The pressure that women face today is so intense that it can make one have sleepless nights. The insecure feeling that most of us feel because of what society portrays; celebrities and the way they dress, the exposure of certain body parts to make them feel ‘sexy’, the best make-up to buy so you can fit in and look good. It is all too much effort. Why be someone else when you can embrace you?
It is easier said that done I know. Do not get me wrong, looking good is fabulous, but when we over analyse how God created us e.g “I hate my nose, it’s so big” “If only I had more hips” “If only I had bigger boobs” “I think I am gonna make my bottom bigger”…do these questions ring any bells? It says in Psalms 139:14 that “We are fearfully and wonderfully made”, and when we begin to believe that, then our insecurities will slowly fade away.
If I may ask, what defines you? Is it the make up you use? The hair you buy? The food you eat? All these things are vital. Yes look good, but check your MOTIVES…yes buy good hair, but ask yourself do I really need this…of course eating well is vital, but do it for the right reasons. I am going to ‘fast’, but really your trying to ‘lose weight’ by not eating, no it doesn’t work that way hunny! Aside physical food, how much Spiritual food are you eating? Are you digesting it well? Do you think it is helping you in the way it should? Could you share your Spiritual food with someone else when they feel down? Because it’s very easy to give people temporary advice when they are in a bad mood. “Just treat yourself hun, you deserve it”…Until the next lipstick from MAC comes out, and your losing sleep because of it. False misconceptions are deceiving so do not get sucked into it.
When I was 16, I would always complain about me wearing the same shoes to school and church. I tell you, it was embarrassing!! Until I talked to God and asked Him to grant me a job where I can afford better shoes. At present, the shoes I have now, wow you will be surprised! I always want to buy more shoes, not realizing the ones I already have at home, but don’t wear. How painful is that! Its funny when you think about it, because fashion will always change, but GOD WILL NEVER! He will never run out of fashion! If you feel you are not ‘fashionable’ enough, run to Him! He will change your life around! Once you submit yourself to Him, your mind won’t be so concerned about temporary things. God knows what we all need, but don’t confuse your needs with your wants. God is not to be mocked. He will give you want you need. God can only invest in someone who He can trust. So my question to you is CAN GOD TRUST YOU? Can God trust you with your small blessings? Can He trust you when you don’t feel special? That’s the challenge for you to figure out…
It is a strong desire for God to invest in us women, but in order for Him to do that, we must avail ourselves to Him. God won’t give you a greater return if you don’t give Him your all. God won’t give you a starter blessing, He wants to give you the main course! But you have to do your part by investing in Him; in other words, putting Him first in all your decisions. You can’t expect a breakthrough if you are running to everyone else, but Him. Maybe you struggle to put Him first because you are too eager to listen to mans opinion on what you should do regarding your current situation. But I am here to tell you to “Seek FIRST the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all other things shall be ADDED unto you” (Matthew 6:33). God wants to open up the windows of Heaven and pour you out a blessing that you won’t have enough room to receive! (Malachi 3:10). There is nothing hard about these two scriptures. It is basic instructions that must be followed by in order to gain peace of mind.
The things you are craving for now, I promise you, you are less likely to want it in the years to come. My example; I had a Blackberry phone for 4 years! Yes 4 years is long!!! But the good thing is that it lasted very well! Until I recently got an iPhone 5C. The pressure it took me to get an iPhone 5C knowing that a better one will come out in a few years time just drained me. Instead, I promised myself that I won’t bother about getting the latest iPhone, because I’ll be wasting my time. Why stress over things that won’t give you joy? Instead invest in Him, the only source OF your joy! There is a difference. God will never run out of fashion, and He will never give up on you! Man will, I know that for sure, but God, wow you should try Him!
He will teach you how to dress, how to conduct yourself, how to LOVE YOURSELF, how to love your flaws, your insecurities, your spots, your acne scars, the same shoes that you had for over five years. It’s a great feeling to know that you are always up to date in Him. He is the only one that can fill your lustful cravings. Don’t compromise what you want with what God can give you. God can give you more than you expect. Its time for us to start investing in God. Know that your fashion is in Him, not in the things you see with your eyes. Remember the Spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak, and that is how it should be. Feed your Spirit and your flesh will die. My favourite saying; “It’s all about balance”…life is indeed about deciding what you are going to do, but not doing too much of it. For example, for those who like Facebook, try to not spend most of your time on it (unless it’s for relevant reasons of course), because what you use the majority of your time is what will feed you. The more you spend time with the Word, God will invest in you also. When you are on Facebook, Facebook will take most of your precious time. Know your boundaries.
Ladies, remember your worth is not in any temporary thing, it is only in Jesus. Until you start to believe that, then you will have peace of mind. Jesus is a gift that nothing in this world can replace. You can try all you want; try to be rich, only to lose your soul. Try to be like someone else, only to entertain your fears. Do not try to be like someone else. Love who you are. Create your own fashion because you are worth it!
YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOURSELF BECAUSE NO AMOUNT OF LOVE FROM OTHERS IS SUFFICIENT ENOUGH TO FILL THE YEARNING THAT YOUR SOUL REQUIRES FROM YOU. THE AMOUNT OF TEMPORARY THINGS WILL NOT SATISFY YOU, THEY ARE ONLY THERE TO MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD “FOR A WHILE”.