5 Reasons Why Many Christian Girls Remain Single

This is Food of Thought for all women! God bless as you read


In 2012 ,I was invited to be a member of a panel at a Christian singles conference. After speaking about living a purposeful life, and remaining pure in singleness, the topic of marriage invariably came up. A woman stood up and started pouring out her heart about how she desired a husband. How she was in her late thirties and did not want to be alone anymore. She said that she was on the verge of ‘settling’!

In an attempt to comfort her, an older woman whom we will call Sarah stood up and proclaimed that she was single at 60 AND had never married. Sarah started to encourage the younger lady. She said, look at me, I am 60 and not married but I will not settle. I want what God wants for me and will not settle for less. I have had many counterfeit men come into my…

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Sureway Youth Presents…

My youth group will be hosting a Youth Day on Sunday 20th July at 11.00am. Details are below:

Location: Sureway International Christian Ministries. 1 Higgs Industrial Estate. Herne Hill. Loughborough Junction. SE24 0AU.

Buses: P4, 345, 45 or 35.

Theme: Shine.

Admission: FREE!

There will be: The word, spoken word, Sureway youth choir, cake auction, youth game show (trophy giving), inspirational dance, duets, testimonies, interactive activities, refreshments and many more! It is an event not to be missed!

For more information, please email me on womansworthconference@yahoo.co.uk.

Please if you can spread the word, re-blog, tweet, Facebook, etc I would highly appreciate it.

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Is it really about being blessed or being a blessing to someone else?


When you desire to bless someone, it must come from the heart. Your motives alongside will catch with God and He will test you according to the way you bless someone. Here are five ways you can bless someone, even those who hurt you, and even if you do not know their specific needs:

B – Body – For health, safety, and physical needs.

L – Labors – For the success and prospering in their careers and studies (Jeremiah 29:7).

E – Emotions – For peace and joy to replace fear and anxiety (Matthew 10:13).

S – Social life – For family’s to function well together in their community.

S – Salvation – For each to understand salvation in Jesus Christ, and come to know Him personally and grow in their spiritual lives.

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Be a blessing to someone else, then you too shall be blessed. Do not just bless people because you want a blessing. Really mean it from your heart. Tomorrow is not promised, but one phone call can make a big difference in one’s life. To pray for people is another way of blessing them, buying them gifts, spending quality time with them are all ways in which you are giving Glory to God. Do not allow the enemy to steal your joy. Be content with your blessings, but allow God to share your blessings with others. At some point you will need someone to lean on. Do not allow pride to take away your humble attitude. Consider yourself lowly in the eyes of others, so that in due time God shall lift you up. Do not take revenge in to your own hands, the Lord will do that for you. Keep praying for your neighbor, and do NOT STOP LOVING THEM!

Do not judge.

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Learn to appreciate and celebrate others when they doing good, rather than judging them and spotting their issues. I believe there is more than one space in Heaven for every one of us, so pull your brethren up and help them get to that level. No one is perfect, no one is pure, and nobody is holy. We are all striving to be righteous, and be like Christ! Love thy neighbor as yourself and even love your enemies and those lower than you and God will uplift you. Remember you are not free until you have no reason to impress anyone, even with your salvation, so continue to strive on impressing God and not man. Having said that, it is very important that we do not downgrade anybody because of what we hear, see or perceive.

When we judge others, or we have a conception in our heart’s towards them, it is a reflection of the way you are. So for example, if you judge somebody based on what you have ‘heard’, it shows that you are as just the same as that person you are judging. Do you think it is right to judge another just to make yourself feel good? Some people judge because of fear…fear of not being loved, chosen, accepted, cared for etc. This is why relationships with family and friends are broken. We need to realise that our words have so much power in them! As Women of God, we must strive to ensure that we uplift and elevate one another, and not condemn. (In reference to Matthew 7 verse 1-5). Can you ask yourself this question: “Why am I being so judgmental”. The way you treat people behind the scenes will reflect towards your future in the open.

James 4 verse 11-12: “Do not speak evil against one another. The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother (or sister), speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. There is only one lawgiver and judge, He who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?”. And really it is true…who are WE to judge our neighbor? He that overestimates himself is classified as a fool, but he who humbles himself in the presence of God is wise. We cannot expect to be representatives of Christ if we keep pointing fingers.

I spoke to one of my work colleagues, and spoke about my youth day coming up. As I was speaking with my colleague, I had to listen carefully to what was said. I could sense that my colleague was quite down, and I had to remind her always to be positive Your thoughts can control your destiny! If you are not careful, you can fall into the trap of being judgmental, because of the way you ‘perceived’ someone to me. This is another reason why certain people do not open up. Most people assume that when they do open up, they will be judged or looked down at. I know it is not easy to open up, because I have been there, but it does not give you any right to cover up your faults and expose another’s just to feel secure or ‘comfortable. In every situation, the truth will come out and eventually, will set you free! Let us be considerate towards others, particularly those that do not know Christ yet, or have not been brought up in a Christian home.

