to open up to you too. So in other words, you have a desire to contribute to their pain through your past experiences. When you are too focused on your painful situations, you are less likely to move on because your mind is glued to the past. You want to be free but you still keep dwelling on the past; how can that be possible? You have two options, either 1) you let go, or 2) you stay in your past. The choice is yours. No-one can make this decision for you. You could have even failed in something; failed to be a mother or wife, failed to be a best friend, failed your exams, failed your driving test, failed your partner, failed to find a stable job, failed God; but all these things are bringing out the best in you. Your problems are meant to bring you closer to God, not away from Him.

Remember that worldly success can leave you empty; why? Because when God created us, He did not create us with money, cars, possessions. We came with nothing, and we will leave with nothing (1 Timothy 6:7). We must remember that although it is important to have possessions on earth, none of them will come with us when we get to Heaven. All the shoes us women purchase, the clothes, the make-up, etc, someone else is going to inherit them, so do not be too focused on the external, but more on the internal (the heart). Listen to the Holy Spirit and learn to be sensitive towards it, so when He is speaking to you, you will know when to discern right from wrong.

Sometimes, the things that you thought would bring you happiness and success is bringing you misery…have you ever felt like that before? Every direction your friends and family members tell you to take, you do it wholeheartedly, until you realise that you made the wrong turn, without consulting God first. You can’t allow people or the world to direct your life, unless you will end up directionless wondering where to go and what to do with your life. If you think copying the world will make you successful, I challenge you today that it will not. It will not make your life any better if you are going through a painful situation right now. It says in 1 Peter 5:7 that we should “Cast all our burdens onto HIM for He cares for us”. It does not say “Cast your burdens to the world”, because God knows the world cannot meet our needs and expectations.

So I challenge you today that the definition of REAL SUCCESS IS IN YOUR BIBLE! David was a brilliant soldier, a popular king, and a man with access to all the riches anyone could desire. But he discovered these things don’t bring lasting joy. What he found instead is that God’s commandments are the only way to be successful because a great reward is before those who obey and honor them. The more you obey the commandments of the Lord, the more blessings you will see in your life. Not only you, but others around you. You will be a living witness to those who doubt God! Your success from God should challenge people who find pleasure in the world.

There will be times where our success can be put on show, which can be full of pride and ego. David in the bible stated how he can know the sins of his heart. And he cried out to the Lord that he should show him his heart and the faults that he kept within himself, thinking that he was okay and had it all together, when really, he was broken and ashamed. We must remember that there is no sin that can control us, unless we allow it to. In other words, do not let your sin control you so that you can be free from guilt.

Success is a good thing, but only when it is used with good and pure motives. Success should not be used to get applauded, or for you to show off and make others feel small. When you do that, God is not happy, but when you allow your success to affect others around you in a positive way, then you will begin to see your situations change for the better. Don’t let the world convince you that you are a failure just because you don’t meet the world’s definition of success. For the Lord is your life; you are successful in Christ! Remember to “commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plans WILL SUCCEED!” (Proverbs 16:3). So I ask you today, what is your own personal viewpoint on success?

Thank you for reading 🙂

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The Next Chapter

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Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert (Isaiah 43:19). Trusting God with the next step in your life will have some benefits and limitations. Everyone is on their own journey. You have a journey to accomplish and so do I.

Our journey in life will be worth the pain; the process itself will enable us to gain strength from God. When it comes to the story of my life, it would be a surprise to some of you the things I have gone through and how I am still here. Because of His Grace, I am a living witness and testimony to His Glory. I am ready to go into the next chapter of my life. My darkest moments have pushed me to enter into the next phase. This time of year marks a new chapter in each of our lives. We have recently been celebrating the resurrection of our Saviour Jesus Christ, and how much He loves mankind.

There is something about this year that am determined to know what the next chapter has for me. When you turn the page to the next chapter in your life, does it fill you with fear or dread? Are you hopeful and have enough faith for what God will do in your life this year, or are you having second thoughts? Remember, every chapter in your life is an opportunity to learn from your past mistakes, and use it as a strategic tool to get you to the next level. You cannot have an old mind-set and bring it to the next level. In order to successful enter in the next phase, you must recap over the things you did last, and eliminate the areas that were not helping you initially.

The next chapter could be for someone who is struggling to think positive. Why are you filled with so much negativity? It could be the people who you are surrounded with. The truth of the matter is that you will not have everyone around you that will enter into the next chapter with you. This may be hard to understand now, and for some it may be difficult to let go of, but when God is taking you to your destiny, you have to learn how to let go! It will take some time, it may take some pruning (pruning hurts by the way), but it is all going to work out for your good.

When a new day arrives, how do you take it? Do you say to yourself that it will be a good day, or it will be a constant repetition of yesterday’s drama? Sometimes we wake up in fear dreading the day. We fail to realise that before we do anything, God must be the first person we have intimacy with. When we wake up, pick up your bible and study it. Don’t let your mind zoom ahead without speaking to Him. This could be an opportunity for someone who is ready to move into the next chapter; making a commitment every day to have fellowship and making Him the centre of your life.

Maybe your previous chapter was surrounded with some much negativity and fear. This could be your year for extraordinary peace and favor. You just have to renew your Faith, and believe that where you are right now is preparing you for where God is taking you. If God showed you everything He has in store for you right now, you will not be able to develop. Not only that, you are more likely to be impatient, and remember one of the fruits of the Spirit is PATIENCE! So if you do not have it, develop it now before you enter into the next level. He never said it would be easy, but you’re a winner till the end.


 

My greatest advice is: “If you want to move to the next chapter in your life, begin to trust God on the level that you are in. Yes you may feel stuck at the moment, but it doesn’t matter what you’re facing as long as you trust God wholeheartedly to get you to the next chapter in your life. Move forward and let the past, pass”


 

Remember, it is not over until God says it’s over!

