Being ‘in-different’ is beautiful (For those who understand)…true leaders are those who don’t blend in with the crowd…they stand out! If you desire to be a leader, you must learn how to stand alone. Lead and people will follow you. Leaders are unique! They are original! They do not imitate. They do not compromise. It’s good to be different. Embrace who you are. Stop trying to be like somebody else. Embrace your uniqueness. There can only be one you, so do you!
There is so much pressure in being who you are. It can be very frustrating when it seems nothing is going according to plan. Maybe you planned to get married this year, but your finances isn’t enough to support you. Maybe you graduated few years ago, but still haven’t found your full-time job. Maybe you are stuck and don’t know what to do in the near future. It seems very hard, and eventually gets heavy to carry. Believe I have been there, and it seems as if there is nobody to talk to. But I am here to tell you to LOVE WHO YOU ARE! You may not be where you want to be, but thank God that you are not where you used to be.
It is good to embrace who you are. The only way you can embrace yourself is through knowing God. So if I may ask, who is God to you? Is He just a friend that you speak to on Sundays only? Is He someone who you pour your problems to, and when they are fulfilled, you go back to your own lifestyle. In order to know who you, start spending more time with Him so that He can reveal Himself to you. The pressure is so intense because we feel the need to always be a part of a popular social group, to have the best high salary job, to buy the most expensive car, to get married at a young age.
I was at a stage in my life where I felt the need to get what my friends were getting. It stressed me out to the point where I just had to go into my secret place and seek the face of God. As much as I love my friends, they won’t always understand me. They won’t always understand why I go through things. There are situations that you will go through that your friends will question why you are still in that position. Do not see it as a bad thing; see it as the Grace of God that is upon you! Not a lot of people can cope with what you are going through, and to be honest, it may sound like a weakness, but really, it is a STRENGTH! You would be surprised at the things the enemy has tried to do to attack you, but because of the Strength of God, He has enabled you to endure through the process.
Jesus Himself was a leader. He never allowed His feelings or emotions get to Him. He knew His worth in His Father. He helped people. He healed people, He was creative, He was UNIQUE! When you start to realise your uniqueness in Him, you will eventually start to embrace who you are. So I say again, being in-different is a blessing from above! It reveals the Power of God in one’s life. When it seems you have done all you can to overcome your situation, you have informed all your family and loved ones, still to no avail, you eventually begin to realise that God is the only one that can take the pain away.
We will all go through the same, if not similar challenges, but we must be rest assured that He will not give us more than we can handle. Be strong in the Lord, and embrace who you are! Do not try to imitate somebody else. God did not create you to be like your neighbor. Yes they may look good, but you do not know the pruning and the shaping that God had to do on him/her to be in their position. Because we are in the world, the world will tell you that ‘Seeing is Believing’, but we have a God that operates according to our Faith! Through being in-different, it is about believing that you are more than others think you are. You are more than your status, you are more than your career, you are more than your finances, you are more than your possessions. Do not be deceived in what you own or how much you earn, because that won’t complete you.
Remember to always be happy in who you are. Learn to love yourself. Learn to appreciate your flaws. Even though you have made mistakes, don’t encourage pity parties. Instead, use it as an opportunity to give it all to God, because your problems in His eyes, are potential blessings to help you grow in Him. What the enemy uses against you, God will use it for your good. Ladies, I love you so much! I know how it feels to try to be someone you’re not. It is not easy. The sleepless nights, the constant tears, the frustrations, it is all too much!
If we could just make small steps in seeking God first in everything we do, He will comfort us in our areas of weaknesses. God does not like His children to be tormented with ungodly feelings, questioning whether something is wrong with us because we don’t like what others like, or because we can’t do what they do; He gave us His righteousness so we don’t have to believe those thoughts. When people are speaking to you, accept the fact that yes they may be intellectually smarter than you, but that does not give you any right to entertain your feelings and expose yourself to weakness. Learn to embrace and listen to people who have more knowledge than you, because they too had someone they looked up to when they were tempted to look down on themselves. Don’t push people away because you ‘think’ they make you feel small; God will not give you someone who will take your weaknesses for granted. He knows how to take those people out of your life!!
If you are struggling in being ‘you’, ask God to give you someone you can trust and speak to. He will surely grant you somebody. He already knows your personal problems, but still wants to hear your voice. Ladies, remember you are not alone, and never will be! Do not keep it in. Share your struggles with someone who God has placed in your life, and in conclusion, embrace your imperfections; they are what makes you beautiful!