As representatives of Christ, we must always remind ourselves that we are the light of the world, and that we need to shine our light onto everybody we meet. Even a smile is a sign of ACCEPTANCE. I love it! Smiling can really make someone’s day…try it to someone and see if they smile back! I guarantee they will! Nevertheless, if you know in your heart, you are sincere with yourself that you do not want to be judged, then do not judge others…(Matthew 7 verse 1). In other words, when you judge others, you are exposing your hidden sin and bringing it into the light. When you expose the truth and people are reminded of their inter-self  or their dark side, they try to ignore it.  Also, it exposes their true heart to others around them. This makes them feel very uneasy. So they will try to justify themselves by quoting pieces of scripture no matter how far out of context it is.

How Judging Relates To Unbelievers

From a societal point of view, it is very easy to judge based on appearance or even popularity. We must remember that before we judge people, let us look deeply within ourselves before opening our mouths.

When a Christian lovingly and graciously presents the gospel to unbelievers, a judgment is made regarding their standing with God. The Bible clearly declares that all men are sinners, have fallen short of the glory of God, and are in need of redemption from their sins (Romans 3 verse 23). This judgment is not made from the opinion of the Christian who is presenting the gospel but rather by what the Bible clearly declares. Please understand the difference between the two carefully. Let us always remember that we are helping people based on the Word of God.

The claim that Christians are not to judge is often made when dealing with issues such as abortion, adultery, homosexual behavior, and same-sex marriage. When a Christian says, for example, that homosexual behavior is a sin and that same-sex marriage is wrong, he or she is often met with objections like the following:

  • “Who are you to judge two people who love each other?”
  • “Who do you think you are, telling someone who they can and cannot love? You’re a sinner, too!”
  • “Someone’s private life is none of your business. Don’t judge them.”

Some people will even quote Matthew 7 verse 1, where Christ said during the Sermon on the Mount, “Judge not, that you will not be judge. Of course, when they quote this verse in regard to such situations, they take it out of context to support their own point of view(s). When we consider the concept of judging, especially as it relates to the Sermon on the Mount, Christ tells us to be discerning, not condemning.

There are significant logical problems with the claim that believers should not make judgments. The first becomes evident when we read the context of Matthew 7 verse 1. (Stated above). Most of us, particularly youth, fall into various things. But what help are we giving to them if we are judgmental? It could be that they did not have a good upbringing; we will never truly know what one is going through in their lives, but it should at least give us an opportunity to encourage them to keep going.

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We are called to judge righteously and it should be a part of biblical discernment in every believer’s thinking. But it is God’s Word that makes the judgment on morality and truth, not our own opinions or theories. This means that believers should examine their own lives regularly and also lovingly challenge Christian brothers and sisters who are in error. To do this, believers must be bold for Christ, but they also have to be humble, loving, and kind.On behalf of the Women’s Worth Conference Group, we encourage you to keep these things in mind as you strive daily to maintain unity in the truth of Christ (John 17 verse 20-26).


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God is still Faithful even in your ‘current mess’

We have a God of 2nd, 3rd, 4th chances! We have a Father who loves us SO MUCH that does not remember our faults. It’s so interesting how sometimes, we as believers can criticize ourselves because of something we done recently. We put labels on ourselves saying: “I can’t be used by God”, “I am too dirty”, “I am so lazy, and I can’t be bothered to get up”. It does happen. But do you know that God can even bless you even when you sin? A sermon from Bishop TD Jakes spoke about a powerful message regarding favor. The sermon is called “Favor Aint Fair”. (Please watch at your own convenience). This sermon has taught me that in this life, no matter what position you have, how anointed you are, how messed up you are, how much money you earn, God is not a respecter of man and can bless ANYONE AT ANY TIME!

Yes you heard that this girl did something bad, or that boy was selling drugs, but how about you though? How about what you did the last week? You see, what I am trying to explain is that we are so quick to look at somebody else’s faults, when you have got your own. In reference, Matthew 7 verse 3 says: “Why do you stare from without at the very small particle that is in your brother’s eye but do not become aware of and consider the beam of timber that is in your own eye?”. Why do we do it, honestly? Can you ask yourself this question. Sometimes unconsciously, we can make these mistakes by focusing too much on somebody else’s faults that we forget that we are in the same position as the other.

