Previously on my recent post called ‘Do Not Judge’, this message is quite similar to it. I was just reflecting the other day on the things that we as human beings tend to do. Around your circle of friends, there are times when we assume that people are the way they are, and that they will never change. We put them in a position where we think we know what is going through their mind, but really, we do not always know. Some people have habits which they are not aware of the fact that it can be offensive to another.
For example, I have been in a position where I have opened up to someone about one of my weaknesses, and through that, the person said it as a joke to quite a few people. In my mind, I was not impressed at all, because it was supposed to be between me and the individual. Sometimes, in life, the way you joke with another person, they may not take it as a joke. Some people can take it to the next level. This is why we need to tame our tongue. Proverbs 21 verse 23 says “Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble”. In other words, before you speak, think about what you are going to say before you utter it out. Lets your words be helpful, and not spiteful.
Lets get to the main points:
– Why is it so easy to judge a killer?
– Why is it so easy to accuse a gossiper?
– Why do you call others hypocrites when you are one yourself (without even realizing?)
– How comes you have so much pride in you and think you are better than everybody else?
All these questions do come up. We see them all over the world. But my main concern now is why do people do what they do? Have you ever considered that it could have been the way they were brought up. When we were all born, we were not born to become killers. It could have been the things people watch on television that has influenced them to do something like that. Or how about when people talk about you. Would anyone who has a motive in this life wake up every blessed morning thinking about who to talk about. It must come from something that has been snatching your joy away…(your past).
Remember: YOU ARE NOT DEFINED BY YOUR PAST! Do not give any opportunity for your past to creep in and scatter your mindset. Yes at times, it can happen, I can admit, but with Gods strength, you can surrender it all to Him! Do not give those you love the opportunity to remind you of what you done in the past. There will be times where you will have arguments with your loved ones, and sometimes to keep you quiet, they will try to remind you of your past. But you must remind them (in love) that your past is done and dusted! That you are now moving forward with your life! Other reasons could be due to covering their own tracks (their sins) to make themselves feel better, but remember that God cannot be mocked.
Bare this in mind: When people throw you stones, it’s because you are a good tree full of fruits. They see a lot of harvest in you. Don’t go down to their level by throwing them back the stones, but throw them your FRUITS so the seeds of yourself may inspire them to change their ways. In other words, when someone you sense is deliberately hurting you, try not to retaliate back on their level. It takes a strong person to forgive, but even a STRONGER PERSON to accept that forgiveness.
So before you assume that the person you are arguing with will never change, think about why they do what they do. Try to get some information about why they are constantly doing the same things. If it’s gossiping, instead of judging them, kindly take them out for tea and open up to one another. If its envy, try to listen to what they say first before you speak. People do what they do because of reasons you may never know of. We may not always know everything in one’s life, but we can make an IMPACT in their lives in order for them to change for good.
Be a blessing into somebody’s life, other than your own 🙂