Learn to appreciate and celebrate others when they doing good, rather than judging them and spotting their issues. I believe there is more than one space in Heaven for every one of us, so pull your brethren up and help them get to that level. No one is perfect, no one is pure, and nobody is holy. We are all striving to be righteous, and be like Christ! Love thy neighbor as yourself and even love your enemies and those lower than you and God will uplift you. Remember you are not free until you have no reason to impress anyone, even with your salvation, so continue to strive on impressing God and not man. Having said that, it is very important that we do not downgrade anybody because of what we hear, see or perceive.
When we judge others, or we have a conception in our heart’s towards them, it is a reflection of the way you are. So for example, if you judge somebody based on what you have ‘heard’, it shows that you are as just the same as that person you are judging. Do you think it is right to judge another just to make yourself feel good? Some people judge because of fear…fear of not being loved, chosen, accepted, cared for etc. This is why relationships with family and friends are broken. We need to realise that our words have so much power in them! As Women of God, we must strive to ensure that we uplift and elevate one another, and not condemn. (In reference to Matthew 7 verse 1-5). Can you ask yourself this question: “Why am I being so judgmental”. The way you treat people behind the scenes will reflect towards your future in the open.
James 4 verse 11-12: “Do not speak evil against one another. The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother (or sister), speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge. There is only one lawgiver and judge, He who is able to save and to destroy. But who are you to judge your neighbor?”. And really it is true…who are WE to judge our neighbor? He that overestimates himself is classified as a fool, but he who humbles himself in the presence of God is wise. We cannot expect to be representatives of Christ if we keep pointing fingers.
I spoke to one of my work colleagues, and spoke about my youth day coming up. As I was speaking with my colleague, I had to listen carefully to what was said. I could sense that my colleague was quite down, and I had to remind her always to be positive Your thoughts can control your destiny! If you are not careful, you can fall into the trap of being judgmental, because of the way you ‘perceived’ someone to me. This is another reason why certain people do not open up. Most people assume that when they do open up, they will be judged or looked down at. I know it is not easy to open up, because I have been there, but it does not give you any right to cover up your faults and expose another’s just to feel secure or ‘comfortable. In every situation, the truth will come out and eventually, will set you free! Let us be considerate towards others, particularly those that do not know Christ yet, or have not been brought up in a Christian home.
As representatives of Christ, we must always remind ourselves that we are the light of the world, and that we need to shine our light onto everybody we meet. Even a smile is a sign of ACCEPTANCE. I love it! Smiling can really make someone’s day…try it to someone and see if they smile back! I guarantee they will! Nevertheless, if you know in your heart, you are sincere with yourself that you do not want to be judged, then do not judge others…(Matthew 7 verse 1). In other words, when you judge others, you are exposing your hidden sin and bringing it into the light. When you expose the truth and people are reminded of their inter-self or their dark side, they try to ignore it. Also, it exposes their true heart to others around them. This makes them feel very uneasy. So they will try to justify themselves by quoting pieces of scripture no matter how far out of context it is.
How Judging Relates To Unbelievers
From a societal point of view, it is very easy to judge based on appearance or even popularity. We must remember that before we judge people, let us look deeply within ourselves before opening our mouths.
When a Christian lovingly and graciously presents the gospel to unbelievers, a judgment is made regarding their standing with God. The Bible clearly declares that all men are sinners, have fallen short of the glory of God, and are in need of redemption from their sins (Romans 3 verse 23). This judgment is not made from the opinion of the Christian who is presenting the gospel but rather by what the Bible clearly declares. Please understand the difference between the two carefully. Let us always remember that we are helping people based on the Word of God.
The claim that Christians are not to judge is often made when dealing with issues such as abortion, adultery, homosexual behavior, and same-sex marriage. When a Christian says, for example, that homosexual behavior is a sin and that same-sex marriage is wrong, he or she is often met with objections like the following:
- “Who are you to judge two people who love each other?”
- “Who do you think you are, telling someone who they can and cannot love? You’re a sinner, too!”
- “Someone’s private life is none of your business. Don’t judge them.”
Some people will even quote Matthew 7 verse 1, where Christ said during the Sermon on the Mount, “
Judge not, that you will not be judge. Of course, when they quote this verse in regard to such situations, they take it out of context to support their own point of view(s). When we consider the concept of judging, especially as it relates to the Sermon on the Mount, Christ tells us to be discerning, not condemning.
There are significant logical problems with the claim that believers should not make judgments. The first becomes evident when we read the context of Matthew 7 verse 1. (Stated above). Most of us, particularly youth, fall into various things. But what help are we giving to them if we are judgmental? It could be that they did not have a good upbringing; we will never truly know what one is going through in their lives, but it should at least give us an opportunity to encourage them to keep going.
We are called to judge righteously and it should be a part of biblical discernment in every believer’s thinking. But it is God’s Word that makes the judgment on morality and truth, not our own opinions or theories. This means that believers should examine their own lives regularly and also lovingly challenge Christian brothers and sisters who are in error. To do this, believers must be bold for Christ, but they also have to be humble, loving, and kind.On behalf of the Women’s Worth Conference Group, we encourage you to keep these things in mind as you strive daily to maintain unity in the truth of Christ (John 17 verse 20-26).