Your past is preparing you for your future. You may not see it now, but it is a mystery/gradual process that is soon to be revealed! Do not classify your past as your identity. In the Bible, it says in Philippians 3 verse 13-14; “I do not consider brethren, that I have captured and made it my own yet, but one thing I do [it is my one aspiration]: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead. (14) I press on toward the goal to win the supreme and heavenly prize to which God in Christ Jesus is calling us upward”.
At times, it can be very easy to dwell on the past and blame yourself because you feel that you are not in the right place, and nothing is working to your favor. Other times it can lead to self-pity which is not good at all and takes us away from Gods presence. I was guilty of doing that few years back, and it was just giving the enemy the opportunity to use my past against me. We also need to be aware that opening up towards others about our past can really make a big difference. I remember when I had my first breakthrough in 2012 at Salem Kent. One of the leaders spoke to me and said that I was holding a lot of things in, and it was true because at that time, I did not feel a sense of belonging to anyone, and could not vent my feelings about what I had been going through. Instead, he told me to study Ephesians 6 (the whole chapter; you can read that at your own convenience). The majority of us women would predict at least approximately 85% wouldn’t just open up to anyone, whether the person is close to you or not.
Some of the reasons could be due to the following (also from my own experiences):
- Lack of trust; because you told someone who you thought would stick by you and not judge you.
- Fear; worried about what other people will perceive/label you by, or what they may say/think about you.
- Pride; sometimes we do not want to open up because we want to ‘maintain our reputation’ towards our friends.
- Loneliness; can be one of the most painful moments in ones life, particularly if the person is too condemning.
- Pressure from friends and society; it is evident that most of us females usually feel pressure from society and what is going on in the world e.g. celebrities, following trends etc.
I have not been too keen on opening up to people. I usually say to myself that I do not have one best friend, but I classify God as my best friend just because He is the definition of that Word, and anyone that knows me well would understand why. A best friend from my own definition is somebody who will stand by you in the good and the bad, will still love you regardless of what you have done in your past, will not change their perception about you, will not look down on you, and will constantly to pick you up when you fall. I know that no human being on this earth would do the same because people’s feelings will change based on how you treat them, however, apart from our God, He promises us in His word that He will never leave us nor forsake us!
You can decide to be free from your past, or you can allow your past to control your thoughts and your words. A dearest friend said to me this week that ‘you need to walk in Faith and NOT IN FEAR’, because fear can empower the past against you if you are not careful. Please also bare in mind that your past can be used for a good cause to MOTIVATE others because I believe we can learn from one another. This is why we are here on this earth.
2 Corinthians 5 verse 17: “Therefore if any person is ingrafted in Christ (the Messiah) he is a new creation (a new creature altogether); the old previous moral and spiritual condition has passed away. Behold the fresh and new has come. You are a new creation”…YES YOU! You better believe it! We all learn from our past, and eventually, it does make us better individuals.
Remember that Jesus Christ died for your sins, as well as your past sins; His death was not in vain. He loves you SO MUCH, and He wants you to enjoy your life to the fullest! (Jeremiah 29 verse 11). Even though we are released from the bondage of sin, we can still choose to wallow in it and act as though we are not freed from it. Likewise, with guilty feelings, this is where as stated before, you give the enemy the opportunity to control your mind, and stay in that guilt assuming that God has not forgiven you from your past sins, because you have given the enemy power over you.
The Bible says that when God forgives us, He “remembers our sins no more” (Jeremiah 31:34). This does not mean that the all-knowing God forgets because He forgives us. Rather, He chooses not to bring up our sin to Himself or others. When our former sins come to mind, we can choose to dwell upon them (with the result of feeling guilty or even trapped), or we can choose to fill our minds with positive thoughts of the Word of our awesome God who forgave us. (Philippians 4:8). Remembering our sins is only beneficial when it reminds us of the extent of God’s forgiveness and makes it easier for us to forgive others. (Matthew 18:21-35).
Some of us may not only just struggle with unforgiveness, it may be immorality, gossip, jealousy, envy, and many other limitations that is pulling you away from God. Remember your past should always enable you to forgive yourself and others around you. Imagine someone that you are SO ANGRY WITH, and you did not forgive that person. The next day you find out that they are no more. How would you honestly feel? I pray that every one who is reading this message will not fall into that category. Our forgiveness towards ourselves and others should remind us of the great Saviour who forgave us, drawing us closer to Him by His blood in loving obedience to Him.
1 Corinthians 10 verse 13: “For no temptation, no trial regarded as enticing to sin, no matter how it comes or where it leads has overtaken you and laid hold on you that is not common to man; that is no temptation or trial has come to you that is beyond human resistance and that is not adjusted and adapted and belonging to human experience, and as such as man can bear. But God is Faithful to His Word and to His compassionate nature, and He can be trusted not to let you be tempted, tried and assayed beyond your ability and strength of resistance, and power to endure, but with the temptation He will always also provide the way out (the means of escape to a landing place) that you may be capable, strong and powerful to bear up under it patiently”.
To conclude, our past should enable us to “fearlessly, confidently and boldly draw near to the throne of Grace (the throne of God’s unmerited favor to us sinners) that we may receive mercy for our failures and find grace to help in good time for every need appropriate and help, and well-timed help, coming just when we need it”. If you are still struggling with your past, consult God FIRST! He should be your first point of contact! Yes it is very easy to go to a family member, a friend, a spouse for comfort and companionship, but it is highly recommended to speak to God first before anyone else. There are some conversations that you can have with God alone, and not need to consult anyone else. Other times, God will use people around you, and people you do not even expect to give you a Word uses them to bless you which He has already confirmed in your heart!
So ladies, from me to you; LET GO OF THE PAST; IT DOES NOT DEFINE WHO YOU ARE!
For your consideration, if you would like to talk to about your past, or is struggling with anything in particular, you can email me on ‘firstname.lastname@example.org’ and I shall get back to you as soon as possible. Alternatively, you can post anything that you feel led to do on the ‘Prayer Request’ page on my blog, and I will be happy to pray with you 🙂
God bless you for reading!