Your Past!

Your past is preparing you for your future. You may not see it now, but it is a mystery/gradual process that is soon to be revealed! Do not classify your past as your identity. In the Bible, it says in Philippians 3 verse 13-14; “I do not consider brethren, that I have captured and made it my own yet, but one thing I do [it is my one aspiration]: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead. (14) I press on toward the goal to win the supreme and heavenly prize to which God in Christ Jesus is calling us upward”.

At times, it can be very easy to dwell on the past and blame yourself because you feel that you are not in the right place, and nothing is working to your favor. Other times it can lead to self-pity which is not good at all and takes us away from Gods presence. I was guilty of doing that few years back, and it was just giving the enemy the opportunity to use my past against me. We also need to be aware that opening up towards others about our past can really make a big difference. I remember when I had my first breakthrough in 2012 at Salem Kent. One of the leaders spoke to me and said that I was holding a lot of things in, and it was true because at that time, I did not feel a sense of belonging to anyone, and could not vent my feelings about what I had been going through. Instead, he told me to study Ephesians 6 (the whole chapter; you can read that at your own convenience). The majority of us women would predict at least approximately 85% wouldn’t just open up to anyone, whether the person is close to you or not.

Some of the reasons could be due to the following (also from my own experiences):

  • Lack of trust; because you told someone who you thought would stick by you and not judge you.
  • Fear; worried about what other people will perceive/label you by, or what they may say/think about you.
  • Pride; sometimes we do not want to open up because we want to ‘maintain our reputation’ towards our friends.
  • Loneliness; can be one of the most painful moments in ones life, particularly if the person is too condemning.
  • Pressure from friends and society; it is evident that most of us females usually feel pressure from society and what is going on in the world e.g. celebrities, following trends etc.

I have not been too keen on opening up to people. I usually say to myself that I do not have one best friend, but I classify God as my best friend just because He is the definition of that Word, and anyone that knows me well would understand why. A best friend from my own definition is somebody who will stand by you in the good and the bad, will still love you regardless of what you have done in your past, will not change their perception about you, will not look down on you, and will constantly to pick you up when you fall. I know that no human being on this earth would do the same because people’s feelings will change based on how you treat them, however, apart from our God, He promises us in His word that He will never leave us nor forsake us!

You can decide to be free from your past, or you can allow your past to control your thoughts and your words. A dearest friend said to me this week that ‘you need to walk in Faith and NOT IN FEAR’, because fear can empower the past against you if you are not careful. Please also bare in mind that your past can be used for a good cause to MOTIVATE others because I believe we can learn from one another. This is why we are here on this earth.

2 Corinthians 5 verse 17: “Therefore if any person is ingrafted in Christ (the Messiah) he is a new creation (a new creature altogether); the old previous moral and spiritual condition has passed away. Behold the fresh and new has come. You are a new creation”…YES YOU! You better believe it! We all learn from our past, and eventually, it does make us better individuals.

Remember that Jesus Christ died for your sins, as well as your past sins; His death was not in vain. He loves you SO MUCH, and He wants you to enjoy your life to the fullest! (Jeremiah 29 verse 11). Even though we are released from the bondage of sin, we can still choose to wallow in it and act as though we are not freed from it. Likewise, with guilty feelings, this is where as stated before, you give the enemy the opportunity to control your mind, and stay in that guilt assuming that God has not forgiven you from your past sins, because you have given the enemy power over you.

The Bible says that when God forgives us, He “remembers our sins no more” (Jeremiah 31:34). This does not mean that the all-knowing God forgets because He forgives us. Rather, He chooses not to bring up our sin to Himself or others. When our former sins come to mind, we can choose to dwell upon them (with the result of feeling guilty or even trapped), or we can choose to fill our minds with positive thoughts of the Word of our awesome God who forgave us. (Philippians 4:8). Remembering our sins is only beneficial when it reminds us of the extent of God’s forgiveness and makes it easier for us to forgive others. (Matthew 18:21-35).

Some of us may not only just struggle with unforgiveness, it may be immorality, gossip, jealousy, envy, and many other limitations that is pulling you away from God. Remember your past should always enable you to forgive yourself and others around you. Imagine someone that you are SO ANGRY WITH, and you did not forgive that person. The next day you find out that they are no more. How would you honestly feel? I pray that every one who is reading this message will not fall into that category. Our forgiveness towards ourselves and others should remind us of the great Saviour who forgave us, drawing us closer to Him by His blood in loving obedience to Him.

