Unfortunately we do live in a superficial world where people do judge on appearance. We would all love to say that we are not in the majority, and that we all look beyond what’s on the outside, but virtually all of us are influenced by appearances.
Yet, we need to keep appearance in perspective. The Bible tells us that it is important to present ourselves as nicely as possible, but God does not call us to go to extremes. It is important that we remain aware of why we do the things we do to look good. Ask yourself two questions:
- Does your focus on your appearance take your eyes off the Lord?
- Are you more focused on your weight, clothes, or makeup than you are on God?
So which one do you believe in your opinion is important? Research shows that the majority of us women focus more on outward appearance, relative to inward appearance. Now lets compare it to what the Bible says:
1 Peter 3 v 3-4: “Do not let your adorning be external – the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear, but let your adorning be in the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious”.
I believe from my own understanding the pressure society throws at us to ‘look good’ particularly as we are coming towards the summer season, the majority of us women want to tone, eat well, sleep well, take care of their skin, cut down on fatty foods etc, which is good; I personally do agree with all these things, however, when we stress about how we look, for example:
- Our skin: “I don’t want any spots!”
Our body: “Ahhhh! I’am putting on weight!”
Our hair: “My hair is so disgusting! I’m just gonna cut it all off”
The amount of food we consume could be the cause of us breaking out on our faces. Not only that, but over-thinking about several situations can also be another cause of women putting emphasis on outer beauty. But what you need to realise is that, your inner beauty must also count! If you do not work on your attitude, your personality, your inner being, it could be the cause of a bad personality and can have an affect on your outward look. The way you treat somebody else, will indicate how someone will treat you! So if you treat someone with disrespect, expect to receive that in return!
“I’ve noticed a trend among women. On Facebook and in conversations with girls, I’ve heard girls embrace feminine liberation and tell us that they’re beautiful no matter how they look”.
This statement I can honestly agree with. Most women are not too concerned about how they look on the outside only, they are also trying to work on their inner-beauty. Once you can work on your inner-beauty, your outer beauty will gradually blossom.
From a male point of view, one would assume that they prefer outer beauty to inner beauty, but how would you really know the difference? It is through your ‘attitude’ and your ‘worth’. You need to know how valuable you are to God! Remember this conference group is about KNOWING YOUR WORTH: BE A PROVERBS 31 WOMAN: “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman that fears the Lord is worthy to be praised”. God is not a man that He will accept you if you wear more make-up, or lose weight or plans to eat more healthily, He loves you just as you are!!! When you continue to remind yourself of this, you will have less time worrying or stressing over how you look, rather you will gradually develop on your inner beauty which is what God looks at consistently.
Encourage yourself today! Look into the mirror and say “I AM BEAUTIFUL!”. Keep saying it until you believe it! Your inner beauty matters a lot, not only to yourself, but to God! The Bible tells us that we need to take a different approach to appearance than fitting into society’s idea of beauty.
But Trustworthy People Look Good?
Do they always? Outward appearance is not the best way to judge how “good” a person is. One example is Ted Bundy. He was a very handsome man who, in the 1970s, murdered woman after woman before he was caught. He was an effective serial killer, because he was very charming and good-looking. People like Ted Bundy serve to remind us that what is on the outside does not always match the inside.
Bottom Line: Look closer to your heart rather than your appearance!