Are You Lonely?

Loneliness is a state of mind, an emotion brought on by feelings of separation from other human beings. The sense of isolation is very deeply felt by those who are lonely. The Hebrew word translated “desolate” or “lonely” in the Old Testament means “one alone, only; one who is solitary, forsaken, wretched.” There is no deeper sadness that ever comes over the mind than the idea that we are alone in the world, that we do not have a friend, that no one cares for us, that no one is concerned about anything that might happen to us.

I don’t know why this is happening, but at times, I tend to feel so alone. I do have really good friends, don’t get me wrong, but it just isn’t enough. I wake up early in the morning thinking that the day will go well, until an incident occurs with a dear friend of mine. Have you ever had that feeling?

Sometimes in life, you will feel so alone; nobody understands you or the pain you go through. It just seems so difficult. I was telling my friend recently that no matter how you feel, God was on her side. It is easier said than done to say this, but it is indeed true. When nobody sees the way you see things, don’t force them too. They were not meant to understand anyway. It can be painful when friends betray you. Its like the story of Judas and Jesus, when Judas betrayed Jesus.Then again human beings are manipulative people. We always focus on ourselves first, rather than putting the needs of others before them.

But you may wonder what are the factors that make people isolated? It could be various of reasons; when a friend tells you a secret and finds out that other people are aware of it. Some people tend to distance themselves from others due to fear of being judged, not being able to ‘fit in’ and also, not used to having so many people around them. What I can encourage you on today is to know that God loves and cares for you so much! You would be surprised every time He smiles down on you. At times we even assume that the reasons why we are lonely is because we do not have what other people own, so we accept it to be ‘their fault’. On the other hand, some people don’t discuss their sense of isolation, which can result as a big problem.

Not feeling free to talk about loneliness adds to the problem and to the judgments of the experience. If you judge yourself for feeling lonely, it makes it even more difficult to take steps to change the situation. Then you may judge yourself for not taking enough action to solve the problem. Sometimes we place ourselves in cages where it feels people have betrayed us, when really the enemy has been your attitude all the while. It’s not your neighbor that is making you feel so lonely, it’s the way you think. Your mind has the power to control the way you think.

Loneliness can be different for certain people. Many people are lonely even though they have acquaintances and activities. Having hundreds of “friends” on social networking websites isn’t the same as having someone to share a movie or to get a cup of coffee. One of the loneliest experiences may occur when you are in a crowd of people you do not feel connected with or when you are with a life partner/friend and feel no connection. It can be very painful, however we must always put in our minds that God is for us!

In order to avoid this type of feeling, meet new people, travel around the world, speak to your neighbor; you would be surprised at all these things, and the impact it can have on your life. Lady, you are never alone! God has got you! So be encouraged today, and be a blessing onto someone you know who feels alone. Let them know that they are not forgotten! Sometimes it just takes one word to make someone smile!

He is the friend who “sticks closer than a brother” (Proverbs 18:24), who lays down His life for His friends (John 15:13-15), and who has promised never to leave us or forsake us but to be with us until the end of the age (Matthew 28:20).

God bless x