1 Corinthians 10 verse 13: “For no temptation, no trial regarded as enticing to sin, no matter how it comes or where it leads has overtaken you and laid hold on you that is not common to man; that is no temptation or trial has come to you that is beyond human resistance and that is not adjusted and adapted and belonging to human experience, and as such as man can bear. But God is Faithful to His Word and to His compassionate nature, and He can be trusted not to let you be tempted,  tried and assayed beyond your ability and strength of resistance, and power to endure, but with the temptation He will always also provide the way out (the means of escape to a landing place) that you may be capable, strong and powerful to bear up under it patiently”.

To conclude, our past should enable us to “fearlessly, confidently and boldly draw near to the throne of Grace (the throne of God’s unmerited favor to us sinners) that we may receive mercy for our failures and find grace to help in good time for every need appropriate and help, and well-timed help, coming just when we need it”. If you are still struggling with your past, consult God FIRST! He should be your first point of contact! Yes it is very easy to go to a family member, a friend, a spouse for comfort and companionship, but it is highly recommended to speak to God first before anyone else. There are some conversations that you can have with God alone, and not need to consult anyone else. Other times, God will use people around you, and people you do not even expect to give you a Word uses them to bless you which He has already confirmed in your heart!

So ladies, from me to you; LET GO OF THE PAST; IT DOES NOT DEFINE WHO YOU ARE!

For your consideration, if you would like to talk to about your past, or is struggling with anything in particular, you can email me on ‘’ and I shall get back to you as soon as possible. Alternatively, you can post anything that you feel led to do on the ‘Prayer Request’ page on my blog, and I will be happy to pray with you 🙂

God bless you for reading!

Your past

The Power Of Perception

Following my last post in regards to being quiet at times, we also need to be aware of the way in which we think about certain situations. It is so important to know who God is in your life! How can you have God and not win? That is impossible. In all things, having God can make anything possible, particularly when God is for you. Nobody can be against you when you are a Child of God! (Romans 8 verse 31).

Wisdom also comes from the way we think and perceive certain things to me. In James 1 verse 5, it says “If any of you is deficient in wisdom, let him ask of the giving God, who gives to everyone liberally and ungrudgingly, without reproaching or faultfinding, and it will be given him”.

It is indeed a natural habitat to be blessed because you ARE SUPPOSED TO BE BLESSED! But blessings comes with a positive mindset! You cannot draw strength from people around you, because some people may not like it when you go up another level. Jesus Himself performed several miracles on the Sabbath day, and yet the Jews and Pharisees did not like the fact that He healed people on that specific day. (In reference to Luke 14 v 3 and Matthew 12 v 1-14; you can read more of these scriptures in greater detail). Why did they question Him? Because their mindset was set negatively towards Jesus, that was the main reason why. In other words, Jesus had haters, however that did not stop Him from fulfilling His destiny! Sometimes you need to continue being positive despite the enemies that are surrounding you! In other words, Jesus was Himself, and never changed for anyone! Let this be a reminder to NEVER change for anyone regardless of your situation(s). You have to position your mindset positively, when troubles comes your way. It may seem crazy or weird to smile through pain, but that is the best way you can endure it!

We need to realise that God is a miracle worker, but we also need to strongly understand that God can only work miracles according to the level of your Faith! Not only that, but how you perceive your current circumstances; what you are going through, are they enabling you to be better, or become bitter? Is your painful moments enabling you to Praise God even when you do not want to, or is it drawing you closer to God to trust Him that He will see you through! He said in His Word that when we pass through the waters, He shall be there for us! You need to have FAITH to believe that He has the BEST plan for you! God will not draw you into certain dilemmas if He wouldn’t pull you out. If He doesn’t meet your needs, you should still be able to Praise Him anyway! Do not wait for God to open up the floodgates of Heaven, and pour you out a blessing, then you ‘decide’ to praise Him according to the way He works. All you have to remember is that what He done before in your past, He will do it again for your future!

It can also be very sad when people are offended by you doing well…IT HAPPENS! Jesus Himself marveled at the reaction He got from his own folks. It can be so painful when God blesses you, and your neighbor is secretly hating on you! What do you do when situations like this occur in your life!? Moreover, how can you be offended by someone who is smart, wise and functional? Do you choose to hate them just because they put in the hard work, and complain/compare yourself with them? That should not be the case…Some people can be limited because of their past experiences with people. They keep holding onto the past thinking that there isn’t any future for them. You should not be too quick to take offence when a situation arises because people are exposed to opportunities and do not use them, and eventually get offended about everything. Other times, it can just be pure laziness! This is why you ought to CHANGE YOUR PERCEPTION, because when you limit your thinking, you are more inclined to jump into conclusions, and is too lazy to think it through.

