Your Father knows what you need, but put God’s work first and all these things will be yours as well. All the other things in your life; your destiny, your education, your friendships, your relationships are all from God. Some are good regardless if something negative happens because it is a blessing or lesson in disguise to help you grow. But if you trust God with all your mind, heart and soul, everything will turn out perfect for you.
God must come first in your life, even in your decisions. Ask Him ‘Lord am I doing the right thing?’ Pray during arguments and ask him to humble your soul so you can look on the high road and forgive the person that offended you. That is the next level of forgiveness. Understanding them is another. Understanding why they do or say something you do not approve of, understand why they hurt you than trying to fight back, pray for them also. Not all things need to be justified or explained – ‘Your Friends Don’t Need It, Your Enemies Won’t Believe It’.
When wanting or trying to help someone who hurt you knowingly, they are more likely to be ungrateful or even worse resentful and bitter and may hurt you again, and you have a positive mind-set that you are convinced of doing the right thing; instead you have let your emotions lead you astray when God was telling you all this time to LEAVE IT AND LET GO!
Distance and disconnection are important! In sticky situations, when you know right from wrong, you want to be the ‘hero’ but because you want to please your friends and you don’t want them to be upset with you, you are convinced enough so much that you jeopardize your happiness just to make them ‘feel good’ when you know it is not what God wants you to do. If you have a friend or close relative that treats you bad, and you want to be honest with them, but don’t want to hurt them, you have to speak to the Father. He knows your pain, He knows what you can handle. Just surrender it all to Him. Rather than complaining and whining, why not allow Him to speak to you?
In all of this, pray and ask God ‘Is this what I need right now? Is this what I should do?’. Ask Him for strength to remove yourself from those situations that give you sleepless nights and heart aches. I know it is not easy, but it will be worth it in the end so that it will please God. Ask Him to help you make the right decisions, and to do the right things, so that trust will be developed.
Remember ‘Stress’ says: “HURRY UP AND DO THINGS NOW” but ‘Faith’ says: “LEAVE IT TO GOD; EVERYTHING IN GOD’S TIMING IS PERFECT, NO MATTER WHETHER IT IS ON TIME OR NOT!”. Ask God to lead your Spirit to nothing but greater expansion on wisdom, knowledge, understanding and the truth. Ask God for a sound mind to always hear when He is speaking to you, also for your heart to be humble and receptive even though you want to do the opposite and what suits you.
Proverbs 3 v 5-6: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths”. Do not lean on your own understanding. Everything else is second place. When you put God first, everything else will come into focus; it may hurt now or may not make sense, but in the future it will. Think futuristically, not temporarily and momentarily. Chances are whatever we do now pops up sometime in our lives and will eventually reflect towards your future. But with God’s help, everything will surely be fine. So keep the Faith, trust in God and DENY YOURSELF in order to focus on Him alone.