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I reflect back on the things I did, and say “Oh Lord I wish I did not do it”, but the deed is done. You cannot change what you have done in your past, but you can change your NOW and your TOMORROW! God can give you that promotion you have been praying for at that moment when you are indulging in your sin. He can bless that boy who is selling cocaine to make a living. What you can do however to feel pure again is to confess your sins to the Lord and ask Him for His forgiveness in your life. Do not condemn or compare yourself to others saying “God cannot use me”. If He uses Rahab the harlot in the bible, of course He can use you too! Do not put limits on what God can do. He is still Faithful even in your situations.


Maybe we could sum it up like this:

God has demonstrated His past faithfulness to give us a foundation for our Faith. Now show God your Faith, and He will show you His faithfulness, not because you have earned it, but because you have put yourself in a position to see it. Alternatively:

  • Pray big.
  • Dream big.
  • Take BIG STEPS of Faith.

Because of how you have seen God’s faithfulness in the past, and because you want to see Him show His faithfulness in ways you haven’t seen yet in the future. Just a brief reminder: If you feel like you have done something so bad, do NOT keep it in. Tell somebody you trust about it. Your current mess should not control you, and the only way you can stop it from controlling you, is when you open up. You are not alone. We are all in this together. Remember that Iron sharpens Iron, so in that context, we need to help one another in their mess, as they will return the favour when you need it. You never know what may crop up, so be ready to open up and be a blessing to someone. In fact, expressing your pain or hurt to another person can actually open doors of blessing. You may not realise it now, but you are making that other person realise that you are not any better, so it makes them feel good about themselves that they are on their level of fault, in and turn will not feel condemned.


The way you treat your family is a reflection of the way you treat GOD.

Greetings. I want to talk to you about attitude. We all have attitudes…some good, some bad. Nevertheless, it is your attitude that will shape your character that will reveal your true identity. A few weeks ago, I was reflecting on how I treat my family. I love them so much, God knows I do. But they are just words. How about putting the action into it. The way you treat your family, in particular your parents as they are the head of you, you are also treating God that way.

If you do not acknowledge your parents now whilst you are young, do you think it will get any better when you grow older. We are aware that God never changes which is very good for us, however, why not make a decision to change the way you treat your loved ones? The way we treat our family should be reflected through our attitude towards them. We can appreciate our family by cleaning the house once in a while, by greeting them every blessed morning and saying goodnight to them, praying for them and buying unexpected gifts. All these things bring Glory to God’s Name and He is pleased with it.

It says in Ephesians 6 verse 1 that “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, as His representatives, for this is just and right”. Why should we obey our parents? Because God commanded it. Not only that, but as we continue to obey them, our future kids will also obey us. I do not believe any woman who is reading this message would want their kids to disrespect them. We must ensure that we are doing the right thing at the right time towards our family. Sometimes, you can sense when a loved one is full of pain, heartache, stress, financial difficulty etc. Do you want to keep adding your own pain to theirs? Of course not. I am aware that most mothers do their children’s laundry. That is alright, but once in a while, you could take over. You could even cook them a meal or buy them a take-away. Any little thing you do, they will appreciate it! Yes some have not been brought up from a good background, and I understand that, however, for those that have been brought up well, treat your family well. For those that haven’t, do the same if though the pain may still be in your heart.


Imagine waking up every morning to a sorrowful father, a weeping mother, a lonely sister or a bullied brother. They are constantly nagging you day in a day out. It can be upsetting. It feels like you are not doing your role properly. But God sees your heart and He understands everything. So instead of trying to figure out everything on your own, pray to God for STRENGTH, peace and guidance of the mouth. When our loved ones upset us, we can be so tempted to talk back, but show some respect and keep your mouth zipped. Do not allow the anger to control you, instead you control your own anger.

Remember that tomorrow is NOT promised, but because of God’s GRACE we can face tomorrow! Treat your family well now! Do not wait until it’s too late. We have to continue to acknowledge their existence. It may hurt at times when they do provoke us (which they do), but has it occurred to you that you could also be the cause of them provoking you? Maybe you said something that hurt your fathers feelings, or you spoke back at your mother whilst she was talking to you/ How about when you gave your sister the silent treatment when she was trying to see if you are alright, or your brother that wanted some company because he felt insecure about his GCSE grades. All these things happen, it is natural. But YOU can make a big difference. As you are treating your family well, you are also treating God well, and once He sees the motive of your heart, He will bless you in unexpected ways. Do not wait until something terrible happens before you start appreciating your loved ones.

APPRECIATE THEM NOW! Mark this day on the 20th June 2014 that Esther kindly advised the woman who is reading this message to treat your family well and enjoy every moment with them! 🙂

Have a great day.

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