It takes effort to be a good thinker. God gives us all opportunities but we have to use them wisely. Sometimes, we can easily blow our opportunities away because we tend to have bad perceptions. Perceptions are so powerful. It is believed that all humanity fell because of ‘false perception’ (In reference to Adam and Eve). When Satan tempted Eve to eat the fruit off the tree, and God told her not to, she was hesitant not to do it, but in the end, she gave in to the enemy and ate it! This is why we should resist the enemy, and He will flee from you (James 4 verse 7).

When your perception changes, nobody can:

  • Hold you
  • Stop you
  • Limit you
  • Bound you

You therefore move, function and act differently from others around you, and they will see something different in you that is not in them, and potentially they will follow your footsteps! How great it will be for you to be a leader! Take this situation for example:

      “Church is like a gas station…you are purchasing more fuel to continue your car journey to your chosen destination”.

God cannot do great works if you are always negative or lack Faith. Because of your perception, you could be missing miracles and an opportunity to be valued. In other words, if you don’t expect much, you don’t get much!

  • People who value what they have, get TWICE as much as people who become common with what they got.

Wonder what would happen in your life if you would CHANGE YOUR PERCEPTION. Take two people for example A & B; both have the same God, the problem is not with the vessel, but their perception towards it! You should grab every opportunity you can and do not assume that you may not be blessed by it! This was a problem for me in my past as I would assume that I won’t get what I desired. When you perceive Gods presence as an opportunity, God will show you GREAT AND MIGHTY THINGS, only when your perception is CORRECT!

You need to tell your enemies that they should NOT get an attitude when you are kicking up your ‘A Game’! You don’t have time to waste your opportunity to fit in with people! You should not have time to gossip or play games, or be around narrow-minded people, or live your life in a box, or go and play church. When you get around negative-minded people, you will have a negative outcome of everything that comes your way. You may not realise it now, but it starts from your mind!

At times, I tend to listen carefully to what my friends are talking about, and how they are going to be beneficial to me or or not. Sometimes, you will know how far you are going in life, but what you are your neighbor is talking about, because really and truly, you are getting what you are thinking.

God will not force you to believe in Him. Its a choice that you have to make for yourself! Its all about your perception. If you don’t want anything, you won’t get nothing.There is nothing too hard for our Daddy, if we truly believe! I do not know about you, but the God I serve can say and do anything. This is evident when He said with His mouth ‘let there be light’, and there was light. (Genesis 1 verse 3). If He blessed you before, you better believe that He can do it again because He does REPEAT PERFORMANCES! If He blesses you the last time, He will bless you again, because He changes not!

Your unbelief can affect your own blessings. You need to picture this in your mind: ‘You cannot work in an atmosphere where you are not perceived correctly’. Bare in mind that we individuals have ‘outdated perceptions’ – Its not that you are not aware of God being a miraculous person, it is because you are becoming familiar with the little that you ‘think’ He can do for your life.

If you try to become common with the people you lead, you lose your leverage to minister to them. When people get common with you, you therefore become like them. It may not happen in a day, but overtime, you will be imitating what they do, so in other words, ‘you are not using your position wisely’.

Are you getting signaled from a flawed perception? You need to appreciate every opportunity that passes you by, because your opportunities has an ‘EXPIRY DATE’. It passes by and does not hang around. We need to also be aware that God cannot work in an environment that has low perceptions, because your attitude determines the way God will move in your life.

How do you perceive every situation you go through? When you value that opportunity that is coming towards you, you will get it! Anything that you do not value will not entertain you.

In Jeremiah 33 verse 3, God says “Call to Me and I will answer you, and I will tell you great and mighty things, which you do not know”. Darkness must always give way to the light! If you have the Faith to call out and ask Him, you will find it, with the right PERCEPTION!Positivity


Sometimes You Have To Be Quiet!

Our mouths can at times get us trouble if we are not careful. There is power in what you say. When you speak a word, you are sowing a seed; a very small seed that has not yet grown. There are some words we say, however can not take it back. This is why we need to ensure that what we say must be from God. In reference to Proverbs 18 verse 24 it says “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in it shall eat the fruit of it [for death or life]”.

In other words, this is saying that whatever you confess or say with your mouth has meaning, and eventually can have power of you if you do not know how to control your words…For instance, you may have prayed and longed for something that you really believe will benefit you. When it does not seem like its heading your way, you tend to think or speak negative things such as “I know I am not going to get it”, “What is the use”, “I give up”. These words have already been on your mind before you said it. But I strongly believe that your words do start from your mind (another topic for another day).