Chapter

Shift Your Priorities

 

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The things that are taking up most of your time is what is most likely to feed you. If you choose to study the Word more, the Word will feed itself to you…If you continue to study hard, you are more likely to achieve greater results…When you spend time helping people around you rather than stressing over what you should do, God Himself will work on your behalf. Today, I challenge you ladies to shift your priorities around. What is taking most of your time? Is it helping you get to the next stages in your life? How are you fulfilling your purpose on this earth by what you are doing? Or would you say “I am too young” or “I will do it when I get serious with God”. Ladies, we do not know tomorrow. We need to think locally but act globally!

Our focus should be on how we can be a blessing unto other people, particularly those around us. How are we being fruitful to our generation, better yet our future generation? Are you always tongue-twisted in gossip? Do you tend to speak defeat and failure because of your past? Challenge yourself to position yourself in a way that will push you one step closer to your destiny every day!

So just recently, I’ve realised that my focus has not been solely on God, for the reason that I have been thinking about other things I desire. When it comes to your priorities, what should really come first in your life? Why is it so challenging to put God first? Some may say that because we cannot physically see God, we are more likely to go to close friends and loved ones for companion and advice. However, there are times where God will want us for ourselves. There are situations that you may be going through right now that does not necessarily require friends or loved ones to be involved. It could be something personal that you are struggling with; run to God, put Him first and see the way He will comfort you.

In life, our first priority must be God! If your focus every morning is based on a routine of going to work, making money, coming home, going on Facebook, sleeping, and praying for only 5 minutes, that will not determine how effective your relationship is with God. God requires us to have intimate fellowship with Him. In other words, let us listen, and let Him do the talking. I used to always do the talking, and He would always listen, but now I realised that it really is not about me at all. It’s about what God wants me to do for His Glory and for the Kingdom. Yes we may want to invest in properties and businesses, but we must be reminded that this life is not our own. We must always be Kingdom focused and not worldly focused.

What do you think is taking up all of your time? Mostly it is based on outward appearance; society is telling us to buy a certain make up brand, to get the latest jewelry, even to buy the best hair. I was telling my friend that as women, we tend to buy so much clothing that we don’t realise how full our wardrobe is. The more you buy, you have to think where to put it. No matter how ‘up to date’ you want to be based on your clothing, it won’t be possible. Fashion changes constantly, and if you are not careful, you will end up being stressed on the things you ‘don’t have’.

Matthew 6:31-32 tells us “But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which is alive today and tomorrow is thrown into the furnace, will He not much more clothe you? You of little faith! Do not worry then, saying, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear for clothing? (32) For the Gentiles eagerly seek all these things; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things”.

When your focus is on temporary things, it can affect your Faith in God. Faith is what enables God to make a move in your life. You cannot expect to defeat the enemy if you are being a part-time Christian! The problems you and I face must push us out of our comfort zones to endure the pain, and trust that God will keep us from falling. Your priorities, must only be on God Himself, but also on helping one another in need. Nowadays, we are just too busy focusing on what we do not have, how we can make ourselves better; basically, life being all about you. But if you have realised, when you keep putting yourself first, you will get fed up because you have realised your selfish motives has taken over. Begin each day by giving God the first part of your day and first place in your heart.

Sometimes we tend to work God in our schedule when we should be working around God’s schedule. God created us to have a relationship with Him. It is not about getting what you want from God and living the way you want. Sometimes, I feel in my heart that not a lot of people have a strong relationship with God, until Sunday arrives because we know that day as ‘Church Day’. When you can become so consistent in your relationship with God, everything in your life will turn around. You won’t even need to buy luxurious items to make you feel good; Gods peace is more than enough for you! The more you focus on materialistic things, the more problems you will have. Why? Because they cannot give you the full satisfaction you need. As I stated earlier, fashion will change, friends will change, career paths will change, but God will ALWAYS REMAIN THE SAME!  

If your relationship with God is not your priority, you are more inclined to make Him as an option, and truly that is a dangerous move. It is seriously vital to ensure that our plans, our visions, our dreams, our aspirations are handed over to the Lord. Yes you may have taken five Master Degrees and achieved a First Class, but it still does not guarantee that your relationship with God is solid. In previous years back, I would usually seek God earnestly around my exam period. This is because it was the most challenging period for me, as I was not a keen fan on exams. Why is it that when challenges or obstacles come our way, that is when we remember God? Do you think God will remember you only on your birthday, or when you have passed your driving test, or when you have won an award? No of course not! God has got YOU in the palm of His hands! He knows you more than you know yourself, so be reminded of that!

You can also set your priorities but giving 10% of your increase each month! I struggled greatly with this area in my first year of University. I would always put it off and tell myself I would pay God next month. Until next month came, and did not realise how many things I wanted to buy. I had to tell myself that at all times, I must give my daddy what He owes because after all, He was the one who provided my job. It is not always easy to give, especially when one is struggling financially. But God reminds us that He is the provider of all things and that we should not dwell on what we do not have, rather thank God for what we do have; for Godliness with contentment is GREAT GAIN! (1 Timothy 6:6).

As we live to please God, He promises to bless our lives and make us prosper. Not only that, but He causes people around us to favour us wherever we go, and your JOY AND PEACE WILL INCREASE! 

So if you mess up, don’t be discouraged and let it hold you back; confess it and keep going. God will give you grace to do what you need to do. One day at a time you and God together can do anything!

Scriptures to ponder on:

Proverbs 3:5-6: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding (6) In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths”. 

Matthew 6:33-34: “But seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you (34) Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble”. 

John 14:27: “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid”. 

X Remember God rewards those who diligently seek Him! X

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