Ephesians 4 verse 29 says “Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk ever come out of your mouth, but only such speech that is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God’s favor) to those who hear it”.

In life, certain situations will crop up to test you. They will try to see if you will retaliate or fight back. Most times, it can be from those we love. When they offend us, we are so tempted to talk back, so that we do not look as if we are the ‘weak’ one; other times we curse them without even knowing it. But one thought that came to my mind is that we can actually curse OURSELVES if we are not careful. Your words are the first point of self-curse. If you do not control your mouth, you are not only going to damage yourself, but others around you…YOU ARE WHAT YOU SPEAK! Remember there is a time to talk, and a time to keep quiet…

Individuals such as TD Jakes, Heather Lindsey, Joyce Meyer etc, they are well known powerful ministers. From what I believe, God has given them the ability to preach the Gospel, as well as encourage us in several ways through their sermons, conferences and their websites. I believe that because their thoughts were aligned to Gods thoughts, it is allowing them to prosper and excel up till now! Our words can determine our future! If you have any desire that you plan to fulfill, give it to the Lord in prayer…just because you may not see anything happening now does not mean it will not happen.

At times, your FAITH WILL BE TESTED to see whether you trust in God enough to HOLD ON to His promises, or try and do these things in your own strength (which from experience, can be draining)…we just need to be still and know that God watches over each and every one of us (Psalms 46 v 10). But you might say, its hard to wait for something that may not come to pass…wait a minute…the things you desire, have you consulted God about it? Is it something of His Will for you to have? What is your MOTIVE BEHIND HAVING IT?

The Lord looks at the heart! That is one of the ways God can test you…not only that but by what you say! Another example is talking about others…some of us assume that we are better than someone else because we have ABC, they don’t; I have a job, they don’t; I have, I have, I have…but have you noticed that not everybody’s blessing is the same and does come at the specific day you planned for it to come?! Gods timing is not your timing! Do not speak negatively over yourself, neither COMPARE yourself to anybody else because we are all UNIQUE in the eyes of God. 2 Corinthians 10 verse 12 says “Not that we have the audacity to venture to class, or even to compare ourselves with some who exalt and furnish testimonials for themselves! However, when they measure themselves with themselves, and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding and behave unwisely”. Not only that, but how you speak towards others can also have an impact on your own personal blessing and future positively and negatively.

When I read this scripture, it really hit me! At times, it can be soo easy to compare yourself to others; their skin, their body, their wealth, their family, their occupation, their finances etc…YES IT HAPPENS! However, apart from our minds, its our words that have so much power over these comparisons! If we continue to speak what others have and do not realise what you have already, you will not only gain what your hearts desires, but you are bringing grief to God…in all things BE CONTENT! My favourite saying is “IT COULD HAVE BEEN WORSE“, and really, it could have! Look at so many things that are happening in the world:

  • Child abuse
  • Human trafficking

  • Christians being persecuted in several countries

  • Kidnapping, killing and raping

  • Lack of resources such as food, clothing

  • Homelessness

  • Suicide

  • Loneliness and several more…


I do not want to go into great detail about all the above, but what I have to say to you is ‘watch your mouth!!’. Nevertheless, your mouth is a gift from God, but please let your words bring happiness towards someone else! Even though someone may hurt you, let us be wise not to curse them; when you do not get what you desire, do not say ‘it was not meant for me’. It wasn’t supposed to be for you initially because God knows BEST for you! He has His best interests at heart for your life! Jeremiah 29 verse 11: “For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give toy hope in your final outcome”.

Thank you for reading…please share with someone you know is struggling with their mouth.


References of Scriptures:

  • Proverbs 21 v 23: “He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from trouble”.
  • Proverbs 15 v 1: “A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger”.

  • Psalms 34 v 13: “Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceit”.

  • James 1 v 26: “If anyone thinks himself to be religious (piously observant of the external duties of his faith) and does not bridle his tongue, but deludes his own heart, this person’s religious service is worthless”.

  • – Proverbs 17 v 28: “Even a fool when he holds his peace is considered wise; when he closes his lips he is esteemed a man of understanding”. 

    – Matthew 15 v 11 “It is not what goes into the mouth of a man that makes him unclean and defiled, but what comes out of the mouth; this makes a man unclean and defiles him”.






    At times, it is easy to complain about certain situations you have been praying about; whether God has heard your cry or not. It can be hard to keep going. I have realised that you have to keep smiling! Not only smile, but you have to LAUGH OUT LOUD! When the enemy tries to deceive you or make you feel bad for something you done, LAUGH OUT LOUD!!! Sometimes people around you will not understand why you are laughing, but you and God know why! Let me give you a deeper understanding:

    • When things are not going the way you planned it; LAUGH OUT LOUD!
    • When your dreams are about to die; LAUGH OUT LOUD!

    • When an opportunity that you wanted closes on you; LAUGH OUT LOUD!

    • When you seem like you want to give up on someone or something; LAUGH OUT LOUD!

    It may seem quite strange to laugh at something so painful, but show the enemy that you are not going to give up! If you do not laugh, what else are you more likely to do? I’am assuming it is to cry…not saying that crying is a bad thing, but let it only be for a moment…

    Example of two people in the bible that ‘laughed out loud’:

    Lets refer to Abraham and Sarah in the bible. Sarah was 90 years old and Abraham was 100 years old. God told Abraham that he would have a child with Sarah…what did Abraham do? He LAUGHED OUT LOUD and thought it was not possible!! What happened in the end? He had a child and named him Isaac. Now if Abraham did not listen to God, and thought what God was saying was just a joke, he would not have been blessed with a child. Now we can see that through this situation, God made Abraham a GREAT NATION!

    You see, some things may seem impossible in the eyes of man because we ‘think’ we know what is best for us! We try to assume that we are good for one area, but not good in another. Nonetheless, when God says YES, no human being can say NO! You have to keep thinking positive and make it consistent!! Do not allow what others say to you dictate where you are right now, and where you are going in the near future, because you have a reliable Father that is directing your footpaths, knowingly and unknowingly!

    Sarah Laughs At The Promise

    Genesis 18 verses 10-12 “(10): God said; I will surely return to you at this time next year; and behold, Sarah your wife will have a son. And Sarah was listening at the tent door, which was behind Him. (11) Now Abraham and Sarah were old, well advanced in age; Sarah was past childbearing. (12) Therefore Sarah laughed to herself, saying, After I have become old, shall I have pleasure, my husband being old also?”

    If the devil was smart enough, he would have taken our lives a long time ago, but once you keep laughing out loud, and not letting the enemy get to you, then you will see the blessings of God in your lives! The devil is a liar!! He is the Father of all liars! Just keep repeating that, and you will find Peace and rest in your hearts. There is nothing too hard for God to do! Yes we say it, but we must put it in action; our Faith, our Hope, our Trust; it should all be in God! But in the meantime; LAUGH OUT LOUD!!!


    A few bible scriptures to ponder on:

    • Romans 4 verse 19: “He did not weaken in Faith when he considered the utter impotence of his own body which was as good as dead, because he was about a hundred years old, or when he considered the barrenness of Sarah’s womb”.
    • Hebrews 11 verse 11: “Because of Faith also, Sarah herself received physical power to conceive a child, even when she was long past the age for it, because she considered God who had given her the promise to be reliable and trustworthy and true to His Word”.
    • Genesis 17 verse 17: “Then Abraham fell on his face and laughed and said in his heart, Shall a child be born to a man who is a hundred years old? And shall Sarah, who is ninety years old, bear a Son?”.
    • Genesis 24 verse 1: “Now Abraham was old, well advanced in years, and the Lord had blessed Abraham in all things”.

    Keep the Faith ladies! No matter what comes your way! Know that God can change any situation around for you. It may seem impossible in the eyes on man, but when its from God, just know that it is POSSIBLE!

    God bless you and thank you for reading! 




    Daily Tips To Remember!

    Good morning ladies! I hope you are having a great day so far? Well for me, so far this year has been one of the best years, and I strongly hope that it will also be a good year for you too! We are coming towards June whoop whoop! Just remember that “IT WILL ONLY GET BETTER!!”. Always think positive and be a blessing to others around you! Remember to think about others more than yourself! Some daily tips to remember: 

    • Try not to retaliate when somebody hurts or upsets you.
    • Always allow God to have His way in your life. Do not try and do things in your own strength.

    • Remember to REMAIN HUMBLE in all you do. Do not boast or show off.

    • Know that everything in your life is for a season, whether good or bad.

    • Keep on thanking God daily. There are some people that are not as fortunate as you.

    • Do not complain about anything, instead pray about everything.

    • Know your worth; know your calling on this earth…we are not just here to fulfill our hearts desires, but the desires of God.

    • Be kind to those around you, those you know and do not know…you never know what one is going through.

    • Always seek for peace and happiness.